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first person you ever loved??

Okay i was wondering does anyone ever forget the first person that they ever loved?? As daft as it sounds every man ive been with since i compare to him. It was a long term relationship but i havent found anyone else who i can relate with so closely!! I have no contact with this man who i consider my first love but i think about him alot. Even if i were to look for him its too late and i dont know where in the world he could be! It wasnt like a bad breakup its just i wanted to persue my career and he said he couldnt get in the way of that and he had to let me do my own thing!! The only reason we lost touch is because i lost my phone and i think he'd moved abroad by then - i didnt have an e-mail address. It seems to much.
How do i get this man out of my head and move on, its been too long to still be thinking about him!

Me

my mum.

mama

I think part of you will always remember the first person that you loved. I still remember mine and although I don't love him anymore, I still wonder what he's up to and how we'd have been if we were still together.

Reply 5

Mousickle

14

I dont think you will ever forget them. but you will get over it even if it doesnt seem like that now.

Alot of the time if you are having substandard relationships that you arent happy with you will latch onto the last time you were happy. I mean I bet if you really saw this guy again you would be less impressed. Mayve its more the idea of him and the kind of relationship you had that you are in love with.

And if its good ld fashion mourning for the loss of your relationship, time really does heal.

Reply 6

lolimemma

15

I haven't forgotten him, I still speak to him as a friend and would probably still hit that.

Reply 7

Schmokie Dragon

17

Well, I still remember the first person I ever thought I loved.

Whether it was true love or not is another matter.

Reply 8

Fusion

20

Girls love their fairytale worlds don't they

Reply 9

FABoinkSIG

It was 'puppy love', but I don't think I'll ever stop loving him completely. He was my best friend too.

He was killed last year, though, and I think that might have played a part in immortalising him in my heart.

...wow that sounds overly poetic... :p:

Reply 10

bete noire

17

Fusion

Girls love their fairytale worlds don't they

tell me about it

Reply 11

Zymoen

FABoinkSIG

It was 'puppy love', but I don't think I'll ever stop loving him completely. He was my best friend too.

He was killed last year, though, and I think that might have played a part in immortalising him in my heart.

...wow that sounds overly poetic... :p:

;console;

Reply 12

Redemption

14

bete noire

Me

I can't help it. "Loving oneself is the start of a lifelong relationship."

And yes. The answer to your question is yes. You see a photo of them getting on with their lives, and it never stops that twinge in your chest. You'll always wonder if you could have gone all the way. All the way to now.

My father is 65. I was idly chatting with him about his childhood before he met my mother, and he happened to find a photo of his first girlfriend. It was the first time I'd seen him cry properly in my life. I must admit I was quite scared.

Sorry OP, but yeah. Life is like that. And yeah, you do compare - a lot at the start. It gets easier to accept people for who they are individually as time goes by, you stop looking for the same person and begin to accept new people for who they are.

Reply 13

Jiser

10

Nah you dont. As demonstrated by "redemption" above!

Learn not to give a t*ss after a while. I still remember old friends when I was 6 or old new years and holidys. My reception teacher is another one. It is doubtful you will forget the guy who had his penis in you or if you are male the fan*y.

Reply 14

k0932741

1

I know what you mean, there are times now when i think of my ex, not in a loving way but in a curious way - i wonder what he's up to, how he is etc. I compared the boyfriend i had after him to him A LOT but i know now the reason i did that was because he was missing so many things i need in a relationship, things that my ex had that that boyfriend didn't. My current boyfriend doesn't need comparing to anyone, he's literally everything i could want in someone - if we ever broke up, i'd unfortunately have a new (almost perfect) boyfriend to compare people to lol. I reckon once you find someone who is right for you, you'll stop reminicing so much :smile:

you'll still do it, he was an important part of your life, but you'll realise what you have now is so much more special. x

Reply 15

Mcjazz

1

Schmokie Dragon

Well, I still remember the first person I ever thought I loved.

Whether it was true love or not is another matter.

:dito: except I know it wasn't true, and if I remember them it's only what a prick they were.

Reply 16

chp89

2

look him up on facebook. Everyone has facebook! U never know maybe your actualy ment to be with him!

Reply 17

shifty99

Myself, and now i have learned to love myself more.

Cheers

Reply 18

Not Invented Yet

12

I remember the first person I thought I loved, but that's only because he turned out to be a total prick and I haven't had a boyfriend since.

Reply 19

Little Lamb

1

Your first love will always be a benchmark but it doesn't mean that nobody will ever top them.

My first love and I were together on and off for three years. We went through everything together and if I were to see him now there would always be a strong bond. Our break up was messy and we could never be friends after it.

When I got together with my current bf I was terrified that my mates would think that he was similar to my ex but as the relationship developed I realised how different he is. The relationship is completely different and I do occasionally do the odd comparison in my head... the same way he does with me and his first love... but you'll never quite get over the first one.

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