Don't want to live at uni but it's the better uni Watch

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I want to go to a better university to prove myself that I can do well, however, in doing so I would have to live there an that is something I am not comfortable with.

I feel incompetent and not capable of supporting an independent lifestyle such as cooking and shopping whilst handling my studies.

Either I go to a lesser ranking university or somehow get over these feelings but I don't know how. Is anyone else feeling similarly or have any advice?

Thanks, I need the help
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I'd go to the better one, there's plenty of life support at uni's. You could take cooking classes on the side or something, although these things sound daunting being independent isn't as hard as you'd think. Do food shopping and whatnot with friends you make, that way you're not dealing with it alone. You're going to have to learn these things in life eventually so why not tackle it now?
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(Original post by MidgetFever)
I'd go to the better one, there's plenty of life support at uni's. You could take cooking classes on the side or something, although these things sound daunting being independent isn't as hard as you'd think. Do food shopping and whatnot with friends you make, that way you're not dealing with it alone. You're going to have to learn these things in life eventually so why not tackle it now?
But how do you have time for your studies if you're managing all of that?

Plus learning in this way involves others going through the same situation, which could be both a good and bad thing as it could cause conflict and pressure
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I was really nervous, when i went to Uni unsure on how to do a few of those things, but if it's your first year you should not have to compormise. You should just go on Youtube, as they often have helpful guides on what to do if your unsure. You'll find the time. As even if you study straight from 9-6. You still have 5/6 hours before you go to sleep to learn these things
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But how do you have time for your studies if you're managing all of that?

Plus learning in this way involves others going through the same situation, which could be both a good and bad thing as it could cause conflict and pressure
I mean, you won't be studying 24/7 so you'll definitely have time to whip up a half hour meal. Or find a bunch of oven dishes you can make so you can study whilst it's cooking. There's plenty of websites out there for quick/easy meals to make. BBC GoodFood is usually a good place to start.

And yes but use that to your advantage, take turns cooking eachother meals or invite your newfound friends over for dinner. That way you can have a nice meal and revise together, I'm sure it'll be much appreciated. Me and my friend often cook for eachother and it's a nice little study break.
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But how do you have time for your studies if you're managing all of that?

Plus learning in this way involves others going through the same situation, which could be both a good and bad thing as it could cause conflict and pressure
Your studies leave loads of time for the daily tasks of life and lots more for fun/relaxing. Cooking/shopping/cleaning are not complicated and you'll manage fine. Why not ask uour parents if you can start taking on some responsibilities to practice?
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But how do you have time for your studies if you're managing all of that?

Plus learning in this way involves others going through the same situation, which could be both a good and bad thing as it could cause conflict and pressure
Did you look at unis with catered halls? That would give you some independence without having to cook every meal
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I want to go to a better university to prove myself that I can do well, however, in doing so I would have to live there an that is something I am not comfortable with.

I feel incompetent and not capable of supporting an independent lifestyle such as cooking and shopping whilst handling my studies.

Either I go to a lesser ranking university or somehow get over these feelings but I don't know how. Is anyone else feeling similarly or have any advice?

Thanks, I need the help
As others have suggested, you won't be studying all the time and you'll have plenty of time to cook and clean. It's normal to be nervous for it but start by learning how to cook and budget now and it'll be much easier when you move.
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You'll actually have a boat load of time, don't worry. First year is super relaxed, and doesn't even count towards your degree for the vast majority of courses. Definitely go to the better one, because its better, and because the whole process of living on your own and being thrown out of your comfort zone/friendship groups will really mature you and help you grow as a person. Sounds cliche, but it's true. Totally worth the extra nerves.
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Thanks for this advice, I keep forgetting that the first year is a recap to get all students up to the same level of understanding so shouldn't take too long. Do you get to meet the people you will live with before you move in at the universities you went to?
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