virginity

Please keep anon cos I have friends that use this

Basically I'm 18 and still a virgin and this didn't worry me too much until today when my little (16) sister announced to me that she was planning on sleeping with her boyfriend this weekend. it just makes me feel really ugly and unwanted knowing that somebody two ears younger than me is sleeping with people.
just thought i'd rant a litttle...

Reply 1

Bismarck

13

Anonymous

Please keep anon cos I have friends that use this

Basically I'm 18 and still a virgin and this didn't worry me too much until today when my little (16) sister announced to me that she was planning on sleeping with her boyfriend this weekend. it just makes me feel really ugly and unwanted knowing that somebody two ears younger than me is sleeping with people.
just thought i'd rant a litttle...

There are some 10 year olds having sex too. Does that make you feel bad too? There's nothing wrong with having sex at 16, just like there's nothing wrong with having it at 20. Neither situation makes the person good or bad, beautiful or ugly.

its not a race

I won't spout the general H&R response but I do echo it when it arrives. Your chance will come.

Reply 4

jenren22

1

Well i can understand how you feel but it's really something you shouldn't worry about. You'll lose it when you lose it! It's a big decision and it is certainly not something you should rush into (i say this from experience...)

Reply 5

Drewski

19

You'll find plenty here who are the same age if not older and in the same boat.

I can appreciate it being weird with it being a younger sibling, just try not to think about it.

Reply 6

jh_1988_england

1

dont worry, people aged 12/13 have sex-are you jelous of them?...also its better to lose it to someone you carea bout and love...then just anybody

Reply 7

Somebody

1

Anonymous

Please keep anon cos I have friends that use this

Basically I'm 18 and still a virgin and this didn't worry me too much until today when my little (16) sister announced to me that she was planning on sleeping with her boyfriend this weekend. it just makes me feel really ugly and unwanted knowing that somebody two ears younger than me is sleeping with people.
just thought i'd rant a litttle...

I'll give the response Ed's echoing in advance:

There's no set age to lose your virginity. Everyone's different.

Heck! I'm 20 and only recently had my first relationship. Still a virgin (mainly by choice on that part). Heck! Wasn't even kissed til I was 20!

Don't let it worry you! Saying that, it took me til the age of 20 to not let it worry me, then things happened lol.

But I know what you mean though - I've always been one of the oldest in my year, and knowing that the youngest people in my year - people 2 or 3 years below me (if not more) were in relationships and having sex did get to me quite a bit.

Just remind yourself that there's NOTHING wrong with you. You just haven't found the right person or time yet. That will come. I assure you.

Reply 8

IcEmAn911

20

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DE9llClgTqY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFsGQRUmJO8

Reply 9

louisedotcom

13

As others have said, its best not to worry about it. Id rather have waited until I was 25 and done it with someone who was worth the wait, than have been 16 and doing it because I felt like it was something I should be doing because others were. (not to imply that anyone around that age is only doing it because they feel pressured or anything)

Virginity is just one of those things- when you are one it can seem like a big deal and like everyone is doing it except you, but when you lose it you realise pretty quickly that it really isnt that big of a deal to be a virgin anyway.

Reply 10

Bluelight

13

Virginity is the least big deal ever, It doesnt matter if you have or havent, but at least the older you get, even if you're not holding out for someone special you can claim you were and feel smug about the fact you didnt lose it at 14 in a skip on a council estate.

Reply 11

Chase Me

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Anonymous

Please keep anon cos I have friends that use this

Basically I'm 18 and still a virgin and this didn't worry me too much until today when my little (16) sister announced to me that she was planning on sleeping with her boyfriend this weekend. it just makes me feel really ugly and unwanted knowing that somebody two ears younger than me is sleeping with people.
just thought i'd rant a litttle...

It doesn't matter. She's younger but she's ready, you've clearly never been in the situation where you've been comfortable enough. That's what it comes down to.

Reply 12

Mumble90

Bluelight

Virginity is the least big deal ever, It doesnt matter if you have or havent, but at least the older you get, even if you're not holding out for someone special you can claim you were and feel smug about the fact you didnt lose it at 14 in a skip on a council estate.

Sorry that made me crack up i dont know why

I'm in your boat too, and a lot of my close friends were very smug about their first time which really doesnt make you feel good. Then within the past few months i've been told by each one, at some point, how much they regretted it, every one (well there are 5 of them)
I dunno about you but thats got to be a little bit of comfort that you havnt wasted it :smile:

Reply 13

joeydeacon

13

I was 19 when I slept with my first girlf, relax, you have plenty of time yet. Like someone said, it's not a race.

Reply 14

aforalice

10

Don't feel ugly because you're a virgin! Boys are often scared to make adavnces on really attractive girls because they see them as unreachable or assume they wouldn't want them...or they just respect you too much because you conduct yourself like a lady rather than putting it all out there! Take it as a compliment; guys see you a person not a sexual object who they can cop a feel with at the drop of a hat!

Reply 15

Ang|ophi|e

12

Age has nothing to do with sex. Wouldn't you want your first time to be with Mr. Right rather than Mr. Right Now? And don't feel ugly. Adriana Lima says she is saving herself for marriage and she is far from ugly.

Reply 16

username94219

0

20

OP, I honestly wouldn't worry about it. If I could turn the clocks back, I soo wish I had waited!

Wait for Mr Right :smile:

. . .

Reply 17

strawberry

13

I'm almost 20, have had three previous boyfriends, still a virgin, and it got to me a little bit when I found out that my best friend (who's barely 19) already started sleeping with her first serious boyfriend. I mean, at some point, I think I will sleep with my current boyfriend when and because I feel it's right...but right now, I like my virgin status. No rush, really, though it'll probably bother me more if I found out my brother was sleeping with his girlfriend (he's 18).

Reply 18

aforalice

10

^^^I can totally understand that it's your own personal choice to wait for as long as you like to loose your virginity but I don't understand why you'd be bothered that someone else was ready sooner..? 18 or 19 is hardly an early age to 'loose it' as you're basically an adult then and surely judging someone for being ready sooner than you are is just as bad as someone judging you for being a virgin? Sorry, I don't want to have a go I'm just genuinely interested to know why it bothers you.

Reply 19

Kelly^2

13

At least your little sister felt she could tell you :smile:

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