muslim girls- how do you avoid guys hitting on you, being close/touching you at uni Watch

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Same way white girls do... say get lost, creep!
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If she hadn't made the thread, she might still think it was okay for people to touch her in ways she didn't want them to; she might still think she didn't have every right to speak up. It's not constructive to ridicule her for it!

Our society contains elements that put substantial effort into convincing girls that guys are entitled to touch them. Is the idea that the OP might end up in this kind of headspace really so surprising? It IS ridiculous, but is it her fault?
You make it sound like she is a five year old! And i disagree that guys for example, at uni, believe that they are entitled to randomly touch women. I think the issue here is that the girl you are talking about is immature in her thinking and comes from a sheltered home! She talks about deliberating having a "***** " face when near guys. That is her problem not theirs! She probably couldn't explain the first thing about sex or intimacy anyway.
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ive always gone to a girls school but im not your typical frigid, awkward *****y girl i was defo the chilled laid back one who just went there because it was the best school in the area type thing-so obviously i havent ever really had issues with guys who i see/walk with/hang out with everyday liking me and trying to get closer to me etc. Now obviously, i'm a practicing muslim and do take my faith quite seriously but i went on a summer school recently obviously mixed and we quickly formed a mixed group. this guy tho yeah he consistently sat v close to me, had his arm around me(on the sofa so not actually touching) when we were sat on the couch, touched my back and often when we were walking down quite narrow lanes we would just constantly keep bumping into eachother. we also rubbed shoulders alot and when we were on the sofa had a blanket over the two of us ( i didnt realise it was only over us apparently i had the majority of it). i am honestly riddled with guilt and i dunno i just hate this feeling because i know its not allowed to be close to a guy but honestly it was him always initiating/instigating it and i was just trying to be nice back. luckily this was only a week long summer school but i expect had it been freshers week this would have carried on and we wouldve carried on brushing into eachother and all the other minor touching that was going on between us would have continued- i wasnt reciprocating anything like touching him back except a few times when it was necessary so i honeslty wonder how you girls at uni do it? do you just 100% avoid guys altogerther from day one? or just befriend skinny ones lol so you never have to touch, this guy was HENCH unfortunately for me and he took up a lot of the room i know i shouldve hung back or walked ahead or whatever and got out of the close contact situation but that for 3 years straigjt would inevitably get exhausting (and i would just feel rude!) a whole damned essay uno- anyway please do reply and let me know what i should do/what you do. thanks
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Recently watch a documentary where young men could pay for a 'seduction' course. Some of the advice was appalling... ignore her words, watch her body language. Mind you... I have been out with ladies who have chastised me for warning off a rival for her attentions. He was just being friendly... I could handle it! The fact he was still at it 20 mins later strongly indicated otherwise. Truth is... they were flattered by the attention. A bit like oh look... I can handle this lion then expect me to jump in when he goes too far. Better not to feed him in the first place!
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(Original post by Vinny C)
Recently watch a documentary where young men could pay for a 'seduction' course. Some of the advice was appalling... ignore her words, watch her body language. Mind you... I have been out with ladies who have chastised me for warning off a rival for her attentions. He was just being friendly... I could handle it! The fact he was still at it 20 mins later strongly indicated otherwise. Truth is... they were flattered by the attention. A bit like oh look... I can handle this lion then expect me to jump in when he goes too far. Better not to feed him in the first place!
they are just snowflake sheltered virgin girls. They will get more mature eventually.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
ive always gone to a girls school but im not your typical frigid, awkward *****y girl i was defo the chilled laid back one who just went there because it was the best school in the area type thing-so obviously i havent ever really had issues with guys who i see/walk with/hang out with everyday liking me and trying to get closer to me etc. Now obviously, i'm a practicing muslim and do take my faith quite seriously but i went on a summer school recently obviously mixed and we quickly formed a mixed group. this guy tho yeah he consistently sat v close to me, had his arm around me(on the sofa so not actually touching) when we were sat on the couch, touched my back and often when we were walking down quite narrow lanes we would just constantly keep bumping into eachother. we also rubbed shoulders alot and when we were on the sofa had a blanket over the two of us ( i didnt realise it was only over us apparently i had the majority of it). i am honestly riddled with guilt and i dunno i just hate this feeling because i know its not allowed to be close to a guy but honestly it was him always initiating/instigating it and i was just trying to be nice back. luckily this was only a week long summer school but i expect had it been freshers week this would have carried on and we wouldve carried on brushing into eachother and all the other minor touching that was going on between us would have continued- i wasnt reciprocating anything like touching him back except a few times when it was necessary so i honeslty wonder how you girls at uni do it? do you just 100% avoid guys altogerther from day one? or just befriend skinny ones lol so you never have to touch, this guy was HENCH unfortunately for me and he took up a lot of the room i know i shouldve hung back or walked ahead or whatever and got out of the close contact situation but that for 3 years straigjt would inevitably get exhausting (and i would just feel rude!) a whole damned essay uno- anyway please do reply and let me know what i should do/what you do. thanks
As a practicing Muslim male I felt the same way about befriending females as i went to an all-boys school. but i am now in my second-year college and i feel a lot more comfortable around females without feeling guilty of going against my beliefs. i think the main thing is that you just be yourself but if you think a guy may be getting a little too cosy (trust me ik some guys) then just tell them that ur not interested. it wont necessarily mean you will lose them as a friend but it will show them that there is a line/limit that they should not cross.
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Just say ‘that’s not permitted in my religion’ each time an indiscretion occurs. People almost always understand and respect it straight away.
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As a practicing Muslim male I felt the same way about befriending females as i went to an all-boys school. but i am now in my second-year college and i feel a lot more comfortable around females without feeling guilty of going against my beliefs. i think the main thing is that you just be yourself but if you think a guy may be getting a little too cosy (trust me ik some guys) then just tell them that ur not interested. it wont necessarily mean you will lose them as a friend but it will show them that there is a line/limit that they should not cross.
In other words, give a normal response to a common normal situation!Easy really!
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they are just snowflake sheltered virgin girls. They will get more mature eventually.
Nonsense... even does have horns. They just have to learn how best to use them.
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