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so me and this guy have been together for 4 years and he has kids from previous relationship. we argued the last couple of days because i asked why hes is acting off with me. the day before that his son was taken to the hospital as he got ill and he told me his son is back home and better than he was. I knew i shouldnt have asked him this knowing he is a bad place but one question led to serious of name calling and many hurtful words. He called me selfish and disguisting and he even blocked me too. so far we have been still arguing about this and the more i talk to him the more i find out that i dont mean much to him. For example he said to me that im not a priority in his life. I asked him today if i am overwhelming him with stuff and if im attached to which he replied that i am too attached and that i always ask questions about the kids when they are ill when hes is busy looking after them. so that made me feel that he has taken the fact me caring and and asking about his kids in a wrong way. overall i m very much hurt by this and dont know what to do
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Ditch the ungrateful scumbag.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
so me and this guy have been together for 4 years and he has kids from previous relationship. we argued the last couple of days because i asked why hes is acting off with me. the day before that his son was taken to the hospital as he got ill and he told me his son is back home and better than he was. I knew i shouldnt have asked him this knowing he is a bad place but one question led to serious of name calling and many hurtful words. He called me selfish and disguisting and he even blocked me too. so far we have been still arguing about this and the more i talk to him the more i find out that i dont mean much to him. For example he said to me that im not a priority in his life. I asked him today if i am overwhelming him with stuff and if im attached to which he replied that i am too attached and that i always ask questions about the kids when they are ill when hes is busy looking after them. so that made me feel that he has taken the fact me caring and and asking about his kids in a wrong way. overall i m very much hurt by this and dont know what to do
don't talk to him. he is abusing you and you need to get out of the relationship now.
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If he says that you're not a priority to him and that he feels you're too attached to him then that sounds to me like he isn't all that serious about you. It sounds like his family is more important to him and despite 4 years together he still doesn't consider you a part of his 'family' in any sense.

The way he's behaving is more like a guy in a relatively new relationship. Not someone who in an established long-term one.
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so me and this guy have been together for 4 years and he has kids from previous relationship. we argued the last couple of days because i asked why hes is acting off with me. the day before that his son was taken to the hospital as he got ill and he told me his son is back home and better than he was. I knew i shouldnt have asked him this knowing he is a bad place but one question led to serious of name calling and many hurtful words. He called me selfish and disguisting and he even blocked me too. so far we have been still arguing about this and the more i talk to him the more i find out that i dont mean much to him. For example he said to me that im not a priority in his life. I asked him today if i am overwhelming him with stuff and if im attached to which he replied that i am too attached and that i always ask questions about the kids when they are ill when hes is busy looking after them. so that made me feel that he has taken the fact me caring and and asking about his kids in a wrong way. overall i m very much hurt by this and dont know what to do
You do know what to do! You know that you '"don't mean much to him" and that he is very quick tempered and abusive! So you are probably aware that you should dump him immediately aren't you?
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Asking about his kids shows that you care about them and are concerned for their wellbeing, if anything. Would he rather you ignore their existence instead? It can be difficult when there's kids from a previous relationship as the parent has priorities that may come before you but after being together for 4 years, there's no reason why he shouldn't be classing you as part of the family as well. You may not be the kid's biological mother but you care about them too, any man should be pleased his partner takes an interest in his children.
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try and try to take some time out from him as well like go on a long holiday and see when you come back he apologies for his actions and changes. if not... end it
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