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I'm a guy and yes last night, after many months of watching transsexual porn I actually had sex with a transgender person. As I was walking home, completely off my face drunk I started talking to some person who turned out to be transgender. Being extremely horny and extremely drunk is not a good combination for my own personal decision making, and before I knew it I was at their place (reeived oral and did them in A**).

But now I feel pig filthy sick tbh. I mean, the porn got me hooked and turned me in a way. I have never felt attraction to a man, but something about transgender porn is so erotic. But ye, I can't help but feel that actually, if it wasn't for pornography - none of this would have happened! I would never have had reason to be engaged with it in the first place. I didn't enjoy the parts of it either, didn't want to look or touch their penis and certainly had no interest in going down on them or receving it in my a**.

Basically, I feel dreadful and unfortunately I cannot turn back time. It's also just reminds me of the issues I have with sex, from seeing escorts to now this. Problem is, I can't afford therapy. Really worried for my mental health and where to turn.

Has anyone done similar?
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have a shower
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have a shower
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what exactly are you upset about? This not a big deal.

If porn is causing you problems, you could stop watching it?
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what exactly are you upset about? This not a big deal.

If porn is causing you problems, you could stop watching it?
Well I just didn't think that one day I'd look back and say I slept with a transgender person. Of course, there's also a hell of a lot of stigma attached to that. I can't just go to my workplace or even my mates and say that - I would be ridiculed and mocked.

It also personally disturbs me because whilst I consider myself straight, why do I feel fascinated by a transgender to go and then sleep with them?

It just leaves me feeling empty inside somehow. I don't wnt to get married and have children one day and look back and think I slept with a transgender.

I'm addicted to porn unfortuantely but yes Ii'm trying to counter it.
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trans women r still women so i dont see what the big deal is
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I still think you're overreacting with this, sexuality doesn't need to be this rigid. You just had sex with somebody and I suppose a trans-man may have a somewhat feminine appearance.

I don't know much about porn addiction, or any addiction for that matter but it's good you're trying to counter it.
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Well I just didn't think that one day I'd look back and say I slept with a transgender person. Of course, there's also a hell of a lot of stigma attached to that. I can't just go to my workplace or even my mates and say that - I would be ridiculed and mocked.

It also personally disturbs me because whilst I consider myself straight, why do I feel fascinated by a transgender to go and then sleep with them?

It just leaves me feeling empty inside somehow. I don't wnt to get married and have children one day and look back and think I slept with a transgender.

I'm addicted to porn unfortuantely but yes Ii'm trying to counter it.
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trans women r still women so i dont see what the big deal is
I don't think OP feels like that.
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ah, I thought he was talking about trans men
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trans women r still women so i dont see what the big deal is
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what exactly are you upset about? This not a big deal.

If porn is causing you problems, you could stop watching it?
Its probably not that easy to just stop watching it, porn addiction is serious.
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I know.
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Its probably not that easy to just stop watching it, porn addiction is serious.
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I'm getting confused here. I'm talking about a man by birth that looked like a female but has a penis. What are you talking about and does your opinion differ now?
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ah, I thought he was talking about trans men
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Well I just didn't think that one day I'd look back and say I slept with a transgender person. Of course, there's also a hell of a lot of stigma attached to that. I can't just go to my workplace or even my mates and say that - I would be ridiculed and mocked.

It also personally disturbs me because whilst I consider myself straight, why do I feel fascinated by a transgender to go and then sleep with them?

It just leaves me feeling empty inside somehow. I don't wnt to get married and have children one day and look back and think I slept with a transgender.

I'm addicted to porn unfortuantely but yes Ii'm trying to counter it.
From the sounds of it you slept with a transgender woman (male to female). Whilst you may not want to sleep with another trans person in the future, what you did was not gay, which is what you seem to be worried about. You are overreacting tremendously and also being incredibly offensive. You chose to sleep with a trans person, don't turn around and act transphobic just because you regret it.
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trans women r still women so i dont see what the big deal is
You're opening a whole can of worms there.
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well at the end of day, being attracted to trans women doesn't make you any less straight, just embrace your sexuality. And you say that you're stigmatised for being attracted to trans ppl but that stigma is miniscule to the stigma they receive on a daily basis for just being their authentic selves
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Stop saying ‘transgender person’ as though you slept with an alien. Porn may have made you more aware of things, but it can’t change who you’re attracted to. I think you’re being a drama queen. Just learn to accept that life isn’t black and white.
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I'm a guy and yes last night, after many months of watching transsexual porn I actually had sex with a transgender person. As I was walking home, completely off my face drunk I started talking to some person who turned out to be transgender. Being extremely horny and extremely drunk is not a good combination for my own personal decision making, and before I knew it I was at their place (reeived oral and did them in A**).

But now I feel pig filthy sick tbh. I mean, the porn got me hooked and turned me in a way. I have never felt attraction to a man, but something about transgender porn is so erotic. But ye, I can't help but feel that actually, if it wasn't for pornography - none of this would have happened! I would never have had reason to be engaged with it in the first place. I didn't enjoy the parts of it either, didn't want to look or touch their penis and certainly had no interest in going down on them or receving it in my a**.

Basically, I feel dreadful and unfortunately I cannot turn back time. It's also just reminds me of the issues I have with sex, from seeing escorts to now this. Problem is, I can't afford therapy. Really worried for my mental health and where to turn.

Has anyone done similar?
The learning here might be don't get hammered off your face and end up doing stuff you don't really want to with a transexual.
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so, they're a trans-women and you're attracted to women? Regardless, this encounter doesn't need to mean anything about your sexuality and even if it did, it's nothing to fret about. Just have consensual, happy relationships and get a grip.
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I'm getting confused here. I'm talking about a man by birth that looked like a female but has a penis. What are you talking about and does your opinion differ now?
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Slightly surprised by the reaction saying to get a grip etc

I think most people are brought up to find a partner of the opposite sex and grow old.

I was never raised to consider sleeping with trans people. Having done that last night, it's a bit of a shock to my system and I feel a sense of guilt about it (rightly or wrongly). Whilst I do not find men attractive and this situation that occurred would never happen with an actual man, society still hugely stigmatises sleeping with a trans person. Further to that, I was actually repulsed by having to touch another person's penis which makes me feel violated (through my own doing). Hence I feel further guilt from this.

I don't see how that makes me a drama queen?
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Are you a man or a women?
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I'm a guy and yes last night, after many months of watching transsexual porn I actually had sex with a transgender person. As I was walking home, completely off my face drunk I started talking to some person who turned out to be transgender. Being extremely horny and extremely drunk is not a good combination for my own personal decision making, and before I knew it I was at their place (reeived oral and did them in A**).

But now I feel pig filthy sick tbh. I mean, the porn got me hooked and turned me in a way. I have never felt attraction to a man, but something about transgender porn is so erotic. But ye, I can't help but feel that actually, if it wasn't for pornography - none of this would have happened! I would never have had reason to be engaged with it in the first place. I didn't enjoy the parts of it either, didn't want to look or touch their penis and certainly had no interest in going down on them or receving it in my a**.

Basically, I feel dreadful and unfortunately I cannot turn back time. It's also just reminds me of the issues I have with sex, from seeing escorts to now this. Problem is, I can't afford therapy. Really worried for my mental health and where to turn.

Has anyone done similar?
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