What's going on?!

Anon please as people I know use TSR.

Well basically I've liked this guy for about a year, but nothing much has ever happened between the occasional bumping into each other on a night out and talking on msn, mostly (I think!) because we live in different (but near) cities and have both been in and out of relationships over the time we've known each other.

Well he was in my city at the weekend and I met up with him. It went really well and we spent all day together just hanging around and cuddling and stuff, it was really nice. However he went back home last night, and I text him saying thanks for a nice time, and how I hope to see him again, and he didn't reply. Now he's on msn and not talking to me. Argh.

I don't know what he wants as he was taking a lot of trouble to explain how there was nothing between him and his ex any more (when she tried to ring him when we were together) and seemed genuine. So I kinda thought maybe he wants us to be together (I do!), but we haven't mentioned anything about meeting up again and now he isn't talking to me. What's going on? Has anyone been in a similar situation before and could give me pointers? I'm beginning to wonder if I don't mean that much to him and was just a bit of fun/a time filler whilst he was in my city visiting family.

Reply 1

Sarahl89

15

maybe hes waiting for you to message him on msn. thats what i do. he maybe thinking exactly the same as you :P. Or if he has exams in the next couple of weeks maybe hes revising or maybe he wandered off from the computer & didnt notice you were online, or maybe hes run out of credit on his phone?? message him on msn?

Reply 2

prettylittlerichgirl

1

I think you are probably worrying over nothing, really. He might not be there on msn, he might not have credit. I'm in a similar but not identical situation and I always over-analyse every little thing that happens between us, especially when we have bumped into one another and I feel he should make slightly more of an effort...
Perhaps he just sees you as a friend and you have built up your crush on him into feeling like there is more there than there ever was?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Maybe he's not on msn, but I know that he's on contract. And he kept kissing me yesterday, so I don't think he sees me as just a friend? I dunnnno...

Reply 4

Aconite

17

Sounds like he might have had second thoughts. If you really want to know what's going on, call him and ask. Personally I wouldn't want to look as if I'm desperate to know, or desperate to gain his approval, so I'd probably keep quiet. However, I can be somewhat emotionally constipated at times, so maybe you might want to, y'know, do whatever you feel is best.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Aconite

Sounds like he might have had second thoughts. If you really want to know what's going on, call him and ask. Personally I wouldn't want to look as if I'm desperate to know, or desperate to gain his approval, so I'd probably keep quiet. However, I can be somewhat emotionally constipated at times, so maybe you might want to, y'know, do whatever you feel is best.

I'm worried so too, but I hope not!! He's the first guy in ages I've actually liked enough to want him to get in touch after yesterday. I just can't understand it if he has changed his mind, he was really affectionate and we parted really well.

But yeah I'm with you on the not phoning thing, I'm also refusing to text/messaging him again after my initial text, desperation is never a good look!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

*message

Reply 7

gbduo

15

First of all, that is a tune that song (i thought this was in Music), Stevie Wonder is a legend.

Give him a call, see what is the craic, then at least you will know in your head whether it is worth pursuing or not.

Reply 8

laura_180

If he doesn't get in contact within the next few days, call him up and find out what's going on :smile:

Reply 9

username158373

18

Here's what i think.

He thought he wanted you, met up with you, had a good time, gave it a go. But wasn't actually attracted to you as much as he wanted to be. And now he's afraid to talk to you for fear or hurting.

But then, what do i know :P?

Reply 10

Becca <3.

1

Hmm. I'd just leave him to it for the time being. I mean you've given him the chance to say what he thinks, and you've certainly let him know how you feel about it. The ball's in his court. If he doesn't get back to you within a week, you should ring him and ask straight out what the hell it was all about. :smile:

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

New development: He tried to phone me about an hour ago, but I missed the call. But I'm not brave enough to ring back, plus, I think he's at work and don't want to phone him at an inconvinient time. Argh...

Reply 12

Sapphire_Eyes

14

this text message - alter if needs be

'Hey sorry i missed your call *insert reason here*, you at work? Text me when you can when you can, *end message*'

and then when he does give him a call back

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Okay I text him asking if he phoned, he said he hadn't but I was the second person to ask him that today, then asked me a general question about my day, to which I replied, but he hasn't text back. I think I'm giving up on him right here and now...

Reply 14

Sapphire_Eyes

14

dont give up on him
maybe his phone went off, my mums did the other day in her pocket

he might just be a bit busy at the moment try him again later

Reply 15

tom_tom_tom

18

Well if he is at work still, or if he has finished, he may phone you when he isnt busy and wot not!

i wouldnt worry for now, just wait to see what he says

Reply 16

Anony mouse

10

I just looked into my crystal ball, and it clearly shows that you two will be a couple very soon.

:wink:

Reply 17

Aconite

17

Anonymous

Okay I text him asking if he phoned, he said he hadn't but I was the second person to ask him that today, then asked me a general question about my day, to which I replied, but he hasn't text back. I think I'm giving up on him right here and now...

Ohhhh, his phone called you 'accidently', did it? Damn, those silly phones. Always doing things they shouldn't. And of course, it would go straight to your number, out of all the numbers in the phonebook, wouldn't it?

He sounds like a right classy chap. I would ignore from this point on, unless he initates contact.

Reply 18

Kelly^2

13

Give it one last, solid go - i.e. speak to him on msn "i had a really good time yesterday/whenever you met up, do you fancy doing it again sometime soon?"
see what his reaction is to that, if it's not really positive then just play it cool.

Reply 19

Emily-Bas

Or on the other hand if he is still being like this you could ask him up front whether he was "playing" (so to speak, I couldn't think of a better term sorry). Seems like you really want to be with this guy so go for it, just don't let him walk over you.

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