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I’m confused about my sexuality

Hi,

I’m 21 and I feel like I should kind of know my sexuality at this point, but truth is I’ve only had 1 boyfriend and we were each others firsts and were together for 2 years. At school all my crushes were on boys, although I did find myself gazing at girls who I thought were pretty. Recently I was at a bar with my friends and I saw this girl and she was beautiful, and absolute stunner, I actually couldn’t stop staring and I really just wanted to kiss her or just get close to her. It was an overwhelming feeling and I’ve never really felt that way about a guy. I have kissed girls before (they were friends - as a dare you know) so obviously there was no romantic click but to rip off Katy Perry - I liked it. Ive thinking about it and I’m just so unsure whether I would want to be sexual with a woman, to go all the way. With guys I know I do, but I keep thinking about women and it’s like I want to try something but psychologically it wouldn’t feel right. Do you think I’m just a confused straight person? I’d just like to hear strangers thoughts because if I said this friends or family they would think I was admitting I was bi and that’s not the case (not that there’s anything wrong with being bi but you know what I mean, I wouldn’t want to give them an impression that even I’m unsure of). Can anyone give me their thoughts?
I'm exactly the same! Although i haven't had the urge to really kiss a girl in person. And never have even as a joke.

But i really like it in porn and have fantasies about it. I think the closest term is bi-curious, although i'm also scared to try something cause it feels like it would leave me disturbed and feeling guilty and queasy. Although i'm not a homophobe in any way, but am v confused about my desires
Original post by Chicago6597
Hi,

I’m 21 and I feel like I should kind of know my sexuality at this point, but truth is I’ve only had 1 boyfriend and we were each others firsts and were together for 2 years. At school all my crushes were on boys, although I did find myself gazing at girls who I thought were pretty. Recently I was at a bar with my friends and I saw this girl and she was beautiful, and absolute stunner, I actually couldn’t stop staring and I really just wanted to kiss her or just get close to her. It was an overwhelming feeling and I’ve never really felt that way about a guy. I have kissed girls before (they were friends - as a dare you know) so obviously there was no romantic click but to rip off Katy Perry - I liked it. Ive thinking about it and I’m just so unsure whether I would want to be sexual with a woman, to go all the way. With guys I know I do, but I keep thinking about women and it’s like I want to try something but psychologically it wouldn’t feel right. Do you think I’m just a confused straight person? I’d just like to hear strangers thoughts because if I said this friends or family they would think I was admitting I was bi and that’s not the case (not that there’s anything wrong with being bi but you know what I mean, I wouldn’t want to give them an impression that even I’m unsure of). Can anyone give me their thoughts?
Are you bisexual perhaps?

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