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Now what I mean by this is, I've had a situation come up where a guy has nervously told me he likes girls. Now here is the thing, I haven't done anything for the guy to address this. Like at all, and the convo is doing my nut in because I feel you need to do something pretty severe for a supposed 'straight' dude to bring up your sexuality. Like I am a pretty reserved guy, quiet and didn't give off any major signs of interest, never asked him out, never expressed my feelings, never touched him or looked at him longingly not in my nature so is it really acceptable for a straight dude to address someones sexuality unless something major has happened? if anything it makes dealing with this individual uncomfortable. The convo didn't help me, I just feel embarrassed.Said straight dude since hasn't left me alone on social media, he's messaging quite a bit about random things and copying everything I am doing on my FB account too, so could really use advice.

P.s I put supposed straight dude because for awhile now he has been giving me signs of interest, looking at me constantly, making more of an effort with me than anyone else. It's pretty confusing.
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My best guess would have to be that he's gay himself and has a crush on you. That would explain the awkwardness, the longing stares and the need to assert he is straight. I would confront him but make it clear that you are not judgemental even if you privately are. This way he will likely open up about things.
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im a straight girl. Last year i nearly slapped someone (no im not a homophobe) she told me, while talking behind my friends back, 'why are you so concerned? Are you lesbian?' this was infront of my friend who is bisexual... I didnt speak, neither did she. I hated the conversation cause she started to talk about sex, I just walked out of the room, thank god I am going a different sixth form. Anyways your sexuality is your concern, no one else.
(Original post by Diversencounters)
Now what I mean by this is, I've had a situation come up where a guy has nervously told me he likes girls. Now here is the thing, I haven't done anything for the guy to address this. Like at all, and the convo is doing my nut in because I feel you need to do something pretty severe for a supposed 'straight' dude to bring up your sexuality. Like I am a pretty reserved guy, quiet and didn't give off any major signs of interest, never asked him out, never expressed my feelings, never touched him or looked at him longingly not in my nature so is it really acceptable for a straight dude to address someones sexuality unless something major has happened? if anything it makes dealing with this individual uncomfortable. The convo didn't help me, I just feel embarrassed.Said straight dude since hasn't left me alone on social media, he's messaging quite a bit about random things and copying everything I am doing on my FB account too, so could really use advice.

P.s I put supposed straight dude because for awhile now he has been giving me signs of interest, looking at me constantly, making more of an effort with me than anyone else. It's pretty confusing.
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I feel like he might be bi or bicurious tbh, he said he "likes girls" but he never said he doesn't like guys either xD You never know
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(Original post by Diversencounters)
Now what I mean by this is, I've had a situation come up where a guy has nervously told me he likes girls. Now here is the thing, I haven't done anything for the guy to address this. Like at all, and the convo is doing my nut in because I feel you need to do something pretty severe for a supposed 'straight' dude to bring up your sexuality. Like I am a pretty reserved guy, quiet and didn't give off any major signs of interest, never asked him out, never expressed my feelings, never touched him or looked at him longingly not in my nature so is it really acceptable for a straight dude to address someones sexuality unless something major has happened? if anything it makes dealing with this individual uncomfortable. The convo didn't help me, I just feel embarrassed.Said straight dude since hasn't left me alone on social media, he's messaging quite a bit about random things and copying everything I am doing on my FB account too, so could really use advice.

P.s I put supposed straight dude because for awhile now he has been giving me signs of interest, looking at me constantly, making more of an effort with me than anyone else. It's pretty confusing.
It seems pretty clear that this "supposed straight dude" doesn't have an issue with your sexuality or he wouldn't be messaging you or interacting with you on social media.

Taking this into account, is it possible you are overreacting slightly to just one conversation? In a nutshell, all he did was clarify his sexuality - it's not even clear from your post what context this remark was made in. I'm sorry it made you feel embarrassed, but it just doesn't seem that was what he intended to do. He seems to like you as a friend.

Are you interested in him? If so, this might be why you are attracting greater significance to his behaviour than it perhaps warrants.
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