Only virgin in my friendship group, feel hopeless..

You shouldnt let it hold you back. i completely get how you feel as im the same age and have some friends like that. i dont think it really bothered me cos it was like one, partly wanted to wait for religious reasons but also its like if i dont feel like i can have fun and be comfortable with my friends then the friendship must be pretty boring.

the friends i had that all they spoke about were boys as if it was what made them confident and as if it was the only interesting thing going on in their life i got pretty bored of because it was like 'um... do you have anything else interesting going on? like did u travel somewhere new? take up a new hobby? do a dance class?"

It never made me feel insecure or anything because 1, i could get any guy i wanted as i felt confident and secure within myself, 2., my self worth and confidence will never be based on someone sticking their **** in me lmao and 3, i never found anyone i liked enough to be in a relationship with so its really like i havent lost it yet cos i havent really been with the person i wanted to lose it to and 4., i spoke to one of my friends who would be like this and constantly talk about her sexual endeavours and many boy stories and she started opening up about the toll of it in the sense yes guys want to sleep with her but they dont want to be in a relationship with her and that in itself was taking a toll on her self esteem and self confidence to only think she was good enough for sex.
so the grass isn't greener on the other side, everyone is on their own journey and can be going through stuff and there is more to life.

well what do you want, to lose your virginity soon or to lose it to someone who'll make your first time good?

Don't feel hopeless or frustrated.
Your sex life is a very small part of life, it doesn't dictate your happiness or define who you are.
I know plenty of people decades older than you who are still virgins.
Some by choice, others because they never found a partner they considered suitable for them or are committed to sexual abstinence until marriage and never married.
Most of them have happy lives, well paid careers and make time to volunteer or fund-raise for charity.

It is easy to have sex with random guys/girls, drunk or sober.
You only need to turn on the Jeremy Kyle show to see all the vile criminals, jerks and creeps that seem to spend their lives going through never ending sexual shenanigans follower by acrimonious break ups that they feel compelled to share with millions of daytime tv viewers.
Don't regret that you have made another choice.

Stop
Taking
Your
Life
So
Seriously.

Think of your life as one big game / adventure / source of comedy.
Treat your friends discussion of sex as a form of dramatic and comedy entertainment.
Think of your search for a romantic partner as being a real life rom-com. Your own real life Bridget Jones Diary. Something for you to laugh at and entertain yourself with.

Sex is only small part of life.

There's plenty of things to do, try, experience. Do things that make you happy, do things that you are passionate about.

You could try online dating, speed dating, meeting men through bars, coffee shops, through education, through your social circle, network, through your social circle and going out allowing yourself to be approached.

Don't feel hopeless or frustrated.
Your sex life is a very small part of life, it doesn't dictate your happiness or define who you are.
I know plenty of people decades older than you who are still virgins.
Some by choice, others because they never found a partner they considered suitable for them or are committed to sexual abstinence until marriage and never married.
Most of them have happy lives, well paid careers and make time to volunteer or fund-raise for charity.

It is easy to have sex with random guys/girls, drunk or sober.
You only need to turn on the Jeremy Kyle show to see all the vile criminals, jerks and creeps that seem to spend their lives going through never ending sexual shenanigans follower by acrimonious break ups that they feel compelled to share with millions of daytime tv viewers.
Don't regret that you have made another choice.

Fame and losing your virginity?! Sounds like the hard sell.... I didn't take you for a Jezza fangirl.

Basically I'm still a female virgin at 23 going on 24, my friend who was also in the same position (her being 24) basically just lost hers the other day to some 20 yr old guy she just met and just told me. I was happy for her but at the same time I felt a bit down because I at least i had someone to relate to but now I don't and she's acting confident whereas she wasn't before, telling me to have confidence and I don't know just acting like she knows most now. so yep I'm basically the last virgin standing and I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to or generally my friends keep sharing the sex stories or boy problems and I'm like just the person everyone goes to which I don't mind but I also can't tell each of them what the other has said so I have to be extra careful not to slip up 😂 because obviously it's not my place to tell one of their secrets if that makes sense.

Anyway I just don't see anything happening for me tbh I don't believe in love, I don't believe in anything. It's like something is going on in everyone's life but you know I can't seem to get life going for me and everyone just seems to be talking about sex. I'm not waiting to get married, just generally if someone likes me and I like them back and I'd feel comfortable.

fame?

Well it was Myst's view of what life might be like "never ending sexual shenanigans follower by acrimonious break ups that they feel compelled to share with millions of daytime tv viewers."



It's a lottery so "it could be you!"

Basically I'm still a female virgin at 23 going on 24, my friend who was also in the same position (her being 24) basically just lost hers the other day to some 20 yr old guy she just met and just told me. I was happy for her but at the same time I felt a bit down because I at least i had someone to relate to but now I don't and she's acting confident whereas she wasn't before, telling me to have confidence and I don't know just acting like she knows most now. so yep I'm basically the last virgin standing and I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to or generally my friends keep sharing the sex stories or boy problems and I'm like just the person everyone goes to which I don't mind but I also can't tell each of them what the other has said so I have to be extra careful not to slip up 😂 because obviously it's not my place to tell one of their secrets if that makes sense.

Anyway I just don't see anything happening for me tbh I don't believe in love, I don't believe in anything. It's like something is going on in everyone's life but you know I can't seem to get life going for me and everyone just seems to be talking about sex. I'm not waiting to get married, just generally if someone likes me and I like them back and I'd feel comfortable.

Just get on with life and developing yourself.
You can also make the most of yourself and worry less. Confidence is pretty attractive. If you just sleep with someone from a club or casual, its not going to miraculously change your life for the better, so stop fretting.

If you want a bf, then you are going to have to do things to improve your chances.
1. Make the most of yourself.
2. Improve your social skills and learn to flirt a little.
3. Interact more with boys or just socialise more.
4. If you improve your own confidence, then you will either care and worry less and also become more attractive.

It will happen in time, but it would be better for you if it was with at least someone was of your choosing and you wanted to be with. Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on making positive changes for you. Maybe do some things outside your normal social circle so you dont feel trapped or that they know everything.