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(Original post by Plantagenet Crown)
Meh, people get offended too easily nowadays. I’m similar, I’m simply not attracted to black people, never have been. I mean, there’s always the possibility that one day someone might come along and change my opinion, but in the context of a discussion it seems reasonable to say “I’m not attracted to X people” if you’ve never found any of them attractive before.
i know right. like i dont know what to say to them im sorry i love everything about my bf and how welcoming his family are. also people have got to consider that white people are generally so chill and accepting which is so nice compared to other other people/cultures (imo, got to add that before i offend some people). i really dont find asians attractive (south asian/middle eastern/east asians) and a lot of that is looks but also how they act/mannerisms and their cultures are quite restricting/hateful because of islam/arranged marriages and what not. its so nice to get out of that and find somebody who doesn't care and loves you for who you are not your damn ethnicity.

im literally central asian myself so i've seen just about everything lol
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(Original post by plantagenet crown)
how on earth does race have nothing to do with looks? It has virtually everything to do with your physical appareance.
how on earth can you be this dumb the colour of your skin im going to repeat this again the colour of your skin does not have everything to do with your looks there are different types of black girls and asians of different colours so you cannot generalise
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rest my case..

it's kind of funny how you don't see your own cognitive dissonance here at all
Lol I know what cognitive dissonance means so you don't sound clever throwing in a totally irrelevant term here. Tell me what your "case" is and how you've "rested" it and how I'm in denial...:lolwut: what are you on about? Tell me how south asians and I come from the same culture...?

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(Original post by Bang Outta Order)
I'm not confusing anything with anything. I literally said "racism or separatism" in my last sentence to you in my previous post...

Ok, racial is not racism, but racism is racial, so we can discuss racialism here, and again, if you are racist, it doesn't mean you hate them, it just means you are indifferent to them because of their race. I said to someone else on this page I believe (and it's not your responsibility to read every new post, but you really should) that if you scrape beneath the surface of this racial indifference you might either get something harmless or nasty, indifference as in: not wanting to befriend someone of a certain race, without hating them, just a casual disinterest. Most people are racially indifferent, and it could all stem from racism, but that doesn't mean we hate each other. We just dont value each other. Not all of us who dont have friends from a different race do it consciously, whereas your example of academic or scientific racism being nonviolent hatred is an extreme prejudice that most of us do not partake in nor entertain anymore. There is no blatant academic or scientific racism left because it's illegal now, it's not the nazi regime or the civil rights era of the USA and slavery is abolished, yet we still in this day and age, most of us don't have a diverse group of good friends or a diverse dating life. But we're not hateful. We are just not interested. Racism is not hatred. I didnt say it can't be. Sometimes it really is just what the dictionary definition is: the mentality that someone is inferior or superior due to race. That's it.
I don't agree with your definition of racism or your comment that most people don't have a diverse group of good friends.
I think in multicultural city like London or Manchester which are home to so many diverse communities, people who don't have any friends from other racial or religious backgrounds have made that choice consciously. Even people who choose not to make friends at all.
But its certainly true that many people don't have a diverse dating life; my best friend dates all races and most religions but seems to only date doctors.
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(Original post by Princepieman)
no one's attacking you for dating people of a certain ethnicity you're being "attacked" because you're too close minded to understand that you can't write off whole swathes of society that probably will have combinations of features you find attractive and can just get away with it. like, christ alive, you guys realise what you're saying sometimes?
how many times do i have to say this? i live in a black area which so many different personalities some are "stereotypical" boys and some are hard working and "posh" but i don't care i dont find any of them attractive. i don't have find mixed race people attractive (mixed race i mean black/white) so i do know what you mean but i could never even find them attractive let alone be with them.
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(Original post by we knnow)
how on earth can you be this dumb the colour of your skin im going to repeat this again the colour of your skin has nothing to do with your looks there are different types of black girls and asians of different colours so you cannot generalise
If you were the anonymous person then it’s really you who’s being silly. Race is more than your skin colour, it can and often does influence your weight, height, build, facial structure, facial features etc., all of which can play a role in whether you are physically attracted to someone.
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i know right. like i dont know what to say to them im sorry i love everything about my bf and how welcoming his family are. also people have got to consider that white people are generally so chill and accepting which is so nice compared to other other people/cultures (imo, got to add that before i offend some people). i really dont find asians attractive (south asian/middle eastern/east asians) and a lot of that is looks but also how they act/mannerisms and their cultures are quite restricting/hateful because of islam/arranged marriages and what not. its so nice to get out of that and find somebody who doesn't care and loves you for who you are not your damn ethnicity.

im literally central asian myself so i've seen just about everything lol
I guess its true what they say ignorant is bliss because you think white people are chill so dumb omg white people are not a religion they have different ideologies and they can be racist have you never heard of apartheid or even looked at history so these white people you speak of they must not be conservative because if you met a conservative family you would not repeat your statement
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A lot of cultures only date within their race anyway such as indian marriage.
exactly. and not for hateful reasons either.
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im so sorry i dont find black people attractive seriously
What you've demonstrated is that you're incapable of separating skin-colour from identity, ethnicity, culture or social mores, and have therefore predicated a broad negative characterisation upon an extremely narrow cross-section of the populace, to such an overwhelming extent that you no longer find dark skin appealing irrespective of context or personhood. That isn't racist: it's just ****ing stupid.
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I guess its true what they say ignorant is bliss because you think white people are chill so dumb omg white people are not a religion they have different ideologies and they can be racist have you never heard of apartheid or even looked at history so these white people you speak of they must not be conservative because if you met a conservative family you would not repeat your statement
Lmao i cant even reply to this
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how on earth can you be this dumb the colour of your skin im going to repeat this again the colour of your skin does not have everything to do with your looks there are different types of black girls and asians of different colours so you cannot generalise
But it does. My boyfriend hates tan girls, but loves pale girls (and this is just within the white skin colour alone).
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is not racist unless someone specifically says that the reason why is because the ethnicity is inferior or something (which is a very disgusting reason and not true)
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This was a good read: https://www.quora.com/Are-white-peop...-to-believe-so

I think there is an element of historically being conditioned to think that being white is more attractive but it becomes very hard to distinguish whether you only prefer white people because of your subconscious bias due to environmental conditioning or whether its just because you prefer whites.
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But it does. My boyfriend hates tan girls, but loves pale girls (and this is just within the white skin colour alone).
Same, i just love goth girls


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exactly. and not for hateful reasons either.
Yeh exactly, unlike this dude:
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(Original post by Bang Outta Order)
Lol I know what cognitive dissonance means so you don't sound clever throwing in a totally irrelevant term here. Tell me what your "case" is and how you've "rested" it and how I'm in denial...:lolwut: what are you on about? Tell me how south asians and I come from the same culture...?

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lol your entire shtick in this thread is pushing the case that not finding whole ethnicities attractive is racist then you just all of a sudden don't find all south asians attractive because of assumed "cultural differences". dude, come on. you have no idea how culturally different someone is just based on their ethnicity until you've actually sat down in a date scenario with them (or at least as close friends). you can't assume this ****.
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This was a good read: https://www.quora.com/Are-white-peop...-to-believe-so

I think there is an element of historically being conditioned to think that being white is more attractive but it becomes very hard to distinguish whether you only prefer white people because of your subconscious bias due to environmental conditioning or whether its just because you prefer whites.
LOOOOL you guys are so butt hurt
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Lmao i cant even reply to this
lol but this person is right and you were wrong thinking every white person is liberal and does not judge
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LOOOOL you guys are so butt hurt
what??
Its just what we've been exposed to
https://www.theguardian.com/fashion/...erts-are-white
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what??
Its just what we've been exposed to
https://www.theguardian.com/fashion/...erts-are-white
so no one truly likes white people? okay :rofl:

im sorry but i really dont like black/brown people and theres nothing you can do about it
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I don't agree with your definition of racism or your comment that most people don't have a diverse group of good friends.
I think in multicultural city like London or Manchester which are home to so many diverse communities, people who don't have any friends from other racial or religious backgrounds have made that choice consciously. Even people who choose not to make friends at all.
But its certainly true that many people don't have a diverse dating life; my best friend dates all races and most religions but seems to only date doctors.
omg mate, i luv ya but most people don't have a diverse group of friends lol. most people don't even live in a diverse enough area. You are from London I assume (ok I read the rest of your post and I assumed correctly), but as I always say...londoners are very provincial and forget that there is 97% of the country outside of london and 99.99% of the globe outside of london...most people do not have a diverse group of friends. You can't say they do just because you live in an admittedly multicultural place :nothing: people mostly live in homogeneous places and they are apart of the majority, and this builds attraction and standards and values and as I said, people are simply content with them and therefore do not socialise nor date multiculturally, and it doesn't mean hatred, though I also already said that it could be hatred, sure. But that's them. And if it's preference then that means they are racist because they made the choice to only go with one group. Preference means deliberation, selection, whereas attraction means, natural. And how can you not find someone of a different race attractive just because they're a different race? That is of course racist and probably hateful. But dating people only from your race because you don't care about other races is racist but not necessarily hateful.
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