I'm an autistic girl, ask me (almost) anything
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Hopefully mine will change if I get some thing diagnosed currently Im a pathetic jobless adult haha
Original post by 15nfulfsa
np, I went for years without knowing what was wrong with me, but parents can adapt and change once they find out different things about you, and the reasons for the things they do
heh yeah, but don't use it as a label, because then it will lose its meaning
Original post by Emma1999_
Hopefully mine will change if I get some thing diagnosed currently Im a pathetic jobless adult haha
I wouldn't anyway I don't believe in labels as its who you are rather than what medical term you have
Original post by 15nfulfsa
heh yeah, but don't use it as a label, because then it will lose its meaning
Are you able to offer perspective on how girls handle relationships? I feel I have a fairly good impression of what guys on the spectrum are like but not girls really. Is it wrong to assume there's a higher-than-ordinary level of attachment to the other person?
Good thread btw.
Good thread btw.
ill be the first to follow you duck dodgers your welcome 
Original post by DuckDodgers
Are you able to offer perspective on how girls handle relationships? I feel I have a fairly good impression of what guys on the spectrum are like but not girls really. Is it wrong to assume there's a higher-than-ordinary level of attachment to the other person?
Good thread btw.
Good thread btw.
I had my assessment on 12 March and I am waiting for the outcome. I hate noise I can’t deal with it and it doesn’t make me angry but sort of a mixture between anger (but not really anger?) and frustration. I don’t know how to describe it.
I don’t see the need for having to go out shopping with friends as I don’t need anything and I see them at school, although I spend break and lunch in my French teachers classroom doing work or something (she doesn’t really mind) as I don’t have any close friends or anyone to sit with. The thing that really bugs me is when I say ‘I did X’ and then the person I’m speaking to says ‘really!?’ Like why would I say it if I didn’t? You get me?
Do you have a ‘specialist subject’ where you like to spend your Friday evenings googling about it? I like chemistry and medicine and I can name 112 elements on the periodic table, quite a lot of blood vessels (main ones anyway), I love watching videos of surgical procedure like CABG and EVAR.
I always notice details in people’s appearance, for example when they change their jewellery, get a hair cut, dye their hair (even if it’s practically the same colour).
I don’t see the need for having to go out shopping with friends as I don’t need anything and I see them at school, although I spend break and lunch in my French teachers classroom doing work or something (she doesn’t really mind) as I don’t have any close friends or anyone to sit with. The thing that really bugs me is when I say ‘I did X’ and then the person I’m speaking to says ‘really!?’ Like why would I say it if I didn’t? You get me?
Do you have a ‘specialist subject’ where you like to spend your Friday evenings googling about it? I like chemistry and medicine and I can name 112 elements on the periodic table, quite a lot of blood vessels (main ones anyway), I love watching videos of surgical procedure like CABG and EVAR.
I always notice details in people’s appearance, for example when they change their jewellery, get a hair cut, dye their hair (even if it’s practically the same colour).
Thank you
Original post by 15nfulfsa
ill be the first to follow you duck dodgers your welcome
choc for choc? 😂
Original post by DuckDodgers
Thank you
When did you get diagnosed with autism?
And are/were you singled out at school for having autism?
Do you think more things need to be done in school to support young people with autism and how would you suggests any changes be implemented?
And are/were you singled out at school for having autism?
Do you think more things need to be done in school to support young people with autism and how would you suggests any changes be implemented?
I'm a woman with aspergers syndrome; quite mild albeit. Do you work and live independently?
Original post by furryface12
April is autism awareness month. Increasingly people have a basic awareness of what autism looks like in boys, particularly the stereotypical train and computer obsessed geek, but in girls it can be quite different.
For example, girls might make good eye contact and on the surface appear to have decent social skills. But these tend to be learnt over time and not come naturally to them. Many girls hide their autism in public well- this is known as masking. It takes a lot of effort though and they may break down when they get home, or when very tired. Other characteristics include:
- Watching and mimicking others, especially in social situations
- Having one 'special' friend, particularly when younger
- Being extremely interested in art, music, animals or celebrities- beyond what is 'normal'
- Vivid imagination and creating their own, very detailed 'world' to live in or imaginary friends (again particularly when younger)
- Needing to plan carefully, know the rules and maintain control with food, play, routine etc to minimise unexpected change
- Being sensitive to noise, light, texture and touch.
Girls are often misdiagnosed with bipolar or BPD before autism, and late diagnosis in general is very common. Many autistic girls will also develop anxiety, depression and eating disorders among other conditions.
I hope that was informative! As the title says, ask me pretty much anything about autism in general, how it affects me, whatever else you want to know.
If you've made it this far through the post, congratulations and thank you
For example, girls might make good eye contact and on the surface appear to have decent social skills. But these tend to be learnt over time and not come naturally to them. Many girls hide their autism in public well- this is known as masking. It takes a lot of effort though and they may break down when they get home, or when very tired. Other characteristics include:
- Watching and mimicking others, especially in social situations
- Having one 'special' friend, particularly when younger
- Being extremely interested in art, music, animals or celebrities- beyond what is 'normal'
- Vivid imagination and creating their own, very detailed 'world' to live in or imaginary friends (again particularly when younger)
- Needing to plan carefully, know the rules and maintain control with food, play, routine etc to minimise unexpected change
- Being sensitive to noise, light, texture and touch.
Girls are often misdiagnosed with bipolar or BPD before autism, and late diagnosis in general is very common. Many autistic girls will also develop anxiety, depression and eating disorders among other conditions.
I hope that was informative! As the title says, ask me pretty much anything about autism in general, how it affects me, whatever else you want to know.
If you've made it this far through the post, congratulations and thank you
Do you ever go up to a boy when you like them or are you too scared
My best friend is autistic, what can I do to support her through her tough times?
Dont go to places where they're like 17 people in a group or like for example in a sixth form common room they might not like all the noise etc so places like dag avoid. And just listen to her
Original post by Anonymous
My best friend is autistic, what can I do to support her through her tough times?
depends on the type of autism you have. some are antisocial, but some aren't self conscious around anyone, and just don't care
Original post by TheYearNiner
Do you ever go up to a boy when you like them or are you too scared
I am also a Autistic girl, and I'd like to ask if you've ever had an issue where when it comes to loving someone, you can't tell if you do, or if you're obsessing over them like a special interest. That sounds weirder now I've written it down ;.;
I go to sleep for two hours and the thread goes mad 
bear with me while I work through them....
I'm asexual so not really the best person to ask on this, sorry
I do have a boyfriend but that was him asking me and us going very very slowly over several years. Hopefully someone else will reply to you if they haven't already!
Yeah they are pretty generic, they just tend to be hidden a little bit more in girls. So some of those are examples of how they can affect girls more specifically. Obviously they apply to guys as well though to different extents!
there used to be a TSR Asperger's society but it's died a bit last couple of years. Maybe we should revive it!
I was diagnosed about this time.last year I think. It's something I/my family had suspected for a long time and when I moved to uni I mentioned it to my GP. He agreed and passed me on- adult services are pretty scarce now but fortunately my uni area has a good one! I was sent various forms for me and my parents to fill in through the post and then had an assessment a few months later. They asked me and my mum about my history right from how much I cried as a baby eg right up to moving to uni/struggling to settle in there. Normally they would do some of the more practical tests similar to the ones they do with kids (I'm not sure exactly what, describing things etc I think?) but they had enough evidence for me by this point.
bear with me while I work through them....Original post by Scrollery
Hey I'm also autistic, how do you handle when you have a crush on someone (if you don't mind me asking)?
I just want to know how other autistic people handle their crush.
I just want to know how other autistic people handle their crush.
I'm asexual so not really the best person to ask on this, sorry
I do have a boyfriend but that was him asking me and us going very very slowly over several years. Hopefully someone else will reply to you if they haven't already!Original post by Tootles
I (male) also exhibit all these signs. I thought they were all generic.
Yeah they are pretty generic, they just tend to be hidden a little bit more in girls. So some of those are examples of how they can affect girls more specifically. Obviously they apply to guys as well though to different extents!
Original post by 1Secord
Hello! I’m also autistic and I am so thrilled I found this thread. I love that we can open ip a conversation between fellow autistics and how they cope with things!
@Scrollery hi! I’ll be honest, I don’t handle crushes very well. It’s all I tend to think about for a very short period of time, before I get bored.
@Scrollery hi! I’ll be honest, I don’t handle crushes very well. It’s all I tend to think about for a very short period of time, before I get bored.
there used to be a TSR Asperger's society but it's died a bit last couple of years. Maybe we should revive it!Original post by BurstingBubbles
@furryface12
Great thread! When were you diagnosed with Autism? What was the process of this?
In my work, I work with a lot of children, who are going through the process and I often provide supporting evidence for this. I find that girls often do present more 'subtly' with it, however of course each child is different. I'm less aware of the process of diagnosis for teenagers/adults, so if anyone has any information for this please do let me know
Great thread! When were you diagnosed with Autism? What was the process of this?
In my work, I work with a lot of children, who are going through the process and I often provide supporting evidence for this. I find that girls often do present more 'subtly' with it, however of course each child is different. I'm less aware of the process of diagnosis for teenagers/adults, so if anyone has any information for this please do let me know
I was diagnosed about this time.last year I think. It's something I/my family had suspected for a long time and when I moved to uni I mentioned it to my GP. He agreed and passed me on- adult services are pretty scarce now but fortunately my uni area has a good one! I was sent various forms for me and my parents to fill in through the post and then had an assessment a few months later. They asked me and my mum about my history right from how much I cried as a baby eg right up to moving to uni/struggling to settle in there. Normally they would do some of the more practical tests similar to the ones they do with kids (I'm not sure exactly what, describing things etc I think?) but they had enough evidence for me by this point.
Original post by furryface12
I was diagnosed about this time.last year I think. It's something I/my family had suspected for a long time and when I moved to uni I mentioned it to my GP. He agreed and passed me on- adult services are pretty scarce now but fortunately my uni area has a good one! I was sent various forms for me and my parents to fill in through the post and then had an assessment a few months later. They asked me and my mum about my history right from how much I cried as a baby eg right up to moving to uni/struggling to settle in there. Normally they would do some of the more practical tests similar to the ones they do with kids (I'm not sure exactly what, describing things etc I think?) but they had enough evidence for me by this point.
I was diagnosed about this time.last year I think. It's something I/my family had suspected for a long time and when I moved to uni I mentioned it to my GP. He agreed and passed me on- adult services are pretty scarce now but fortunately my uni area has a good one! I was sent various forms for me and my parents to fill in through the post and then had an assessment a few months later. They asked me and my mum about my history right from how much I cried as a baby eg right up to moving to uni/struggling to settle in there. Normally they would do some of the more practical tests similar to the ones they do with kids (I'm not sure exactly what, describing things etc I think?) but they had enough evidence for me by this point.
Ooh okay that's interesting to hear from an adult diagnosis point of view
Yeah for children it's normally a paediatrician who sees the child and makes the overall diagnosis, they will often collect information from school parents, the behavioural and emotional team, SLT, Ed Psych etc. 
@furryface12
Do you think that the later diagnosis has helped you understand and/or explain a few things? Like the way you would react to things etc?
Do you think that the later diagnosis has helped you understand and/or explain a few things? Like the way you would react to things etc?
My sister is autistic and has crazy meltdowns to the point that she gets physically violent
Original post by Anonymous1502
How does your autism personally impact your daily life?What challenges have you faced specifically?
That's a hard one! It affects pretty much everything I do in some way or another- but most of that is me looking back and realising since I got diagnosed. Working out social rules and things like that is something I've always struggled with. I do it pretty well but it always took so much effort and I felt awful when I got it wrong and didn't understand why. Big changes such as changing schools have always had a huge impact on me (way more than the normal)- uni in particular, suddenly every coping strategy I'd ever had went out the window and I really struggled. Dealing with noise and other sensory stuff is something I've also really struggled with, especially when i'm tired or unwell.
Original post by Emma1999_
II'm very similar and have been tested . Everyone says I haven't got it because I have reasonably good grades and have had no learning and development issues however ;
I remember small details
Constantly think I'm in some sort of show creating storylines up to almost make the bad things in my life seem like I'm just acting
Obsessive
Love a routine and will get upset if broken
Very clingy needing lots of reassurance mainly from adults other than my parents
Scared of leaving places to the point I cry all the time about it
Fear of never seeing my friends or them leaving me
Struggling to almost be like everyone else
Would you say I'm displaying signs and has anyone got any tips for me to start to live a more better life that doesn't mean I'm crying constantly
I remember small details
Constantly think I'm in some sort of show creating storylines up to almost make the bad things in my life seem like I'm just acting
Obsessive
Love a routine and will get upset if broken
Very clingy needing lots of reassurance mainly from adults other than my parents
Scared of leaving places to the point I cry all the time about it
Fear of never seeing my friends or them leaving me
Struggling to almost be like everyone else
Would you say I'm displaying signs and has anyone got any tips for me to start to live a more better life that doesn't mean I'm crying constantly
I'd say it's definitely possible you have it, obviously can't say for certain though and those are features of other conditions too. It's difficult as they have to go right back to when you were little and try and work out how you were then. Mine was also not picked up until I realised myself as I was well behaved in school and academically capable- I just stayed under the radar.
The main thing to help you is probably learning to challenge your thoughts, for example with evidence- have your friends ever left you before? How much compared to you still seeing them? Something like CBT would help you with this a lot, your GP should be able to refer you for that. Little things can also help a lot, so for me stuff like making a list of five things I want to achieve in a day or googling new places before I go as I find them hard. That's the opposite to you though in a way! I'll have a think
Original post by 15nfulfsa
hey!
recently I was diagnosed with autism and ADHD, and that was a massive blow, and it took me a while to be able to cope with it. how did you cope when you first found out?
recently I was diagnosed with autism and ADHD, and that was a massive blow, and it took me a while to be able to cope with it. how did you cope when you first found out?
My diagnosis came as a relief more than anything else- suddenly I had a reason why I was different to everyone else and found stupid stuff hard for no reason. By knowing what's causing me to struggle with certain things, I can then begin to deal with them better. I think my parents found it harder than me as they felt like they should have done more and put all the little things together particularly when I was little, but they just didn't know it was a thing. I guess the main thing is just trying to give yourself time? It's a huge thing to come to terms with, it's been your whole life and that's got to be hard. But focus on the positives and how they make you you
you'll get there!Original post by Anonymous
What do you think of the term "Asperger's syndrome"? Do you think the name should be changed?
Good question! I'm not sure about it. Of everything autistic people call themselves I tend to think of myself as aspie, but obviously as more of the history has come to light it feels like it needs changing. In diagnosis they've got rid of it completely but then it's an identity for a lot of people which makes it harder. I guess it's something people will start using gradually less over time, I don't know what will replace it though.
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