Yeah I was gonna say maybe lads are intimidated by you. But then tbh there's no point toning down your personality when you're at so as not to intimidate people, because then you'll be stuck with a, you know, wet lettuce. Tbh I would have thought if you are into the whole rock/emo/moshing scene that you could find some suitable guys, maybe you just outmosh them all! Maybe you talk too much, I find guys can be put off by this because they like to get in there and make the jokes and be all grrr caveman and stuff. Sounds sexist, but is for the most part, true. so I guess the choice is: 1) keep on as you are and eventually you find a perfect match who loves your loudness and is not intimidating by it, 2) tone it down in order to ensare men by duping them into thinking you're a little Bo Beep type character 3) perseverance, chat them into submission, so that even if you are polar opposites, you eventually attract.