Sex for the First Time

Obviously I've never had sex before, but my boyfriend and I are going to an airshow and are sharing a hotel room. We decided that then would be the time to 'make love' as we would be all alone with none of our families deciding to just pop in. BUT I've heard that it hurts the first time you have sex. Is that true? Also, anything else I should be aware of. I heard all about the contraception in school etc, and from friends who are sex- adicts :wink:

but just wondering if there could be anything else I haven't picked up on. Thanks

Reply 1

Hearing Voices

9

Your boyfriend might not last too long, especially if he's a virgin too.

Reply 2

Oddjob39A

15

Ignore the cretin above.....

Take your time, make sure you are both at ease and don't expect 'too much' so to speak. I can't really speak on behalf of women (obv) but so far I have had sex with two girls who were virgins and as long as your bf takes it slow, makes sure you are comfortable and as long as you are both ready/have lots of foreplay it shouldn't hurt much if at all :smile:

Oh and if your bf is a virgin as well he may need a little help 'getting it in' (sorry for the vulgar description) and also 'keeping it in' You know your body better than he does so just guide him. Also; remember to never put the condom on untill you are seconds away from actual penetration. If he loses his erection whilst its on due to fumbling, not being able to get/keep it in, then make sure he puts another one on before he penetrates so that it fits correctly. (sorry for the vulgar description again, sometimes there is just no nice way of saying these things!)

On the other hand, just because you feel you are 'going to do this' don't feel under any pressure to actually go through with it, just have loads and loads of foreplay and you might enjoy that even more. Sex shouldn't ever be something you feel like you have to do just because you both agreed to it, if you don't feel like it when it comes to the crunch then don't do it, simple!

Finally; don't do ANYTHING penetrative without a condom whether he ejaculates or not.

(edit)....and ignore the cretin below

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Take it sloooooooowly and make sure your ready before you actually 'get going' or it could hurt! As long as your relaxed, and 'ready' it should be fine! Have fun :wink:

Reply 4

MushyPeas

OP

Oddjob39A

Ignore the cretin above.....
((and all the stuff in the middle))

(edit)....and ignore the cretin below

Thanks, putting my mind at ease. I was having one of those panicy moments when you think that if you even move the world would crash down around you. So all of that is really nice to know and comforting :biggrin:

Reply 5

Oddjob39A

15

TearsOnDarkShadows

Thanks, putting my mind at ease. I was having one of those panicy moments when you think that if you even move the world would crash down around you. So all of that is really nice to know and comforting :biggrin:

Nae prob wee lassy, just see what happens and if anything does happen then take it slow and enjoy it!

Reply 6

Angelil

19

I don't think you should ignore any of the advice here, it's all good so far (unlike what oddjob seems to think). edit: apart from MJ84's advice :rolleyes:

you should probably ignore that.

You probably know this already, but make sure you double up on the contraception (pill and condom, for example) as anything can go wrong.

It may hurt - my first time hurt a little and I did bleed. But then again, you might not experience any pain at all. It depends on the individual. Just take things slowly and enjoy yourself :smile:

Reply 7

LoreleiLee

9

Oddjob39A

Ignore the cretin above.....

Take your time, make sure you are both at ease and don't expect 'too much' so to speak. I can't really speak on behalf of women (obv) but so far I have had sex with two girls who were virgins and as long as your bf takes it slow, makes sure you are comfortable and as long as you are both ready/have lots of foreplay it shouldn't hurt much if at all :smile:

Oh and if your bf is a virgin as well he may need a little help 'getting it in' (sorry for the vulgar description) and also 'keeping it in' You know your body better than he does so just guide him. Also; remember to never put the condom on untill you are seconds away from actual penetration. If he loses his erection whilst its on due to fumbling, not being able to get/keep it in, then make sure he puts another one on before he penetrates so that it fits correctly. (sorry for the vulgar description again, sometimes there is just no nice way of saying these things!)

On the other hand, just because you feel you are 'going to do this' don't feel under any pressure to actually go through with it, just have loads and loads of foreplay and you might enjoy that even more. Sex shouldn't ever be something you feel like you have to do just because you both agreed to it, if you don't feel like it when it comes to the crunch then don't do it, simple!

Finally; don't do ANYTHING penetrative without a condom whether he ejaculates or not.

(edit)....and ignore the cretin below

First sensitive post I've seen from a guy about this topic. Nice one mate.

Reply 8

naomi*

Cushions. Helps the pain. Trust me. Use like three under your bum - sorry to be so descriptive. And yeah just be slow and if it hurts - tell him so.
:smile:

Reply 9

Talon

18

Just remember that sex is something to enjoy...why else would we do it?

Reply 10

pink_cait

13

If you want to, do it :smile:

the first time is the worst, but after that you can start enjoying it and having fun. I lost my virginity with a virgin, and it made our relationship even stronger because we were learning something together :smile:

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

PLEASE keep anon I had a really bad problem trying to have sex with my boyfriend at the time for nearly a year. My hymen just wouldn't break and he had to cut it with scissors in the end. It still really hurts to have sex as parts of my hymen are still there (and this is 3 years later).
I still find it really painful to do anything.
Basically that's the worst that can happen.

Reply 12

Talon

18

Anonymous

PLEASE keep anon I had a really bad problem trying to have sex with my boyfriend at the time for nearly a year. My hymen just wouldn't break and he had to cut it with scissors in the end. It still really hurts to have sex as parts of my hymen are still there (and this is 3 years later).
I still find it really painful to do anything.
Basically that's the worst that can happen.

You know there are probably medical procedures for that...rather than inserting scissors...If its still really painful you should probably seek medical advice.

Reply 13

Naomi 1987

1

Anonymous

PLEASE keep anon I had a really bad problem trying to have sex with my boyfriend at the time for nearly a year. My hymen just wouldn't break and he had to cut it with scissors in the end. It still really hurts to have sex as parts of my hymen are still there (and this is 3 years later).
I still find it really painful to do anything.
Basically that's the worst that can happen.

OMG!!

That sounds horrific!

Reply 14

FizzBitch

2

Anonymous

PLEASE keep anon I had a really bad problem trying to have sex with my boyfriend at the time for nearly a year. My hymen just wouldn't break and he had to cut it with scissors in the end. It still really hurts to have sex as parts of my hymen are still there (and this is 3 years later).
I still find it really painful to do anything.
Basically that's the worst that can happen.

I feel faint now... :eek:

Reply 15

Angelil

19

Anon 2, you realise that was a stupid thing to do, right? That's probably also the reason you're still experiencing pain three years later!! See a doctor, will you?

Reply 16

RightSaidJames

16

I don't think anyone would be so stupid as to do that, but you never know. The problem with anonymity is that you can make things like that up just to get attention.

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

Originally Posted by Anonymous
PLEASE keep anon I had a really bad problem trying to have sex with my boyfriend at the time for nearly a year. My hymen just wouldn't break and he had to cut it with scissors in the end. It still really hurts to have sex as parts of my hymen are still there (and this is 3 years later).
I still find it really painful to do anything.
Basically that's the worst that can happen.

god thats freaked me out?!?!?!?!