Being with a guy you love and wanting a girl..

So what, your bi-curious. Alot of people go through this. Maybe its just a phase or maybe you juts like girls more than boys. Anyway its nothing to be ashamed about and instead of trying to rid yourself of these feelings, embrace them xD

~Wildstarchild

And unfortunately embracing them would be cheating, so I certainly can't go ahead with anything without talking to him

If you really can't think of a way around it surely it's no different from wanting to try it out with another guy. You just don't if you're in a relationship that's stricly you and him. But I recommend exploring it I just don't know how you'd go about it in your situation, lol.

That is the problem, I don't know that there is anything I can do. I may just have to get over it and some how try to get these thoughts and feelings out of my head. I'm meeting a girl I havent seen in ages for lunch tomorrow (just as a friend) who I once had a 'thing' with, my boyfriend knows Im meeting her and knows about the past, and he trusts me. I of course have no intention to do anything as I would never do that to my boyfriend but I just know it will be so hard...she is extremely attractive

I know your just going to think I shouldn't go then but shes a friend and I dont want to cancel because of something silly like this.

I sort of was like this before I suppose, though my boyfriend and I broke up before I went out with my first girlfriend. There's nothing you can really do to stop "missing" girls (and I don't blame you for that ha ) but I would remind you that you are in a loving relationship now. If you broke up with him, what would you do? Go out with loads of different random girls just because you miss being with girls in general? If you have feelings for a specific girl, then maybe rethink the relationship, but unless you have a specific reason for breaking up with your boyfriend, I would suggest to stay with him.
If it becomes harder, and you feel like your missing out on a lot, then break it off, but I'd suggest you think very carefully first.
Hope that helped somewhat

Thanks for the advice I agree Im not going to break up with my boyfriend for no specific reason, I mean I love him. If we werent together I couldnt see myself being with a girl perhaps yeah, but then I cant see my life without him, I need him at the same time. But this is obviously affecting me too, I assume if you have had girlfriends and boyfriends in the past then you will know exactly what I mean. Are you with anyone and the minute and do you find yourself missing that closeness/hotness with a girl?

There's no need to cancel. You should use the meeting as an opportunity to put your self-control to test.

But I'm really curious about why and how you find women attractive. Is it mostly an emotional thing for girls when they're attracted to other women? Or is it a physical thing? I've never asked a woman this seriously before - are you into bums or boobies?

Thats the same as asking why you find girls attractive. It depends on the particular girl, it can be because she is an amazing person, but quite often its cause she is so unbelieveably hot haha but really, who knows. It is partly emotion too, I find you can in some (but not all cases) become much closer to a girl, some guys do not like this as they think its not a masculine thing to do.

Since the attraction is more a physical thing then...bums or boobies? :-)