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So you think you know what 'cheating' means?

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Reply 40

Cj-Tj
Define date then, my ex still comes out for a drink, just the two of us, same as we did when we were going out. Cheating? or just friends?


Do you tell your current partner about it?
If yes, then it's not cheating.

Reply 41

Cj-Tj
Sorry, but if my lass was involved in a sex scene that would most definatly be cheating.


In what way is it cheating? If it was part of her career and you knew it, then it's not cheating.

There is no dishonesty on her part, even though you do not consent to her acting out a sex scene.

It would only be cheating if she took part in a sex scene because she just wanted to have sex and was using acting as a legitimate excuse to do have it.

Reply 42

sugarlumps.
Do you tell your current partner about it?
If yes, then it's not cheating.


:confused: Wouldn't that depend a lot on what both of their intentions are? If they're just meeting as friends for a chat, then I see no harm in it.

Reply 43

Titch89
:confused: Wouldn't that depend a lot on what both of their intentions are? If they're just meeting as friends for a chat, then I see no harm in it.


You're right.

It's all about the intention in this case.

Reply 44

I would count it as cheating if my boyfriend full on snogged other girls in a club, but I don't count it as cheating when he goes out with his gay best friend and drunkenly pulls other guys (dont come telling me he's gay) just wanna know do you think I'm wrong in not counting that as cheating?

Reply 45

Who cares? Why is this in Health and Relationships? Move it to chat or somewhere like that please. What a load of rubbish..."oooh what is cheating?" :rolleyes:

Reply 46

Anonymous
I would count it as cheating if my boyfriend full on snogged other girls in a club, but I don't count it as cheating when he goes out with his gay best friend and drunkenly pulls other guys (dont come telling me he's gay) just wanna know do you think I'm wrong in not counting that as cheating?


I don't think you are wrong for not counting that as cheating. Let’s go back to one part of my definition of cheating:

participating in sexual activity with another person, without your partner's consent

As your boyfriend knows that he has your consent, it is not cheating.

Reply 47

Anonymous
I would count it as cheating if my boyfriend full on snogged other girls in a club, but I don't count it as cheating when he goes out with his gay best friend and drunkenly pulls other guys (dont come telling me he's gay) just wanna know do you think I'm wrong in not counting that as cheating?

if i'd count one as cheating, i would the other. snogging someone else is snogging someone else, regardless of gender.

Reply 48

dobbs
Who cares? Why is this in Health and Relationships? Move it to chat or somewhere like that please. What a load of rubbish..."oooh what is cheating?" :rolleyes:


A lot of people care.

This thread is in Health & Relationships because it is about relationships.

:confused:

Ok Mr 'I am cool', let’s see what highly interesting threads you start then:

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=11799470#post11799470
dobbs
TSR Demigod
Thread Starter
Hey guys....this is mainly for the IT geek type people


...Enough said.

Reply 49

Anony mouse
A lot of people care.

This thread is in Health & Relationships because it is about relationships.

:confused:

Ok Mr 'I am cool', let’s see what highly interesting threads you start then:

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=11799470#post11799470
dobbs
TSR Demigod
Thread Starter
Hey guys....this is mainly for the IT geek type people


...Enough said.


OMG LOOK HE POSTED A THREAD ASKING ABOUT DURHAM UNIVERSITY IN THE DURHAM UNIVERSITY FORUM NOOOOOOOO LOLZ!!!!!!!!!1!!1!!

:rolleyes:

My point is is that the H&R Forum is meant to be about problems/etc. which people can help with. I don't see a "problem" in this thread - it's just a discussion, which could be done in General Discussion or Chat or even (if you liked) Debate & Discussion.

If you had said "OK my boyfriend did something and he says it's not cheating but I think it is...what do you guys think? What do you class as cheating?" then fair enough. But you didn't. It just seems to be a discussion about the meaning of the word.

I don't mean any offence to you (unlike your lovely jab at my "coolness" because I started a thread asking how to access the Durham Uni network from home...still confused about how that makes me uncool?)....I'm just saying the thread belongs in a different place.

EDIT: Oh yeah, I see in your quote you try to make it sound like I've started a thread for all the "IT geek type people" to discuss in. No, if you look, the thread was ASKING those people - i.e. I have no idea what I'm doing so I needed help from those. Nice work :wink:

Reply 50

Cheating is when a person who knows theyr'e a boyfriend/girlfriend and starts to flirt and do anything past flirting with another person

Reply 51

Hmm...in my opinion, cheating is doing anything I wouldn't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend about. So, going to see a gig with my best male friend and staying over at his house afterwards is fine...as long as I tell him about it. I figure that if I don't want to tell him something then it means I feel like what I'm doing is wrong...and if it's wrong I shouldn't be doing it therefore it is cheating.

Personally, I would never go out for drinks on my own with a guy unless I told my boyfriend about it beforehand, or as soon as possible afterwards, regardless of how innocent our intentions were.

Reply 52

dobbs
OMG LOOK HE POSTED A THREAD ASKING ABOUT DURHAM UNIVERSITY IN THE DURHAM UNIVERSITY FORUM NOOOOOOOO LOLZ!!!!!!!!!1!!1!!

:rolleyes:

My point is is that the H&R Forum is meant to be about problems/etc. which people can help with. I don't see a "problem" in this thread - it's just a discussion, which could be done in General Discussion or Chat or even (if you liked) Debate & Discussion.

If you had said "OK my boyfriend did something and he says it's not cheating but I think it is...what do you guys think? What do you class as cheating?" then fair enough. But you didn't. It just seems to be a discussion about the meaning of the word.

I don't mean any offence to you (unlike your lovely jab at my "coolness" because I started a thread asking how to access the Durham Uni network from home...still confused about how that makes me uncool?)....I'm just saying the thread belongs in a different place.

EDIT: Oh yeah, I see in your quote you try to make it sound like I've started a thread for all the "IT geek type people" to discuss in. No, if you look, the thread was ASKING those people - i.e. I have no idea what I'm doing so I needed help from those. Nice work :wink:



i dont see the point in this post...does it really matter where the thread is posted? What difference does it make, really?
I just dont see why you feel the need to make such a useless and unnecessary point like this...
But if this is the way you release your angst then whatever...

Reply 53

Crumbles
i dont see the point in this post...does it really matter where the thread is posted? What difference does it make, really?
I just dont see why you feel the need to make such a useless and unnecessary point like this...
But if this is the way you release your angst then whatever...

You have 68 posts and have been a member for a month. Wait until you've been here for a long time and you'll realise that it's kinda annoying when people post irrelevant topics in places on TSR. Honestly it would be a fine thread in the right place, but it's not in the right place.

The point in that post was to reply to the question that Anony Mouse asked me, hope that's ok with you?

Oh and, what's the point in your post asking what's the point in my post? What's the point in that post after this one?

It does make a difference, trust me.

Reply 54

dobbs
You have 68 posts and have been a member for a month. Wait until you've been here for a long time and you'll realise that it's kinda annoying when people post irrelevant topics in places on TSR. Honestly it would be a fine thread in the right place, but it's not in the right place.

The point in that post was to reply to the question that Anony Mouse asked me, hope that's ok with you?

Oh and, what's the point in your post asking what's the point in my post? What's the point in that post after this one?

It does make a difference, trust me.


Yeah, ok...so i havent been here long, but ive seen enough to know that its people like you who get kinda annoying wasting time fannying around winging that people are putting threads in the wrong place
it doesnt matter a damn bit and no, it doesnt make a difference at all.
i leave it there...good day to you, sir.

Reply 55

Crumbles
Yeah, ok...so i havent been here long, but ive seen enough to know that its people like you who get kinda annoying wasting time fannying around winging that people are putting threads in the wrong place
it doesnt matter a damn bit and no, it doesnt make a difference at all.
i leave it there...good day to you, sir.

lol ok

love you too :love:

Reply 56

Anony mouse
In what way is it cheating? If it was part of her career and you knew it, then it's not cheating.


She was having sex with someone else- cheating! If she was "my girl" then it would be an exclusive relationship and she would know that. If she told me she would be shagging other people, for money or for pleasure, then it becomes a FB relationship, and I would look for another girl to have a proper relationship with.

Reply 57

PoisonDonna
Cheating is anything that you feel you have to lie about or hide from your partner, involving some other person.


But some people lie or hide things from their partners because their partner is just paranoid.

Would it be cheating if, for example, I didn't want my partner to speak to any of his female friends yet he spoke to one of them and didn't tell me about it?
You know guys. Everything im surrounded by lately TV, Mags, friends....is this:

"Love"
Breakup
"Love"
Breakup

Is there anything in life more fruitful than sex? Cause if there isn't I am fooshed.
Sometimes I question whether love exists between most people. Or it is just passion for raw flesh. Jesus Christ. Sorry I had to say that :confused:

Reply 59

Cj-Tj
She was having sex with someone else- cheating! If she was "my girl" then it would be an exclusive relationship and she would know that. If she told me she would be shagging other people, for money or for pleasure, then it becomes a FB relationship, and I would look for another girl to have a proper relationship with.


Ok, if that's how you feel about it then I can see why you would consider it to be cheating.

But what if your girlfriend took part in a theatre performance where she only had to snog someone, rather than have sex with him - would you count this as cheating?

I don't think it is cheating at all.

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