Does Age really matter?? Watch

Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#1
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#1
I have a boyfriend his 24 y/o And I’m 28 y/o, so basically I'm older than him.
We’ve been dating for like almost a year already. I know he love me and he knows i love him we have this intimacy connection that really wonderful. But I’m kinda sometimes worried because i felt like,I'm the only one working on our relationship.He is a person that kinda go with the flow, and let me do whatever i want, and he will just agree on everything. Which is like when you think about it, its good because there’s no argument. But i felt like not right or not challenging. I don’t know if i put it into words right but its just weird. And one more thing when him and his friends hangout he wants me to tag along all the time. Which is okay with it, so that i can be friends with his friends too. Its just kinda awkward because I'm the only older person in the group. But i am trying to fit in but its just that i feel ashamed of myself being the oldest one. Hopefully i can get some advice, suggestion, and opinion here. Thanks
Last edited by Arnz28; 4 weeks ago
0
reply
DrunkFool
Badges: 6
Rep:
?
#2
Report 4 weeks ago
#2
Theres Only 4 years difference. Need to Accept it and Get over it, its a small thing and no Age doesnt matter when theres only 4 years apart in age. Dont get why its a problem that he agrees with things? Want him to be more authoritative in the relationship or what?
1
reply
Reue
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#3
Report 4 weeks ago
#3
24 - 28: No issue
15 - 19: Big issue
24 - 54: Potential issue

You get the idea.
3
reply
Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#4
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#4
(Original post by DrunkFool)
Theres Only 4 years difference. Need to Accept it and Get over it, its a small thing and no Age doesnt matter when theres only 4 years apart in age. Dont get why its a problem that he agrees with things? Want him to be more authoritative in the relationship or what?
Well the problem is that when i suggest something and he doesn’t like it, example food or something to do he will just say YES but the truth is he never like it or his bored to do it. Theres nothing wrong on saying no to things that you don’t like to do. I mean you guys wont probably understand why us ladies feel that way but something its not right
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
Last edited by Arnz28; 4 weeks ago
0
reply
hajerox123
Badges: 11
Rep:
?
#5
Report 4 weeks ago
#5
yeah its weird I think it would also affect your relationship in the longterm. btw do you look older than him?
(Original post by Arnz28)
I have a boyfriend his 24 y/o And I’m 28 y/o, so basically I'm older than him.
We’ve been dating for like almost a year already. I know he love me and he knows i love him we have this intimacy connection that really wonderful. But I’m kinda sometimes worried because i felt like,I'm the only one working on our relationship to work. He is a person that kind of go with the flow, and let me do whatever i want, and he will just agree on everything. Which is like when you think about it, its good so that no argument. But i felt like not right or not challenging. I don’t know if i put it into words right but its just weird. And one more thing when him and his friends hangout he wants me to tag along all the time. Which is okay with it, so that i can be friends with his friends too. Its just kinda awkward because I'm the only older person in the group. But i am trying to fit in but its just that i feel ashamed of myself being the oldest one. Hopefully i can get some advice, suggestion, and opinion here. Thanks
0
reply
Pepsey
Badges: 13
Rep:
?
#6
Report 4 weeks ago
#6
(Original post by Reue)
24 - 28: No issue
15 - 19: Big issue
24 - 54: Potential issue

You get the idea.
You mean 15 dating a 19 yr old?
0
reply
Reue
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#7
Report 4 weeks ago
#7
(Original post by Pepsey)
Pretty sure 16-18 is no issue? And why is 19 an issue?
I made no mention of 16-18 so not sure why you've highlighted that, but I would agree that it is no issue.

And 15 - 19 is an issue (in my opinion) mentally as well as (potentially) legally.
1
reply
Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#8
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#8
[QUOTE=hajerox123;83298750]yeah its weird I think it would also affect your relationship in the longterm. btw do you look older than him?

A lot of comment about us that i look younger than him even those people that don’t know us just randomly ask us questions.
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
0
reply
Precious Illusions
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#9
Report 4 weeks ago
#9
It's only an issue if you make it one tbh. Or if you feel that you're at different stages i.e. you wanted to settle down now whilst he's not ready for that. My boyfriend is 11 years older, it's never caused an issue for us.
0
reply
Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#10
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#10
(Original post by hajerox123)
yeah its weird I think it would also affect your relationship in the longterm. btw do you look older than him?
Lot of comments randomly that i look younger than him.
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
0
reply
DrunkFool
Badges: 6
Rep:
?
#11
Report 4 weeks ago
#11
(Original post by Arnz28)
Well the problem is that when i suggest something and he doesn’t like it, example food or something to do he will just say YES but the truth is he never like it or his bored to do it. Theres nothing wrong on saying no to things that you don’t like to do. I mean you guys wont probably understand why us ladies feel that way but something its not right
Alright Now Im getting better idea. Maybe he cant be arsed to challange it? And since hes saying yes when we wants to say no, Thats means the only way you know hes doesn't like it is hes told you before?? So Why asking him if you know he doesnt like it. Anyway he needs to be assertive with his likes wants and needs. Is this a fairly new relationship? if so, might be the reason why hes not being very assertive. Either since hes a people pleaser or hes one of them people who needs to get completely comfortable before he shows his personality etc. OR... Hes afraid of ur reaction. Get angry at him over small things?
0
reply
hajerox123
Badges: 11
Rep:
?
#12
Report 4 weeks ago
#12
(Original post by Arnz28)
Lot of comments randomly that i look younger than him.
are you taller?
0
reply
Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#13
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#13
(Original post by Precious Illusions)
It's only an issue if you make it one tbh. Or if you feel that you're at different stages i.e. you wanted to settle down now whilst he's not ready for that. My boyfriend is 11 years older, it's never caused an issue for us.
I guess you have a
Point on that. I mean your case your boyfriend is older than you which is normal. But when you are female older than a guys feels a lil weird
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
0
reply
angrypeacock550
Badges: 1
Rep:
?
#14
Report 4 weeks ago
#14
(Original post by Arnz28)
Well the problem is that when i suggest something and he doesn’t like it, example food or something to do he will just say YES but the truth is he never like it or his bored to do it. Theres nothing wrong on saying no to things that you don’t like to do. I mean you guys wont probably understand why us ladies feel that way but something its not right
Try to exchange the position, then. I mean, make him the one who offers/suggests something to you. From your initial post, I can read that you are the one who often ask him about something or offer him something. I personally think that if he is younger than you, and he agrees no matter what you suggest to him, then he's avoiding any fight which probably occur if he rejects it. He's mature enough to build a relationship, which is good. I think your relationship will goes long if you try to understand what he means by accepting all of your suggestions. Hope this helps.
0
reply
Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#15
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#15
(Original post by hajerox123)
are you taller?
No his 6 im 5”3
(Original post by DrunkFool)
Alright Now Im getting better idea. Maybe he cant be arsed to challange it? And since hes saying yes when we wants to say no, Thats means the only way you know hes doesn't like it is hes told you before?? So Why asking him if you know he doesnt like it. Anyway he needs to be assertive with his likes wants and needs. Is this a fairly new relationship? if so, might be the reason why hes not being very assertive. Either since hes a people pleaser or hes one of them people who needs to get completely comfortable before he shows his personality etc. OR... Hes afraid of ur reaction. Get angry at him over small things?
We been dating for almost a year now. Well if i know he doesn’t like it, why should i bother ask thats why i ask because its part of trying to get to know the person more.
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
0
reply
hajerox123
Badges: 11
Rep:
?
#16
Report 4 weeks ago
#16
he sounds like an idiot leave him.
(Original post by Arnz28)
No his 6 im 5”3

We been dating for almost a year now. Well if i know he doesn’t like it, why should i bother ask thats why i ask because its part of trying to get to know the person more.
0
reply
DrunkFool
Badges: 6
Rep:
?
#17
Report 4 weeks ago
#17
Lol Dont get it. I mean If he says YES How do you know if he doesn't like it or not
(Original post by Arnz28)
No his 6 im 5”3

We been dating for almost a year now. Well if i know he doesn’t like it, why should i bother ask thats why i ask because its part of trying to get to know the person more.
0
reply
Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#18
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#18
(Original post by angrypeacock550)
Try to exchange the position, then. I mean, make him the one who offers/suggests something to you. From your initial post, I can read that you are the one who often ask him about something or offer him something. I personally think that if he is younger than you, and he agrees no matter what you suggest to him, then he's avoiding any fight which probably occur if he rejects it. He's mature enough to build a relationship, which is good. I think your relationship will goes long if you try to understand what he means by accepting all of your suggestions. Hope this helps.
Well i do and i will take your word,but sometime at least initiate on something. It takes two people to work on a relationship. I feel like because he thought i’m older than him, he will just agree on whatever i want.
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
0
reply
Arnz28
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#19
Report Thread starter 4 weeks ago
#19
(Original post by DrunkFool)
Lol Dont get it. I mean If he says YES How do you know if he doesn't like it or not
Okay of course i know because you know how he don’t talk being quite play games on his phone even I’m initiating a conversation with him.
Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
0
reply
DrunkFool
Badges: 6
Rep:
?
#20
Report 4 weeks ago
#20
Ask Him the reason why.
(Original post by Arnz28)
Well i do and i will take your word,but sometime at least initiate on something. It takes two people to work on a relationship. I feel like because he thought i’m older than him, he will just agree on whatever i want.
0
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

How did your AQA A-level Biology Paper 3 go?

Loved the paper - Feeling positive (306)
15.12%
The paper was reasonable (1116)
55.14%
Not feeling great about that exam... (442)
21.84%
It was TERRIBLE (160)
7.91%

Watched Threads

View All