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I attend a guitar group once every week, it’s a small organisation and I have been going there for a long time. There is a girl there who has been going as long as me and I would really like to get to know her better. However, apart from the occasional bit of small talk, I never really get the chance to have an interesting conversation with her, so I don’t really know her very well. I am also quite shy, and so I can never find it in me to start to talk to her. Also, with it being a guitar group there isn’t really an ideal time to have a chat with her, as we are either playing songs or helping to tune up guitars of some of the younger students. She is also just over a year older than me, so I’m not sure if that will really make much of a difference or not. I only see her once a week and I would really like to have a stronger connection with her. What do you guys think I should do? I have never really asked anyone out before and I don’t want to make it awkward between us, but I suppose there isn’t really anything to lose. Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do and say?
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Strategy 1: "Wait and hope" by far the least soul destroying. Do nothing and hope she's interested in you and makes the first move.
Chance of success : 1/10

Strategy 2: "Yr 9 method" Get a friend to tell one of her friends that you're into her.
Chance of success : 4/10 Cost - your self-respect

Strategy 3: "Direct Method" Tell her you're going to x, and say she should come along.
Chance of success : 7/10 but you're shy and can't talk to girls, so in reality 2/10.

Strategy 4 : "Just be yourself" recommended by 100% of women
Chance of success : 0/10

Strategy 5 : "Works in the movies" Write her a series of anonymous notes and leave it for her somewhere she will get it - and see if you get replies.
Chance of success : 3.5/10 she will think it's cool. 6.5/10 super creepy.

Strategy 6 : "Surefire loser" Make friends with her.
Chance of intimate relationship : 0/10
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(Original post by Trinculo)
Strategy 1: "Wait and hope" by far the least soul destroying. Do nothing and hope she's interested in you and makes the first move.
Chance of success : 1/10

Strategy 2: "Yr 9 method" Get a friend to tell one of her friends that you're into her.
Chance of success : 4/10 Cost - your self-respect

Strategy 3: "Direct Method" Tell her you're going to x, and say she should come along.
Chance of success : 7/10 but you're shy and can't talk to girls, so in reality 2/10.

Strategy 4 : "Just be yourself" recommended by 100% of women
Chance of success : 0/10

Strategy 5 : "Works in the movies" Write her a series of anonymous notes and leave it for her somewhere she will get it - and see if you get replies.
Chance of success : 3.5/10 she will think it's cool. 6.5/10 super creepy.

Strategy 6 : "Surefire loser" Make friends with her.
Chance of intimate relationship : 0/10
Whilst I appreciate your response, this doesn’t really help me. I am not scared of women and I am not incapable of having a conversation. Perhaps I didn’t word my question very well but my issue is that I don’t know how to take things from my current situation with her. I want her number without coming across as creepy so that it is easier to talk to her instead of only talking once a week. What you basically are saying is that I have no chance with her, and considering you don’t actually know me as a person then that’s quite rude tbh. Does anyone have any other advice?
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Anyone have any advice?
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I attend a guitar group once every week, it’s a small organisation and I have been going there for a long time. There is a girl there who has been going as long as me and I would really like to get to know her better. However, apart from the occasional bit of small talk, I never really get the chance to have an interesting conversation with her, so I don’t really know her very well. I am also quite shy, and so I can never find it in me to start to talk to her. Also, with it being a guitar group there isn’t really an ideal time to have a chat with her, as we are either playing songs or helping to tune up guitars of some of the younger students. She is also just over a year older than me, so I’m not sure if that will really make much of a difference or not. I only see her once a week and I would really like to have a stronger connection with her. What do you guys think I should do? I have never really asked anyone out before and I don’t want to make it awkward between us, but I suppose there isn’t really anything to lose. Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do and say?
Nothing to lose. Ask her more about herself and her opinions and interests. Don't worry about what she thinks of you; this kills dating and conversation completely! Then you can hang out at MacDonalds etc. sometime if she is interested. If not, practice on another girl that you are interested in.
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Thanks, I will take this into consideration
It’s just difficult to find the moment to actually talk to her , cause I only see her for about an hour or two a week, and really there is only about 10 minutes to talk which isn’t really enough time for a good conversation. Thank you for your response anyway
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