I admire jealous girls, is this normal or am I dumb?

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I don't know why but this behaviour seems much more correct and natural to me. If a woman is really in love with her man then she should be jealous about him.

Just think about that. She won't want to share him no matter what with the other women, she'll try to keep him only for herself and that also means that woman will be pretty loyal against her partner and there'll be endless love between those partners. (I'm assuming that boy is also like that).

I'm myself a jealous person and this is one of the reasons that I hate one night stands because if I do that, I'll feel pretty bad and regretful even though she doesn't care! Because this is seriously means something to me.

On the other hand, I really don't understand how a girl can be a tolerant about if her boyfriend-husband follows half naked girls on the internet or watches porn? Those things also should be prohibited between the partners as the both part of the jealousy and respect.

Of course, extreme jealousy will be problem in the relationships no matter what but I hope you'll get what I meant here.

Lastly, I might have abnormal thoughts since I haven't had any relationships yet as a 19 years old male, that makes me inexperienced person.

Let me know your opinions, thanks!
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sandytablet
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I'm kind of the same because I feel that if someone is jealous it shows that they're fairly into you. If someone, who you are not romantically involved with but has a crush on you, is jealous if someone else gives you attention, I think it's sweet for some reason, idk.

On the other hand, though, I think it can be a bit maniacal. Some people get way too absorbed into their partner and they are both jealous and obsessed, which can lead to controlling behaviour. I think a lot of people get jealous but just don't show it because it's not very polite and is a bit improper to present yourself as jealous; it's about the containment of emotion.
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depends on level, as jealously can result in toxicity pretty quickly
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I'm kinda conflicted here.. I'm a naturally jealous person and I do agree that it shows a lot of loyalty and whatnot, but relationships are about compromise. Take the porn for example, I don't have an issue with that, sexual urges are natural and there's no problem with having a healthy way to vent it. I'm not entirely thrilled about the idea but I'd never prevent a person from watching it if they wanted to. It only breaks the boundary when they're doing these sorts of things with another person.

There's some extent to where you have to control jealousy, I think. Sometimes it can become controlling and manipulative and that isn't healthy for any relationship.
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(Original post by MidgetFever)
I'm kinda conflicted here.. I'm a naturally jealous person and I do agree that it shows a lot of loyalty and whatnot, but relationships are about compromise. Take the porn for example, I don't have an issue with that, sexual urges are natural and there's no problem with having a healthy way to vent it. I'm not entirely thrilled about the idea but I'd never prevent a person from watching it if they wanted to. It only breaks the boundary when they're doing these sorts of things with another person.

There's some extent to where you have to control jealousy, I think. Sometimes it can become controlling and manipulative and that isn't healthy for any relationship.
Yes, absolutely sexual urges are natural but I don't understand why would a person desire another naked girl's body to satisfy his own sexual feelings rather than desiring his own girlfriend's body? Just think about that, Let's assume, I'm away from my partner for a few days and I need to masturbate but in this case I don't have to watch a porn because I already have a girlfriend or wife, right? I can easily dream about her and satisfy myself. Thinking about another girl or sexually fantasising her just seem some kind of betrayel to me.

But of course, there is nothing wrong with watching porn if a person is single like me. Otherwise, I don't think it is a good behaviour.

I also agree with you that we should control our jealousy, there should be a limit.
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Someone who is jealous: i) doesn't trust you ii) doesn't respect your own agency iii) is controlling iv) is unlikely to be a stable partner in a relationship.

They put control and themselves before love and the wellbeing of the relationship.
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Jealous girls are PSYCHOOOO

coming from a girl that has jealous friends lol
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I can be a jealous person too, I hate it. I hate the actual feeling of being jealous and how it makes me seem, and I hate how some people get off on making other people feel like that. My ex would purposely do stuff to envoke jealousy out of me and I tried to never show him that I was jealous as I didn’t want to give him the satisfcation.
I did it so much that now, if someone makes me jealous (purposely or without realising) I don’t ever show it and instead I will find ways to make them jealous instead. It’s a bad circle to be in.
I’m not jealous of peoples achievements or appearence or anything like that. For me, jealousy is triggered by someone I like flirting with someone else or a partner watching porn. The porn bit might be more insecurity more than anything though.
I just hate that green eyed monster 😒
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Yes, absolutely sexual urges are natural but I don't understand why would a person desire another naked girl's body to satisfy his own sexual feelings rather than desiring his own girlfriend's body? Just think about that, Let's assume, I'm away from my partner for a few days and I need to masturbate but in this case I don't have to watch a porn because I already have a girlfriend or wife, right? I can easily dream about her and satisfy myself. Thinking about another girl or sexually fantasising her just seem some kind of betrayel to me.

But of course, there is nothing wrong with watching porn if a person is single like me. Otherwise, I don't think it is a good behaviour.

I also agree with you that we should control our jealousy, there should be a limit.
Yeah I see where you're coming from, maybe it differs from person to person.

Not everyone has a creative imagination so having a physical image there may help in that sense, that's the only reason I can think of that somewhat explains it, I'm sure there are other reasons too. Sometimes porn isn't about the other girl, it's about what they're doing to said person that the person may be into and they watch it for that reason. If it's excessive to the point where you're ignoring your partner for the sake of porn it seems to get a bit out of hand, but other than that it doesn't bother me so much.
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Jealousy is natural trait we all have .. some get more jealous then others and jealousy is very toxic especially when it comes to friendships and relationships it cause major problems .. and if you don’t know I will tell you that being jealous is a sin and if you have a girl friend in the future that can cause a break up
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Like most things it's not black and white, it depends why you get jealous and how you express it.
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I hate jealousy. It has no room in my love life especially when it's unjustified. If you love someone you can't question my loyalty and integrity. Also if someone is going to cheat on you there isn't anything you can do about it. So why put yourself through needless stress
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I think it’s good to be jealous 😊
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