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Boys do you feel tempted..

I go through phases with my boyfriend of complete and utter trust and not trusting him at all. Well, it's more the case of not trusting other people. I don't know if this is because I myself have a fair few boy friends who I might text or talk to (though I'm completely in love with my boyfriend and would never ever cheat on him/100% devoted). So maybe it's that I know myself it's fairly easy to get close to others...

I think it's mainly his friends that I don't trust as they're completely jealous of me and him together. They can't get g/fs, hold them down and they know how much we see each other etc. Now anyway, what I am trying to ask is this...

Boys if you knew your mate had a good relationship, when you were out together would you egg them on to do daft things? I know that I obviously have an insecurity, and that even if somebody pushed you to do something, you shouldn't...but how likely is it?

And also, to boys with girlfriends, when you're out on the town, do you ever feel tempted to do something you'd regret?

Silly questions, I just feel in one of those irrational panics today about nothing. Plus, it doesn't help that my boyfriend is a complete geek, so to others it's real fun getting him pissed out of his head, and encouraging him to do things. Before he was serious with me (though great friends), they did coerce him into a lap dancing club. I don't know..I just don't feel right about his friends, they have been known to tell him to take a break from me and go out and have fun (typical boy speak but still)..
Anonymous

Boys if you knew your mate had a good relationship, when you were out together would you egg them on to do daft things?


No.

What kind of horrible friends do you have? Seriously...
Reply 2
They're not my friends at all! They're his, (and I've only met one of them), despite being together for 2 years. They're very very jealous of us. One time my b/f went out to a houseparty, and said he'd be back at midnight, I was round his house. He stumbled in the next day with the worst hangover ever (he rarely drinks much), and in the meantime I'd been calling him, as he had just started a job, so I asked what time he'd be back..In the background they were saying things like 'come to bed x' and making out things were happening. So he never came back until the morning and left me to sleep in his bed - these actions are so out of character, but happen when he's with these people.
Oh and his friend at the party sent msn messages to him knowing I would see them, as I was the only one in his room saying 'dump your g.f etc'.
I'm at a good university, not a bad catch, they're really jealous.
Another time they told him he had to pussy foot around me, which is untrue.
Now I have an absolute phobia of his friends - I guess I should just forget it, because if whatever happened, it would be his total loss...but I just don't like them..!
im amazed how many acutely immature people there still are at university level (his friends not you)
Reply 4
They're major ***** but if they're truly his friends, they'll come before essentially everyone else in life. That's the way it works, if you interfere it'll get worse, not better. Best if you try hooking him up with more mature & secure people.
Reply 5
aww they seem like typical boys to be honest, mean, easily made jelous, selfish and just generally daft.
Maybe it would be worth just warning your bf that they might try to trick him and coax him into doing things, and for him to be strong willed and resist it when they do.

I'm sure his stronger alleigencies lie with you, so don't worry :smile:

Regards, uth
Reply 6
Ah see that's the thing, they're not university level really, well some of them are. I'm at a great uni, my b/f never went to uni. My b/f is very mature and serious for his age, so he's such a target for this kind of thing.
And yes, I have found that if I get in the way it drives him to them, there's one friend who I don't hate or even majorly dislike but who seems to be very very jealous and unwelcoming towards me, and if I mention anything, it makes him think I'm the bad one.
So I guess I should just leave it. At the end of the day, if he did do something he'd lose a good girlfriend, so I should just stop panicking.
Reply 7
aha good attitude!

Good on yer! :biggrin:

regards, uth
At least on the phone call they were probably just taking the mick (kind of like when someones on the phone to their parent's and we used to shout stuff like put that fag out etc).
Reply 9
No as a guy I totally get where your coming from, i am so bad to my girlfriend with doing stupid stuff, not always with other girls but getting into trouble and such, and she's always there for me when i need her. To be honest one day i'll lose her if i carry this on, example rugby tour probably the worst, did everything you shouldnt do, girls, police, too much drinking etc. thing is any messing around i do i totally regret and she knows this.

Problem is i genuinely am a nice guy i just live for the moment and dont think of the consequences, what sort of a guy is your boyfriend? does he act first thing later or think then act
Anonymous
they have been known to tell him to take a break from me and go out and have fun (typical boy speak but still)..



and seriously dont worry about that, almost every guy mate will say that before a night out etc, i and i think everyother taken guy just ignores this to be honest
Reply 11
Maybe is because you haven't seen them that they're getting the wrong impression about you like you think you're better than him?

Normally a guy will put his proper mates before a girl so if you want to be with him then its up to you to make the effort to get to know his friends and not up to them to make the effort to come and get to know you.
Reply 12
Anonymous
I go through phases with my boyfriend of complete and utter trust and not trusting him at all. Well, it's more the case of not trusting other people. I don't know if this is because I myself have a fair few boy friends who I might text or talk to (though I'm completely in love with my boyfriend and would never ever cheat on him/100% devoted). So maybe it's that I know myself it's fairly easy to get close to others...

I think it's mainly his friends that I don't trust as they're completely jealous of me and him together. They can't get g/fs, hold them down and they know how much we see each other etc. Now anyway, what I am trying to ask is this...

Boys if you knew your mate had a good relationship, when you were out together would you egg them on to do daft things? I know that I obviously have an insecurity, and that even if somebody pushed you to do something, you shouldn't...but how likely is it?

And also, to boys with girlfriends, when you're out on the town, do you ever feel tempted to do something you'd regret?


Silly questions, I just feel in one of those irrational panics today about nothing. Plus, it doesn't help that my boyfriend is a complete geek, so to others it's real fun getting him pissed out of his head, and encouraging him to do things. Before he was serious with me (though great friends), they did coerce him into a lap dancing club. I don't know..I just don't feel right about his friends, they have been known to tell him to take a break from me and go out and have fun (typical boy speak but still)..


i dont and never have,
nor do my friends but...

some of the lads who dont have girlfriends or havent,
that dont understand or are just a bit thick
do egg eachother on a bit..

if you got a good one its no cause for concern, depends if he wants to suck up to the lads doing the pushing!
Don't listen to his mates.

You're probably right about jealousy. Just a bunch of insecure saddos trying to bring others down.