He doesn't want sex anymore? Help from girls and boys please!)

Im 18 and my bf is 23. Ive been with him for nearly 2 years, i lost my virginity to him last year. We had been having regular sex until about 3 months ago. He still wants kiss and cuddle but nothing sexually intimate. Im really confused he hasnt changed towards me in other aspects. just doesnt seem to be interested in sex anymore? Am i over exaggerating or is there someone wrong?

OK WELL THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR THEIR ANSWERS BUT HOW AM I SUPPOSE TO APPRAOCH THE SUBJECT WITHOUT BEING INSENSITIVE?

Reply 1

in_vogue

3

He could be stressed, tired, depressed...do you think that could be it?

Reply 2

squeak

21

talk to him... he may be stressed/worried/tired...

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

It's been proven that couples once past the initial get as much sex as you can phase, your bodies realise that it can procreate whenever it likes, and so moves to occasional sex and more intimate stuff. Although as far as I know this is more true of women.

Reply 4

strawberryblue

OP

When i did mention it a few weeks ago he didnt take it to well. He said that i shouldnt be in a relationship with him if thats all i cared about. obviously it isnt thats why were still together. does anyone else think he could be cheating? He has been tired, stressed etc at work but could that really affect are sex life?

Reply 5

strawberryblue

OP

squeak

talk to him... he may be stressed/worried/tired...

When i did mention it a few weeks ago he didnt take it to well. He said that i shouldnt be in a relationship with him if thats all i cared about. obviously it isnt thats why were still together. does anyone else think he could be cheating? He has been tired, stressed etc at work but could that really affect are sex life?

Reply 6

sophisticated

17

Talk to him about it, its the only way you can find out.
Tell him that the sudden change in behaviour is concerning you, this should help him to open up..

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

strawberryblue

When i did mention it a few weeks ago he didnt take it to well. He said that i shouldnt be in a relationship with him if thats all i cared about. obviously it isnt thats why were still together. does anyone else think he could be cheating? He has been tired, stressed etc at work but could that really affect are sex life?

personal, please de-anon

yes it can

when my bf is worried or stressed he cant 'perform', just try to give time and don't keep on asking him to many times :smile:

Reply 8

squeak

21

you need to be soooo sensitive with this area. I doubt he's cheating, if he was he would try and make things as normal as possible so you wouldnt be suspect, surely? and seriously tiredness and stress and really affect some guys. esp their libido.

two words: He's gay.

Decrease the price

OP

Fusion

Decrease the price

im not a prostitute!

Reply 12

Bebbs

3

suggest a threesome?

if he picks a woman he doesnt fancy you,
if he picks a man hes gay

Reply 13

alenax

14

Come on guys, I'd get really paranoid if this happened to me!

When guys go through a lot of stress at work, they don't exactly feel sexy. You'll make yourself look better if instead of nagging him about it (I know you're not 'nagging' as such), you'll just be content with a kiss and cuddle for a while, that way he'll feel confident that you love him for him and not for his willy and he doesn't need to be a stallion constantly in order to seem attractive to you.

Try talking to him about work, what's worrying him, try to come up with solutions to problems or just make soothing noises or bitch about the people he doesn't like with him.

Reply 14

strawberryblue

OP

ExeterLad

suggest a threesome?

if he picks a woman he doesnt fancy you,
if he picks a man hes gay

thats quite funny could say that as a joke. but its a sensitive subject! It strange how the blokes think hes gay and the girls think it because hes stressed hmm??

Reply 15

Josh145

strawberryblue

im not a prostitute!

haha they're just winding you up lol.

Its really probably not worth worrying about. Sometimes (and this is really rare) we stop thinking just about sex and want more emotional stuff.

DON'T go off and accuse him of something. Be sensitive and don't say anything that can hurt his pride (proper minefield).

Good Luck, Josh

Reply 16

General Omnipotent Deity

He doesnt want sex. maybe you had sex to much and he got bored. Give him orgasms in some other way. Chess perhaps, or backgammon.... after nine months of that he'll be up for sex again. Just do something else for a while.

Reply 17

alenax

14

The guys are saying that just because they want to annoy the OP.

Reply 18

lab513

it's definitely true that after the honeymoon period, people don't want sex nearly as much. Different hormones kick in that make you want to cuddle more (both for guys and girls) I think because your body knows it wants to settle down. and definitely don't underestimate the impact of stress and tiredness of guys' libido - different guys respond more than others but sometimes they just can't be bothered, even if they do want it. Maybe suggest he takes zinc pills (or if you want to be subtle, just get a multivitamin with some in it and suggest you both start taking it to be a bit healthier), I think zinc's meant to help boost blokes libido.

Reply 19

Big Stu

strawberryblue

thats quite funny could say that as a joke. but its a sensitive subject! It strange how the blokes think hes gay and the girls think it because hes stressed hmm??

stressed/ gay same thing

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