Advice for someone who has been away from society/social media for 3-4 years Watch

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As soon as Sixth Form finished for me in 2015, I decided I wanted to delete all my social media and just wanted to rest, to be alone, to get away from everything. When it was time for to start University after that summer, I dropped out. I felt so much pressure and anxiety that I felt like an outcast, that I couldn't fit in. After dropping out due to mentally not being able to handle life in general I have been at home ever since. I haven't talked to any friends in ages, not that they haven't done anything but I just wanted to be alone. I'm not sure what I'm suffering from, whether that social anxiety etc.

I have recently found a job and I am starting soon. I see this as my opportunity to get back into society and once again socialise. But I feel I can't move on, I feel my emotions take control of me and makes me fear anything I try to do. How do I get past that? How do I get back into society?

I need advice.
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Hey, im glad that you finally feel like you are ready to make this change. I'm glad you opened up about it. See heres the thing. Social media can be super intimidating. people that are super confident, egotistical, and have no self esteem issues also find themselves struggle with the peer pressure and the judgement one gets from social media.
Its hard to exactly pin point what you are suffering from, but from what you've written, it does seem to be social anxiety. A lot of people face this on different levels, and im glad you are deciding to fight back. But what exactly are you afraid of? Yes the world wide web can be a scary place, but a lot of us are like you, we also have issues and insecurities and if you manage to stay on the right side of things, you should be able to enjoy memes just like the rest of us.
Remember, at the end of the day, what you see on social media isnt really who everyone is. People dont post about how they are struggling with office work or how they have no social life.. people post about their highs in life and its important to remember that social media is an escape. Like little kids say, people 'in real life' are different.
since you are entering a new phase of your life, youll be making new friends, and you can add them on social media and grow your circle from there. so this may actually be a good time to start.
just fyi im just a teenager so my advice probably shouldnt be taken as gospel, but i do what i can to help. i hope this helped at least a little
(Original post by Anonymous)
As soon as Sixth Form finished for me in 2015, I decided I wanted to delete all my social media and just wanted to rest, to be alone, to get away from everything. When it was time for to start University after that summer, I dropped out. I felt so much pressure and anxiety that I felt like an outcast, that I couldn't fit in. After dropping out due to mentally not being able to handle life in general I have been at home ever since. I haven't talked to any friends in ages, not that they haven't done anything but I just wanted to be alone. I'm not sure what I'm suffering from, whether that social anxiety etc.

I have recently found a job and I am starting soon. I see this as my opportunity to get back into society and once again socialise. But I feel I can't move on, I feel my emotions take control of me and makes me fear anything I try to do. How do I get past that? How do I get back into society?

I need advice.
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Honestly the fact I got this mature level of advice from a teenager speaks volumes and I thank you for that. It was just after that summer where I didn't talk to any of my friends, going into University I felt I lost all my confidence in interacting in general. I was afraid of the "world", from my point of view it was somehow distorted and became afraid of everything I did. I questioned what was my passion, where do I see myself in the future. I can say that I drowned myself in my thoughts rather than trying and started overthinking everything. I couldn't do anything I wanted to try due to my thoughts. "You are your own worst enemy" about sums it up. I just thought that being away for so long that I wouldn't be able to reconnect with society. I guess being at home for 3 years had its positives but also negatives.

I feel like putting myself out there to finally get a job is a first step, maybe I can make new friends or try re-engaging with old friends. I'll probably find my passion along the way, interests always change so I don't think I can no longer just sit around in my thoughts.
(Original post by Anonymous)
Hey, im glad that you finally feel like you are ready to make this change. I'm glad you opened up about it. See heres the thing. Social media can be super intimidating. people that are super confident, egotistical, and have no self esteem issues also find themselves struggle with the peer pressure and the judgement one gets from social media.
Its hard to exactly pin point what you are suffering from, but from what you've written, it does seem to be social anxiety. A lot of people face this on different levels, and im glad you are deciding to fight back. But what exactly are you afraid of? Yes the world wide web can be a scary place, but a lot of us are like you, we also have issues and insecurities and if you manage to stay on the right side of things, you should be able to enjoy memes just like the rest of us.
Remember, at the end of the day, what you see on social media isnt really who everyone is. People dont post about how they are struggling with office work or how they have no social life.. people post about their highs in life and its important to remember that social media is an escape. Like little kids say, people 'in real life' are different.
since you are entering a new phase of your life, youll be making new friends, and you can add them on social media and grow your circle from there. so this may actually be a good time to start.
just fyi im just a teenager so my advice probably shouldnt be taken as gospel, but i do what i can to help. i hope this helped at least a little
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The more time you spend around different people, the more you'll feel comfortable with it. Any fear you have in life can be conquered via desensitisation.
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see thats a huge step in the right direction. You not only have identified your fears, but you have also admitted them to yourself. And now you want to overcome them. Thats amazing. A lot of us can't do that. The fact that you want to see change alone, proves that you are a changed person, that you are brave and strong and capable of doing this.
And you're right, meeting new people and understanding new ideas and beliefs can help you understand yourself better, so getting out there may actually help you more than you think.
Dont be too worried about it. Just be yourself, be open to new people and new things, im sure you'll find that society isnt that horrible after all.
im sure you'll make some great memories with all your new friends
((I'm glad i could help. ))
(Original post by Anonymous)
Honestly the fact I got this mature level of advice from a teenager speaks volumes and I thank you for that. It was just after that summer where I didn't talk to any of my friends, going into University I felt I lost all my confidence in interacting in general. I was afraid of the "world", from my point of view it was somehow distorted and became afraid of everything I did. I questioned what was my passion, where do I see myself in the future. I can say that I drowned myself in my thoughts rather than trying and started overthinking everything. I couldn't do anything I wanted to try due to my thoughts. "You are your own worst enemy" about sums it up. I just thought that being away for so long that I wouldn't be able to reconnect with society. I guess being at home for 3 years had its positives but also negatives.

I feel like putting myself out there to finally get a job is a first step, maybe I can make new friends or try re-engaging with old friends. I'll probably find my passion along the way, interests always change so I don't think I can no longer just sit around in my thoughts.
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