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How do I reach out to old friends on facebook?

Hi everyone,

I'm having a bit of a stressful time at Uni and I could really do with speaking to some old friends. So many before have said to me when I have got stressed that 'I'm always here if you need a chat' etc., but this was about two years ago. I haven't spoke since, and I am not sure if they still mean it were I to get in touch now asking to speak.

I have a condition that makes reaching out in this way quite difficult, as I get very anxious about it. Please could I have some advice?
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I guess when they post a photo or something you can comment on it then have a little catch up
Hey there,

Sorry to hear you are having a stressful time at uni. Do you mind me asking what's going on?

I think it's a great idea to reach out to some old friends and you never know they might be feeling stressed out too. My advice would be to contact people who you are genuinely interested to hear how they are, what they are up to and for companionship. Don't be solely motivated by sharing your stresses as it might seem you've only reached out because you need/want something from them and might make you seem quite negative. We all have stresses and bad days that are important to talk about but don't go straight in with 'oh hey, how are you,I'm super stressed meh'. Does that make sense?

Hope you start feeling better soon. :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone,

I'm having a bit of a stressful time at Uni and I could really do with speaking to some old friends. So many before have said to me when I have got stressed that 'I'm always here if you need a chat' etc., but this was about two years ago. I haven't spoke since, and I am not sure if they still mean it were I to get in touch now asking to speak.

I have a condition that makes reaching out in this way quite difficult, as I get very anxious about it. Please could I have some advice?
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Hey there,

Sorry to hear you are having a stressful time at uni. Do you mind me asking what's going on?

I think it's a great idea to reach out to some old friends and you never know they might be feeling stressed out too. My advice would be to contact people who you are genuinely interested to hear how they are, what they are up to and for companionship. Don't be solely motivated by sharing your stresses as it might seem you've only reached out because you need/want something from them and might make you seem quite negative. We all have stresses and bad days that are important to talk about but don't go straight in with 'oh hey, how are you,I'm super stressed meh'. Does that make sense?

Hope you start feeling better soon. :smile:

Exactly
Original post by nulogicsound
Hey there,

Sorry to hear you are having a stressful time at uni. Do you mind me asking what's going on?

I think it's a great idea to reach out to some old friends and you never know they might be feeling stressed out too. My advice would be to contact people who you are genuinely interested to hear how they are, what they are up to and for companionship. Don't be solely motivated by sharing your stresses as it might seem you've only reached out because you need/want something from them and might make you seem quite negative. We all have stresses and bad days that are important to talk about but don't go straight in with 'oh hey, how are you,I'm super stressed meh'. Does that make sense?

Hope you start feeling better soon. :smile:

I agree
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I want to reach out, but I have no confidence in doing so. :frown:
PM them and ask straight out if they fancy a catch up. Worst that can happen is they say no or ignore it.
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Can I just say something like 'Hi ____, how are you? Please can I talk to you - I am so stressed with reading at uni!' - or something like that. I got really depressed once before (a little similar to how I am feeling now, but I am not there again, yet) and many said things like 'i'm always here if you need a chat'. It is just that I have a condition that makes it hard for me to initiate conversations, particularly on social media. :frown:
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PM them and ask straight out if they fancy a catch up. Worst that can happen is they say no or ignore it.
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Can I just say something like 'Hi ____, how are you? Please can I talk to you - I am so stressed with reading at uni!' - or something like that. I got really depressed once before (a little similar to how I am feeling now, but I am not there again, yet) and many said things like 'i'm always here if you need a chat'. It is just that I have a condition that makes it hard for me to initiate conversations, particularly on social media. :frown:

I would probably avoid launching straight in with this. I would maybe start off by asking how they've been and what they are up to first. Then when they answer and ask you the same, you can say you are stressed.
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I would probably avoid launching straight in with this. I would maybe start off by asking how they've been and what they are up to first. Then when they answer and ask you the same, you can say you are stressed.


Thanks - I just struggle with this so much that I find it hard to do this. :frown:
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Can I just say something like 'Hi ____, how are you? Please can I talk to you - I am so stressed with reading at uni!' - or something like that. I got really depressed once before (a little similar to how I am feeling now, but I am not there again, yet) and many said things like 'i'm always here if you need a chat'. It is just that I have a condition that makes it hard for me to initiate conversations, particularly on social media. :frown:

It's hard to say because I don't know your friends. I don't even know if you and your friends are male or female :lol:
I think you need to work on yourself first. Your multiple consecutive posts indicate that you’re desperate, lonely and needy. I think people can sense that energy and it isn’t attractive.

Do things you enjoy and work on increasing your confidence. You’ll find the right way to contact them when the time is right.
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I think you need to work on yourself first. Your multiple consecutive posts indicate that you’re desperate, lonely and needy. I think people can sense that energy and it isn’t attractive.

Do things you enjoy and work on increasing your confidence. You’ll find the right way to contact them when the time is right.


Oh get lost. I'm not needy. If you had any idea how low I am feeling right now to be in this position then you wouldn't say such rubbish. I have a condition that makes socialising and reaching out difficult.
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I think you need to work on yourself first. Your multiple consecutive posts indicate that you’re desperate, lonely and needy. I think people can sense that energy and it isn’t attractive.

Do things you enjoy and work on increasing your confidence. You’ll find the right way to contact them when the time is right.


Huh? OP is anonymous?!
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Oh get lost. I'm not needy. If you had any idea how low I am feeling right now to be in this position then you wouldn't say such rubbish. I have a condition that makes socialising and reaching out difficult.


Why did you bump your post several times? Work on your confidence first and everything will fall into place. You’ll just end up saying the wrong things if you’re miserable and feeling lonely. I have social anxiety and I’ve been there. I wasn’t trying to be brutal.
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Huh? OP is anonymous?!


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