Hello,
I'm learning how to drive, I'm pretty new- just doing roundabouts and starting to meet traffic. It's going on pretty well, and I enjoy driving even if it can be a bit challenging but I hate going in for lessons because of my instructor.
I never try to criticise my teachers/tutors but this one really irritates me. Whenever we change sides and I start driving, he guides me along telling me where to turn, switch on my lights, change gears etc. This is fine. I appreciate his guidance. I would probably be causing all sorts of trouble without his help.
Here's the problem. If I make a mistake, like I don't slow down quickly enough, or break too hard or get confused at a junction or another stupid mistake learners do while driving, he tries to get into my head to find out why I did it. We park the car somewhere and he starts asking me what my thought process was when I made that mistake. He goes over and over what I did and trying to find out what I was thinking and feeling at the time I did it. This really gets to me and makes what I actually find fun and productive, really stressful.
I'm a pretty introverted person and I don't like talking about my feelings at all with strangers so I would much rather he said something like: "You did this. You were supposed to do this. Do this next time." and I think I would respond much better to that kind criticism.
I'm often overly sensitive so I don't know if I'm taking this too seriously. I know he has good intentions and probably only does this as his way of teaching. I don't know if I should tell him anything or just put up with it. I really don't want to tell him anything and make things more awkward, perhaps someone has some tips on dealing with this?
(Another thing that he does is pressure me to ask questions, which causes me to ask stupid ones that he takes way to long in answering. But I guess that's life :/)
Thanks.