Context: I am a 21 year old who has suffered from phimosis for my entire life. Due to me entering a relationship 3 months ago and for the first time experiencing full sexual intercourse, I made an appointment with a GP to attempt to sort out my condition. My phimosis has worried me for years and reading online forums about the condition only left me more confused and worried than I was previously. This has prompted me to write about my experience of sexual intercourse with and without phimosis and how I successfully used a steroid cream to treat the condition.Extent of my condition: I was unable to retract my foreskin when flaccid or erect. I had never retracted my foreskin on any occasion and touching the tip of the head of penis (which was there only area that I could expose) was very painful. I could retract the foreskin to expose an area on the head of roughly a five pence coin.Phimosis - can use have sex with a condom?: One of my major worries about the condition was, if I left myself untreated, would I be able to have sex under any circumstances which would alleviate the pain associated with forced retraction of the foreskin that occurs when the penis enters the vagina. The only method that occurred to me and one that is answered very inconclusively on the internet is the use of a condom. In my experience with a penis where the foreskin refused to retract beyond what was described above, a condom does alleviate some of the pain - especially the premium brand ones. Also, as one would expect, the use of lube also results in a less painful experience. Overall, I found sex to be uncomfortable but possible. I also will point out that I was trying this with a very patient girl who I am in a relationship with. This allowed me to have sex whilst being able to control the speed at which I went at and with little judgement if the pain started bothering me and I had to stop. For a one night stand, I do not think the experience would be pleasurable in any way. Do steroid creams work: Having been worried about how phimosis would affect my enjoyment of sex and indeed if I would be able to partake in the activity at all, I read an extensive amount of people’s opinions on the subject across many online forums. The overarching theme of what is written on these forums is centred around 3 points. The first of which is that the inability to retract your foreskin is a reasonably serious health risk. The second is that the inability to retract your foreskin will result in you being unable to have enjoyable sex. The third is that the only really solution to phimosis is through surgery, i.e., a circumcision. 1. I, having never been able to retract my foreskin until recently, have had no complications with my health related to my penis throughout my life. I, however, have never been able to clean under my penis and the ability to remove, what really is a disgusting, foul smelling substance called smegma, does ease your peace of mind when it comes to any kind of sexual activity. 2. This has essentially been discussed above. With the use of condoms and lube I did find sex was possible and somewhat pleasurable. However, sex with the ability to retract your foreskin is significantly more enjoyable and comfortable.3. This is the main point of why I have written this article. My ‘journey’ such as it is through the UK health care system was as follows. I had a GP appointment in which the doctor inspected my penis briefly and attempted to retract it. They then referred me a urologist who then essentially repeated the examination. The consultant (the urologist) then offered me two options; the use of steroid cream or surgery (a circumcision). Having read a huge amount online, I had in my head that the only true way to sort out this issue was through having a circumcision as the general consensus on forums is that steroid creams do not work. I, despite this, decided to try the steroid creams and applied betvonate cream (a steroid cream prescribed by the doctor) between 5-10 times over a period of ~6 weeks in conjunction with brief stretching exercises found in the internet. The result of this is a fully retractable foreskin in both flaccid and erect states. I have not used the cream in over 6 weeks now and the results have remained . Thus, in my experience I would 100% try a steroid cream before the idea of surgery is taken seriously, for reasons explained below.Downfalls of circumcision: A close friend of mine had a foreskin that was in a similar condition to mine. He was never recommended to try steroid creams when he went through the health care system and instead had a circumcision. He often complains about his lack of sensitivity and his inability to enjoy oral sex. This, in my eyes, should give enough reason to pursue the use of steroid creams if at all possible before surgery is considered. Pain of exposing the head of the penis:The pain of exposing the head of my penis after I gained the ability to retract my foreskin was significant. I have found over the last couple of months, by regularly retracting my penis when in the shower or when urinating the pain has gradually lessened. In addition to this sex with a condom and oral sex have both decreased the pain experienced by contact with the exposed head to the point now where, although still sensitive, contact with the head is very pleasurable. Sex with the ability to retract the foreskin is, overall, in a different league to sex with the restraints of a tight foreskin.