My boyfriend does not understand foreplay Watch

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We’ve been together for like 2 months and we’ve tried to have sex but he just rushes into it, he isn’t arsed about foreplay because he’s ‘ready’ where as for me sex is a mind game and it can only happen when i’m comfortable enough to do so. But he doesn’t build it up, he just goes straight in and tries to have sex with me but i’m never wet enough without foreplay. He thinks i’m inexperienced or whatever but i genuinely do feel awkward speaking to him about it ! Does anyone understand, and can somebody help me on something to say to him? This has happened numerous times, and each time we’ve failed to have sex.
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Just teach him.

Tell him what you want him to do.
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but what do i say to him? i feel embarrassed
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He sounds selfish. If he doesn’t care about your needs or is that oblivious, then maybe it’s time to move on. Try talking to him first. Just tell him what you like and don’t be embarrassed. If you don’t say something, then your resentment will fester and it’ll create further problems.
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I know this one all too well, smh.

Just try to guide him in the right direction, suggest things that would make you tick. Or if talking is too embarrassing/awkward, take his hands and guide him.
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but what do i say to him? i feel embarrassed
You say "Could you try doing [insert sexual preference here]?" in a nice way of course.

Nothing to be embarrassed about, if you want him to change then you have to tell him.
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well he’s just left my house now but it happened again and i kinda went in a mood with him lol he’s now left and he’s asking me what was wrong and i really want to mention it to him but i don’t know how to go about it
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Then send him an article on foreplay or a relevant link.

But really this day and age - no foreplay AND he can't pick up that there's a problem?

Get a better model!
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he’s just left my house now and it happened again tonight, i kinda went in a mood with him about it but i didn’t talk about it, he’s left now and texting me asking me what was wrong and i want to tell him but i really don’t know how to go about it. Like what do i say, can you plz finger me or ? 😂😂 just feel super awkward
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Tell him straight up he needs to make you horny and he doesn't. Confront him with the truth, don't walk around it.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
We’ve been together for like 2 months and we’ve tried to have sex but he just rushes into it, he isn’t arsed about foreplay because he’s ‘ready’ where as for me sex is a mind game and it can only happen when i’m comfortable enough to do so. But he doesn’t build it up, he just goes straight in and tries to have sex with me but i’m never wet enough without foreplay. He thinks i’m inexperienced or whatever but i genuinely do feel awkward speaking to him about it ! Does anyone understand, and can somebody help me on something to say to him? This has happened numerous times, and each time we’ve failed to have sex.
To be honest, this is one of the beauties of being a lesbian.
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Then send him an article on foreplay or a relevant link.

But really this day and age - no foreplay AND he can't pick up that there's a problem?

Get a better model!
I agree. He just wants to get his end away and doesn’t care about you. You can’t teach someone to be sensual or sensitive and there are plenty of other men out there. If he’s young it’s more understandable. 25+ and forget about it.
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dont be so submissive just take the lead he should be enjoying pleasuring you and then himself tbh
if he cant get it then abstain sex untill he plays fair
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urgh it’s so hard because i don’t know how to tell him i feel this way because i genuinely feel embarrassed, he’ll finger me for like a minute and won’t kiss me or anything and then he tries to have sex with me and then looks at me asif it’s my fault it won’t work !
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sick of it lol
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If he tries to stick it in straight away just put your hand in front of your vag and be all like "nuh-uh-uhhhhhhh - you gots to lick it first, boy".
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i really want to tell him how i feel but i’m embarrassed peopleeeee
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He’ll finger me for no more than a minute, he won’t even kiss me sometimes when we are getting sexual and then he’ll question me as to why it won’t go in
If he doesn’t even kiss you, then he really just views it as a mechanical act. Find someone better.
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I agree i should just tell him how it is
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If he doesn’t even kiss you, then he really just views it as a mechanical act. Find someone better.
what is a mechanical act?
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