LGBTQIA+ Muslim!! I'm homeless, my parents disowned me! Help please!! Watch

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I want to transition from being female to male. I hate being a woman it's horrible for me.

it's not a sexual thing i'm asexual and aromantic i just don't feel like a girl. i hate feminine things i love short hair, boys clothes and video games.. i am a man on the inside not a woman..

My parents kicked me out and said I cannot return unless I stay as my assigned gender at birth. as a muslim i should obey my parents .


What should I do? Continue being female or leave but lose my family and be male?
Look, I know it's horrible for you, but I think that you should stay female for now and continue to live with your parents. If you hate them so much, then call a helpline. You were clearly subjected to abuse from them (that is kicking you out of the house) and you have every right to target them for abuse and to let the authorities deal with them. That being said, you may not want your parents to go on trial and that would mean having to live with them until you're an adult, I guess.

I would personally, take legal action against them as you seem to have suffered a lot from their ignorance.
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thanks i'll get in touch with them .. why do you not agree with being trans?
Glad to hear that. Hope you will stay safe.

Do you have anyone trusted other than your parents to discuss your situation and feelings with?

If you attend school you could find a time to speak with a trusted school staff, such as a school counsellor, school social worker or teacher (maybe email them).
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Lol so you are saying girls can’t like video games or short hair.
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firstly.. enjoying you calling an incredibly liberal/accepting person transphobic. Its a pretty telling thing to do...

Secondly.. i've been there and done the trans thing. take your time with it - don't rush into it, and remember a few things:

1, nothing magically changes after you come out.. its a long process if you do go down that route, and you need to be mentally capable of dealing with it - that starts with being stable enough before you set off, something which you don't seem to be.
2, you can express as much 'male' characteristics as you like without transitioning. You have 2 years until your an adult and can do what you like and leave home easily. It may be that the most sensible route is that you just be a really really boyish girl for the next two years, then when your at uni - do what ever the hell you want and your parents won't be able to do a thing
3, Gender non-conformity doesn't mean your transgender.. and mental-pain comes from many sources. Really take your time to question yourself and think whether your pain is caused by your gender, or whether there are wider reasons.


I ask you to think about them because from personal experience, they really matter. It may be that you go through all of it, and then still decide there is no option but to transition - in which case go to your GP and get the ball rolling if you can deal with your parents, if you cant, then wait..

For me, I have always been a bit of a gender-non conformist.. I could easily make the opposite list that you did about girl things.. and when I was going through a really bad time, I was really anxious, depressed and down, I thought the two were connected.. I am feeling awful, and I don't fully conform to my gender? I must be transgender, and this feeling must be dysphoria. After that its very easy to convince yourself that your feelings are real, and painful. No one can question you because only you know your feelings, so its really simple to have people believe you. Turns out for me though it was wrong, I caused myself years more of pain, lost a lot of people, created permanent scars in my relationships with my family, missed some of the potentially best years of my life... all of which led me to exile myself away from everything half of the way around the world. Turns out I am not transgender, I'm just a boy who has a few more feminine tendencies then most boys, and who gets along with girls better then boys.. turns out it wasn't dysphoria I was feeling it was an awful bout of depression with some other mental health issues thrown in, that I would eventually somewhat work my way through.

I wish I could say that I would have listened to myself back then, but honestly - if someone told me what I am telling you know, I would have told them to **** off for being a trans phobic ****.

Still, you can always try.
Yes, here's another thing. Just because you have boyish tendencies does not mean you have to be a boy. I hated contact sports like football and hated getting myself dirty (though I loved video games, I guess that counts as one) and still feel okay with being a boy. A gender is NOT a religion, not something that you must conform to. The only reasons where I see changing your permanent gender to be reasonable is where you have a genuine problem with the physicality of being female (such as not being, on average, as strong as males, not wanting to bear the pain of having a child, not feeling at ease with your feminine parts of the body, etc). Anything emotional is pointless and will only leave you grieving rather than cherishing the transition.

Being trans is not "a day in the life of a boy" like being gay is. It is a harsh, gruelling and tedious process so you'd want to give it a lot of thought before trying to do such a thing.
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Call childline immediately, call your local council as well, call homeless shelters, call close friends who are accepting.

Good luck <3
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Ever heard the story of Prophet Lut? not an insult just a question
especially about transgender there is i think one reference. called the mutarajjilat (trans)
This is truly just islamic knowledge about this. it isnt a way to go against you etc
(Original post by LGBTMuslim)
I am Muslim but I think being LGBT+ is natural in some people. I interpret my religion in a liberal and an open minded way. I'm not a muslim fundamentalist..
Tell me what to do?
What is your choice tell me please?
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