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okay so basically, i’m 16, and study leave is the only chance i have to lose my virginity, for various reasons. i’ve been speaking to this boy, and he’s soooo nice, and thinks i’m pretty, and has an amazing sense of humour. went to his house yesterday with the intention of s e x, but just couldn’t do it? like, i don’t even watch porn or anything, i don’t know how to do stuff.

am not even sure if this is the right place to ask lol, but advice pls? how do i s e x?
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Having sex for the first time is not something that can really be planned or prepared for. If you get into a relationship with the expectation of having sex, the relationship will most likely fail. If you feel the need to plan when you are going to lose your virginity, then that may be a sign that you aren’t quite ready for it. Many people believe that sex is just a physical act, but when you first have sex (especially when you are young), there are also a lot of emotions tied up in it. The first time you have sex won’t be great, trust me. It won’t run smoothly because neither you or your partner know what you’re doing. It will be awkward, short-lived, and probably something you will end up having a giggle about in later life. In terms of the mechanics of sex, no one can really give tips there, and no amount of porn or “50 Shades” type novels will help. The only advice I can give you is do not put pressure on yourself or the other person to have sex, and make sure the person you first do it with is right. You could be left feeling regretful about the whole situation afterwards otherwise. Make sure it’s someone you feel comfortable with and have a good connection with emotionally, so that when it’s awkward (and it will be) you can just both laugh about it after all’s done and dusted and no harm’s done. I hope this helps you, and if you need advice about anything else regarding this topic, just ask 😊
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Hey there Just so you know, it’s perfectly normal to be nervous about having sex for the first time. My first time was a bit nerve-wracking, but after you become a bit more experienced in sex, it’ll seem a whole lot easier - so here are my tips for you...
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(Original post by Anonymous)
okay so basically, i’m 16, and study leave is the only chance i have to lose my virginity, for various reasons. i’ve been speaking to this boy, and he’s soooo nice, and thinks i’m pretty, and has an amazing sense of humour. went to his house yesterday with the intention of s e x, but just couldn’t do it? like, i don’t even watch porn or anything, i don’t know how to do stuff.

am not even sure if this is the right place to ask lol, but advice pls? how do i s e x?
If you couldn't do it, you're probably just not ready and that's completely fine. There's no rush.
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okay so basically, i’m 16, and study leave is the only chance i have to lose my virginity, for various reasons. i’ve been speaking to this boy, and he’s soooo nice, and thinks i’m pretty, and has an amazing sense of humour. went to his house yesterday with the intention of s e x, but just couldn’t do it? like, i don’t even watch porn or anything, i don’t know how to do stuff.

am not even sure if this is the right place to ask lol, but advice pls? how do i s e x?
You are not ready yet because yiu simply haven't done your research on how to make love! Having sex is about learning. Why not get to know the guy a bit more anf meanwhile find out more about protected sex etc before you have it. You will be glad you did. It doesn't sound as though you even planned contraception!?
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Oh well the boy has to put his u know in the girls u know and then like he would like push in and out so basically he would put his **** in he girls vagína so that liek they will have sex but u have to use a condom so that u wojt get pregnant and btw in 12 and Ik these things 😂 🤦*♀️🤦*♀️
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I’m 25 never had sex I don’t want to get into it of why I have waited so long !!!! I briefly started a relationship he tried penetrated me few times nothings working !!!
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I’m 25 never had sex I don’t want to get into it of why I have waited so long !!!! I briefly started a relationship he tried penetrated me few times nothings working !!!
What have you tried?
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Tried vaginal sex just the tip of his penis enters I can’t go through with it
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Tried vaginal sex just the tip of his penis enters I can’t go through with it
yiu don't have to. Just find out more about what the problem could be and don't worry!
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yiu don't have to. Just find out more about what the problem could be and don't worry!
I don’t know I want to do it but I tense up I feel I’m ready
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yiu don't have to. Just find out more about what the problem could be and don't worry!
I don’t know I want to do it but I tense up I feel I’m ready
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I don’t know I want to do it but I tense up I feel I’m ready
being tense and nervous, instead of relaxing and using lubrication, will spoil things! How old are you? Do you know your body well?
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Yes I’m 25
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Yes I’m 25
Is your partner someone who treats you well? You just have to take your time. You can just try to go a bit further each time. Hopefully your first time will be special.
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Yes treats me very well in fact I’m into him so much would love to get passed this soon as I do want to have sex iv done everything else in a sexual way just not vaginal sex
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Yes treats me very well in fact I’m into him so much would love to get passed this soon as I do want to have sex iv done everything else in a sexual way just not vaginal sex
Ok. But think about what yiu have tried so far and see what you can improve. Do you use lube, a small dildo ? Have you tried going on top? Extended your foreplay? Are you relaxed enough? Your overrthinking anxious brain can screw up sex!
Do more reading!
https://sense.info/en/sex/sex-techni...enetrative-sex
https://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-t...ex/vaginal-sex
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Ok. But think about what yiu have tried so far and see what you can improve. Do you use lube, a small dildo ? Have you tried going on top? Extended your foreplay? Are you relaxed enough? Your overrthinking anxious brain can screw up sex!
Do more reading!
https://sense.info/en/sex/sex-techni...enetrative-sex
Yes I tried on top few times I got over anxious I’m willing to see a doctor not sure we tried lube and everything I’m into this guy can’t figured out the problem
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Yes I tried on top few times I got over anxious I’m willing to see a doctor not sure we tried lube and everything I’m into this guy can’t figured out the problem
Your doctor will have ideas and also try out lube. And dont stress, it doesn't help!
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Your doctor will have ideas and also try out lube. And dont stress, it doesn't help!
Looking for any ideas besides lube or I might just think it’s over my hymen not broken will it hurt too much
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