im an 18 yer old girl and im really embarased about being a virgin still. i know 18 isnt that old, but i feel like it is. i work in a cocktail bar and theres a guy there who really likes me and i stayed at his house lat week but we didnt have sex. i really want to have sex next time, but i dont want him to know im a virgin because im embarased about it. even though were not in a relationship i dont think ill regret losing it to him because i really like him and i know he likes me to. is it really bad not to tell him? will he be able to tell? the main reason im embarased about it because he is older than me (he's 25) and quite experienced, and so is everybody else in the bar. they treat sex as if it isnt a big deal because they've had quite a lot so it isnt to them. i dont think sex is a really big deal for me either but i feel like it should be mainly because of what i read on places like this where everyone is in a rleationship with people they love before they have sex. i really hate being a virgin and was actually considering slepeing with any gu just so i wasnt anymore, so having sex with this guy who at least i like and care about is a lot better than that.
please dont judge and jump to conclusions straight away, but i do want to hear what you all have to say (but i think i can guess what you will say already!)
you dont have to tell him your a virgin unless you feel you should/if he asks. you could just tell him your inexpienced instead of just spelling it out
Just tell him! everyone puts thier 'virginity' on a pedastal.... bloody hell, nd yeh hed probs like it that you were a virgin, i dnt get why tho?...but thats guys for you:P
It's just fun taking away your innocence, making you a women, making you want sex for the rest of your life, being the one that you remember for the rest of your life as the guy who took your virginity, and the one who made you come from sex first etc! (if he's any good lol, though first time is always crap to be fair, but still its the ideas that count haha)
you dont have to tell him your a virgin unless you feel you should/if he asks. you could just tell him your inexpienced instead of just spelling it out
Yeah, you could just say that... but don't make out you've had a lot and he can just go for it down there. Make sure he's careful.
He almost certainly knows anyway. It's a myth that everyone loses their virginity at 16, mainly brought about by surveys on which nearly everybody lies. Most girls I know aged 18-19 are quite obviously virgins.
It's just fun taking away your innocence, making you a women, making you want sex for the rest of your life, being the one that you remember for the rest of your life as the guy who took your virginity, and the one who made you come from sex first etc! (if he's any good lol, though first time is always crap to be fair, but still its the ideas that count haha)
Ha, is this the way guys view it? I was just as much a woman before I lost my virginity. For most girls, it's not their first time that makes them want sex for the rest of their life (if anything, it might put them off!). And I bet about 0.1% of girls come during their first time ...
Ha, is this the way guys view it? I was just as much a woman before I lost my virginity. For most girls, it's not their first time that makes them want sex for the rest of their life (if anything, it might put them off!). And I bet about 0.1% of girls come during their first time ...
The other points stand though.
True, but like i said its the idea of these rather than in practice :P. And by want sex, i mean that craving feeling you get after a few weeks without haha
Quick something else as well, one guy I knew who was most definatly sexually experianced, if it stood still long enough he tapped it, didnt lose his V til he was 21!! Really suprised me when he told me, considering I would have thought he was rampant since an early age, but apparently not. So he may well have been a virgin at 18 also, and will be much more considerate and gentle than if he expects you to know what your doing.
Tell him if you want to, but it's in no way necessary that you do. The idea that if you tell him you're a virgin then he will be gentler with you makes the assumption that he's going to be rough otherwise. If you set the pace right then I doubt he would be like that about it. If you think he's not taking any consideration as to whether you're experienced or not then feel free to tell him and I'm sure he'll take appropriate action. Personally, I don't think you need to make a big deal out of it at all, and if you tell him then it might hype it up for both him and you to the point where you get overly concerned with it being your first time, instead of just seeing what happens and enjoying it.
err and why not? it sounds like the op is set on sleeping with this guy so might as well skip the 'dont have sex just yet!' comments. op; you don't have to tell him anything unless he asked. my friend's boyfriend doesn't even know my friend was a virgin when they had sex if virginity really doesn't matter to you, i don't see why you should talk to him about it.