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Last night I had a bit to drink and an argument broke out, the argument wasn't completely my fault and I felt like my friends were picking on me and all ganging up on me. It was very hurtful.

Enough was enough and I was telling myself in my head that the next time one of them says something negative to me I am going to bark back and then leave, soon after thinking that one of them did say something and then that's when I let loose.

I walked to the door and said, why don't you all go and get something, like let me think... cancer? and then slammed the door shut and left. Although they were picking on me I regret what I said and I don't like to blame it on the fact I was drunk.

None of them are talking to me now and I don't know what to do, I've already told them that I didn't mean what I said and that I only said it because I was drunk and upset. Well, there's one person in the group that I don't really care about so last nights message still stands for the likes of him but the others I care about, we're really close.

What can I do to make it up to them? What should I do??
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I wouldn't have apologised, if you are really close with a majority it should be easy to explain that you lashed out because they were making you feel bad.
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I'm only apologizing to the ones I'm close with, the one I mentioned and his friend I don't care about them so. I guess but they're ignoring my messages on Facebook.
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I wouldn't have apologised, if you are really close with a majority it should be easy to explain that you lashed out because they were making you feel bad.
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If this was a group of lads they'd be in the pub together the next day as if nowt happened.
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You should never say something like that as a lot of people have been affected by it somehow. You need to apologise to your friends, ideally in person but if they don't want to see you then over messenger should be a good place to start.

When you apologise don't say anything along the lines of 'I'm sorry you're upset' as that isn't a real apology! It doesn't show that you recognise what you did was wrong. Try saying something along the lines of 'despite the circumstances of the other night, I should never have said what I said and I apologise completely for doing so'. If you try and justify why you said it I think it's okay to say that you felt upset that they were ganging up on you etc, but don't phrase it in a way that sounds like they made you say it (if you see what I mean). Don't blame anything on being drunk also, even if you only said it because of that.

Hope this helps and hope everything gets resolved soon!

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(Original post by xDron3)
If this was a group of lads they'd be in the pub together the next day as if nowt happened.
Lads don't argue like brats or storm out after having the piss taken out of them. It's all banter.
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(Original post by MynameisJenny)
Last night I had a bit to drink and an argument broke out, the argument wasn't completely my fault and I felt like my friends were picking on me and all ganging up on me. It was very hurtful.

Enough was enough and I was telling myself in my head that the next time one of them says something negative to me I am going to bark back and then leave, soon after thinking that one of them did say something and then that's when I let loose.

I walked to the door and said, why don't you all go and get something, like let me think... cancer? and then slammed the door shut and left. Although they were picking on me I regret what I said and I don't like to blame it on the fact I was drunk.

None of them are talking to me now and I don't know what to do, I've already told them that I didn't mean what I said and that I only said it because I was drunk and upset. Well, there's one person in the group that I don't really care about so last nights message still stands for the likes of him but the others I care about, we're really close.

What can I do to make it up to them? What should I do??
It's interesting seeing these responses and how we're all so different.

Personally, I would aplogise profusely and genuinely. The worst I've ever done is call a friend a b**** and that was bad enough.

So the one you don't care about you do still hope she gets cancer? Wow
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I wouldn't have apologised, if you are really close with a majority it should be easy to explain that you lashed out because they were making you feel bad.
I would too.
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It's kinda harsh how you don't feel the need to apologise to the one "you dont care about" considering what you said is pretty damn insulting.

As for your friends, I'm sure they'd understand if you were able to apologise in person, although it might take a while for them to warm to you again.
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I was thinking what a queen until I read you want to say sorry to them. it took a lot of courage to stand up and roast them like that. you spit fire girl. don't ruin that reputation by showing weakness. i say stick it to them.
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I was thinking what a queen until I read you want to say sorry to them. it took a lot of courage to stand up and roast them like that. you spit fire girl. don't ruin that reputation by showing weakness. i say stick it to them.
You're right, I shouldn't show any weakness, they're in the wrong for all ganging up to me and now I am hoping that what I said upset them. If they want to begin a war then I'll look forward to it! My first move will probably be telling them that I hope it's terminal. I don't even need them as my friends, problem solved.
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I was thinking what a queen until I read you want to say sorry to them. it took a lot of courage to stand up and roast them like that. you spit fire girl. don't ruin that reputation by showing weakness. i say stick it to them.
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You're right, I shouldn't show any weakness, they're in the wrong for all ganging up to me and now I am hoping that what I said upset them. If they want to begin a war then I'll look forward to it! My first move will probably be telling them that I hope it's terminal. I don't even need them as my friends, problem solved.
i am glad my advice has make you see the light. long live the queen. if you want you can PM me and we can discuss problems i am my areas public enemy #1 too.
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You're right, I shouldn't show any weakness, they're in the wrong for all ganging up to me and now I am hoping that what I said upset them. If they want to begin a war then I'll look forward to it! My first move will probably be telling them that I hope it's terminal. I don't even need them as my friends, problem solved.
Your second move will probably be posting another message on TSR wishing you hadn't been so hasty
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Your second move will probably be posting another message on TSR wishing you hadn't been so hasty
Jenny knows what shes doing now when one queen gives advice and support to another it strengthens them.
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Jenny knows what shes doing now when one queen gives advice and support to another it strengthens them.
Whatever you say, Barbie
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(Original post by MynameisJenny)
Last night I had a bit to drink and an argument broke out, the argument wasn't completely my fault and I felt like my friends were picking on me and all ganging up on me. It was very hurtful.

Enough was enough and I was telling myself in my head that the next time one of them says something negative to me I am going to bark back and then leave, soon after thinking that one of them did say something and then that's when I let loose.

I walked to the door and said, why don't you all go and get something, like let me think... cancer? and then slammed the door shut and left. Although they were picking on me I regret what I said and I don't like to blame it on the fact I was drunk.

None of them are talking to me now and I don't know what to do, I've already told them that I didn't mean what I said and that I only said it because I was drunk and upset. Well, there's one person in the group that I don't really care about so last nights message still stands for the likes of him but the others I care about, we're really close.

What can I do to make it up to them? What should I do??
Well the first thing you could do is to sincerely say sorry to them for being so mean! The other thing you could do is to control your drinking. When people over drink they generally say and do stupid things.
Then you could go out with them and get back to normal.
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Lads don't argue like brats or storm out after having the piss taken out of them. It's all banter.
'Banter 'often means taking the p..s, and being rude and trying to get away with it. A useless form of pretending to be smart.
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Obviously, if you are drunk, you say things you don't mean. They may have been offended ( I would) but ultimately, friends forgive and understand. After they accept your apology, also explain to them that you were hurt by what they said. I hope they forgive you, holding grudges ruins everything - why don't you suggest you meet up or something. Maybe writing people letters is old-fashioned, but a really good way to show that you thought it through, and have written it down, if they refuse to see u, or a long text
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Last night I had a bit to drink and an argument broke out, the argument wasn't completely my fault and I felt like my friends were picking on me and all ganging up on me. It was very hurtful.

Enough was enough and I was telling myself in my head that the next time one of them says something negative to me I am going to bark back and then leave, soon after thinking that one of them did say something and then that's when I let loose.

I walked to the door and said, why don't you all go and get something, like let me think... cancer? and then slammed the door shut and left. Although they were picking on me I regret what I said and I don't like to blame it on the fact I was drunk.

None of them are talking to me now and I don't know what to do, I've already told them that I didn't mean what I said and that I only said it because I was drunk and upset. Well, there's one person in the group that I don't really care about so last nights message still stands for the likes of him but the others I care about, we're really close.

What can I do to make it up to them? What should I do??
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(Original post by mgi)
'Banter 'often means taking the p..s, and being rude and trying to get away with it. A useless form of pretending to be smart.
Banter is all about taking the p__s and being rude, hence why I literally said that in my comment. But it's funny.

'A useless form of pretending to be smart' not even remotely relevant or correct
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Apologise but say it's not working and real friends don't gang up on eachother so have a nice life.
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