Why don't you like fat people? People don't like me because I'm fat.

Well about 1 1/2 years ago i was a size 10 - 12, weighed 10 stone, went to the Gym and went to bed hungry every night. I had been doing this since i was about 14. Then i decided I don't want to live like this, i simply love food too much! My parents are also very well off so there is always a lot of nice food in the house.

I thought the downside would be that I didn't look as attractive, which was not a big thing for me. I am the least vain person out there, I never wear make up. But (so I've been told) I was one of those girls who looked very pretty without makeup. I was the prom queen at school & was sort of "known" for being attractive. But I really do not care about looks, they were wasted on me i guess.

So anyway I thought the only downside was that I'd be less attractive, and maybe have less energy. I started eating lots of yummy fatty foods (and healthy fats such as from nuts etc which i LOVE).

Anyway I have a VERY slow metabolism. I know this because I had to practically starve to be a size 10 - 12, when my size 6 friends just ate whatever.

But EVERYTHING has gone wrong, my life has been ruined from the weight gain. Every aspect of my life.

- My long term boyfriend dumped me. Yes he was shallow, but he did stick with me for a while.
- My friends abandoned me because they didn't want to be "seen" with somebody my size
- I have been bullied at sixthform because of my weight.
- I lost my JOB. (I was a waitress; I enjoyed it a lot and got £7.50 an hour, now I know why all the girls who work there are stunning - he discriminates on looks).
- Even small things like getting into clubs - Bouncers say the club is full a lot - i NEVER got this before.
- Builders shout abuse at me, before I'd get whistled at (which made me feel uncomfortable).

You may think my friends are shallow idiots (as is my ex) but I've seen some of the threads in here, the way people talk about obese people.

I just had no idea my life would change so much. I thought as long as I'm still the same girl and my confidence is good then everything will be the same.

So...Do you have a problem with fat people? How would you feel if somebody close to you gained A LOT of weight?

Reply 1

Cutie Xx

1

This has been said many times before OP. I dont think the weight gain is the only problem here. Sure, it may have dented your confidence, but its not the cause of all your problems. That getting into clubs thing is SO NOT because of your weight.

What size are you?

Reply 2

strawberryblue

what is your actual size? are you really overweight or have you just gained a few pounds. i think that you so called friends should support u in what u choose to do not take the piss ditch them and get new mates. find a better bf. tell them to watch that film shallow hal its a good one

Reply 3

ninety_nine

12

People just find fat people an easy target. Moreover they think it's more 'acceptable' because it's a self-inflicted thing, not like being sexist, racist etc. Obviously it's a stupid philosophy but that seems to be the thick of it.

As for your problems, it's horrible the way you've discovered how vain people are. You may not want to make a fuss but if you're employer seems to have fired you solely on your looks I'd take it up with them. A horrible way to treat people!

Reply 4

Redlime

9

im really sorry you feel your life has gone so wrong since gaining weight.
i mean, obviously i would say that if you are happy being and looking the way you do then great, but its quite obvious you arent.
your friends and boyfriend cannot have been that loyal if they are willing to ditch you over weight gain.
fat people are looked at in a bad way to be honest, and im not sure why, it doesnt bother me in the slightest, but then im a girl who has been up and down with her weight.
when it comes down to it you could stop eating and go back to not being happy in yourself or you could just do what makes you happy, and aslong as its healthy, you should be ok in the long term. =]

Reply 5

PinkMobilePhone

22

my husband weighs almost 28 stone

I'd rather he lost weight for health reasons, but not for superficial reasons. I'd certainly never leave him for how he looks.

Reply 6

laura-rad

2

May I ask what size you are now?

I'd never judge a person on their weight, a few of my friends aren't exactly the skinniest of them all. I like them for their personality.

Reply 7

fatal

12

I'm not size 10-12 and I've never felt discriminated against tbh maybe you just have to secure in yourself,

Reply 8

M.A.H

17

those people jus aint worth ur time

Reply 9

Anony mouse

10

Generally and simplistically speaking, people don't like fat people because being fat is frowned upon by society and so people instinctively want to protect themselves from being associated with the 'fat' image.

Have I ever been guilty of this? Yes

Am I morally wrong for this? Yes

Am I ashamed of myself for this: Yes

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

fatal

I'm not size 10-12 and I've never felt discriminated against tbh maybe you just have to secure in yourself,

No I am secure in myself. Like i said before I'm really not vain and don't bother doing anything like makeup to make myself look better. I think part of the reason is because people know what I looked like before (from sixthform_ and now it's like I'm a completely different person to them.

I've not changed though. In fact when I was thinner I was a lot more bad tempered and less fun because i was starving hungry all the time. Now I'm more bubbly and happy (well not atm since it has all gone wrong).

Reply 11

fatal

12

what size are you though?

Reply 12

hippieglitter

19

My boyfriend is just over 19 stone he is losing weight for health reasons but i wouldn't dump him if he didn't want to lose weight or put on more weight. I have gained two stone resulting in me now being overweight myself since i got with my boyfriend and he hasn't shown any sign of wanting to dump me. You friends and your ex boyfriend are shallow and horrible people. Find some new friends who like you for you. If you don't want/need to lose weight don't. If you are happy with the way you look it doesn't matter what other people think. You are the only person whose opinion matters.

Reply 13

thepinkpowerranger

13

I'm not a size 10 - 12 and I don't feel discriminated against because of it. People who don't want to know you/hang out with you/get to be friends with the cool person you are aren't worth it.

I used to think a lot of things, most of them weren't true but if you see the world in that way then that's how it's going to be. Believe it and it happens.

p.s. Ironically in another thread I just said I didn't fancy "fat" guys... but also said I go for the person not cos of how they look. Personality can totally change how I see a person anyway. I'm gonna shut up now!

Reply 14

LickingTheLidOfLife

Perhaps you shouldn't worry what people think and do what you want - some people like the fuller figure and others dont , what matters is that you are comfortable with your look!

Reply 15

watermelon sugar

14

honestly, sometimes i feel intimidated by reallly overweight people. but it's purely because they're physically bigger than me and i'm often intimidated in a way by people bigger than me, taller or wider.

some people just don't find over weight men or women attractive, i guess your ex was one of those people.

i'm not menaing to be horrible, just these are the only things i can think of to answer you as size rarely matters to me!

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

Narkissos

Perhaps you shouldn't worry what people think and do what you want - some people like the fuller figure and others dont , what matters is that you are comfortable with your look!

What do you mean not worry what people think?! I didn't. Until i lost my boyfriend (who I was in love with), my friends just stopped talking to me, I was FIRED from a job I enjoyed so much. It's not as simple as not caring. Like I said how I look does not affect my confidence or how I behave.

Reply 17

Custer

1

I must admit I don't really like or befriend fat people, particularly girls.

I would advise you to loose the weight, this is a cold world, looks are very important, this experience should teach you a lesson about 'not caring how you look' and you should rightfully learn from it.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

watermelon sugar

honestly, sometimes i feel intimidated by reallly overweight people. but it's purely because they're physically bigger than me and i'm often intimidated in a way by people bigger than me, taller or wider.

some people just don't find over weight men or women attractive, i guess your ex was one of those people.

i'm not menaing to be horrible, just these are the only things i can think of to answer you as size rarely matters to me!

I know he doesn't, it's just we were together through school for three years, he always said he loves me for me and preffers me without makeup, doesn't care about looks at all. Now i know it was bull****, but still a bit late.

Don't worry you wern't horrible i appreciate honesty :smile:

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

eyeknow

I must admit I don't really like or befriend fat people, particularly girls.

Well, you need to loose the weight, this is a cold world, looks are very important, this experience should teach you a lesson about 'not caring how you look' and you should rightfully learn from it.

Well I've experienced this first hand. It really disturbs me, call me naive but I could not have anticipated how shallow the world is.

Yes i have "learnt my lesson" :rolleyes:

thanks. You make it sound as if I've committed some sort of offence.

Why don't you like fat people? People don't like me because I'm fat.

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