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There isn't really much of a genetic basis of Britain. In the South East where I live, Germanic Jute ancestry predominates in those who do not have any recent Celtic ancestors. In East Anglia, Germanic Angle ancestry predominates. The Midlands is mixed with the West being slightly more Celtic than the East. As you get more West, the Celtic ancestry becomes stronger. In the North East, Scandinavian ancestry predominates although populations around Newcastle can be traced back to an Irish immigration hundreds of years ago and have predominantly Gaelic ancestry. In the Liverpool and Merseyside area, again, most ancestry can be traced back to an Irish immigration and many Irish elements persist in the Scouse accent. The South West and other non-Gaelic Western parts have mostly Brittonic ancestry, with the most concentrated ancestry being in Cornwall and Germanic ancestry becoming more common as you travel eastwards. Northumberland and Cumbria are more closely related to Scotland and Ireland than the rest of England. Scotland is mostly a combination of Nordic and Gaelic/Irish in the South and Midlands and a combination of Picts, Gaelic/Irish and Nordic in the Highlands. Irish is mostly Gaelic Celtic with a cluster of English ancestry in Northern Ireland and surrounding areas. Some Nordic ancestry exists in the East of Ireland but it's not as prevalent as it is in Scotland. Wales is the purest country in the British isles; it is overwhelmingly Brittonic Celtic with small amounts of English near the borders and Irish in the South and East. Apart from that there is very little interference apart from some Norman and other Nordic ancestry scattered about here and there.

As you can tell, the genetics of Britain is a mess. Fortunately, that is irrelevant.

The current British culture and what it means to be British mostly evolved during the last five hundred years or so. Before that, there wasn't really much resemblance to the British culture today. The Celtic countries were enemies with England and each other for the most part, and there wasn't any sense of unity. In fact, apart from Scotland, most Celtic areas were split up into Petty Kingdoms at the time. Our current British culture started evolving around the time of the Renaissance and the formation of Great Britain.

Royal family genetics to me at least are irrelevant. They represent an entirely different class to the culture of the common people. The evolution of the royal family is almost entirely separate from the evolution of the common people. Although it sometimes swayed the course of evolution, the common people evolved independent of the royal family. What 'countries' the royal family members come from are irrelevant. The royal families of Europe were completely disconnected from the cultures of their countries. Like I said, they were an entirely different class of people.

What Viking/Normans are you referring to exactly? If you mean the ones that came over in the medieval period (William the conqueror etc.), then the common people didn't have much choice. As far as they were concerned, the king was chosen by God, and they were to obey said king. If a conqueror managed to conquer England and become king, that was seen as God's will, and common people didn't have any means to circumvent that, if they even wanted to in the first place.

And no, that's not my argument. That's a strawman. You can see that I'm clearly in support of minorities existing in the UK. What I am arguing though is that if minorities aren't going to assimilate and are staying divided from the native population, they should be questioning whether they want to be in this country for the right reasons or not. If you want to come to this country for all it's benefits, that's great, but you have to respect the natives as well. Take for example all the minorities I knew when I was growing up: they had all assimilated and were as British as I was. The Turkish barbers I was on about have all reasonably assimilated. The other guy I was arguing with has clearly NOT assimilated even after generations of living in this country, and so I am saying he does not belong here as he does not respect the natives and their culture.
So really, what you are saying is, they can't change British culture unless their skin is white. British culture is a mix of what every white invader brought to England with them. If you can't spell, axe, you loose the spelling test. Axe is a white invaders word and you don't have a problem with that do you? But my guess is that you'd be incensed it you had to spell a Pakistani word to pass a British spelling test. Your been screaming,' they not white . .. they're not white, I will not spell a word from a person if that person does not burn in the sun. Vikings, etc are white and so you accept their culture, even though they stole, enslaved, raped and conquered. A brown person of the other hand commits a crime for opening a curry shop. That's much worst than being raped by Vikings.
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I’m guessing you are Muslim (because premarital sex is a big No-No)
erm for Christians too :rolleyes: and muslims commit premarital sex all the time :lol: I'd guess theyre muslim because it's tsr.
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i'll tell you what, op. men see many things in life as our responsibility. so if you're with a man who just wants sex, you're with someone who's irresponsible. if you meet him in the right way (not online for starters) you'll get a more genuine lad, not one who clicked on your profile with his phone in one hand and his cawk in the other. what are you expecting? going online for love is like going to the club looking for love: not impossible, but...why would you? haha.
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We should have a referendum to send all this cults + followers a few centuries back in time. Some people are not meant to be born in today's society. It really pisses me off people saying stupid things like "mjmimimi sex before marriage = no kids + unhappiness mimkmi". Grow up, theres more than light that meets the eye in this world.

No, not every man wants only one thing. I waited 4 years with my first gf and none of us are religious. But after that I swore to myself that I'd never ever do that again.
Dont get me wrong, to each their own, but I find sex a big part of a relationship (doesnt matter if you do it once a day or once a month).
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Well i think some girls/women don't make a great case for their other offerings.

They expect the world without putting in any effort themselves. If a man wants nothing but sex from you it's time to take a look in the mirror.
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I tried looking for halal manner but it didn’t work men were either players or I wasn’t into them I can’t marry a man just for the sake of marriage I need attraction I need love not just marriage certificate
yes, and you can still look for men in a halal manner, there can be attraction and love in halal marriages
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Beer?
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I'm a Chad. :dontknow:
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God said to wait for marriage and that’s what I will do plus In my culture a woman who sleeps around is considered bad and not a marriage material and usually they end up alone in 60s and childless and nobody wants them I believe waiting makes us love each other’s in other aspects because physical aspect don’t last and beauty goes away but love lasts and if they really love u they will propose
Not sure about what you are saying. How would you know who sleeps around ,how much and when? And what would ever make you conclude that this type of woman would end up childless and /or unmarried? This is blatantly not true in most cases in fact. You are, with respect, sexually inexperienced and therefore you are struggling to see the important of the link between sex and love. Sex is important in many relationships. Even if i loved the person i would not marry her unless she could show that she is happy to make love to me before marriage. Sex reveals a lot of stuff about the person before it is too late!
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Every time I meet a guy I like and have a connection with and I feel he is the one he turns out to only care about sex and when I tell him that am looking for a relationship possibly marriage they completely lose interest and ignore me.....
Due to my faith and culture I refuse to engage in any sexual acts with a man before marriage because I truly believe an honest man will wait someone who loves me will wait
But I feel like it’s impossible to find anymore I been disappointed many times and I began to believe I might not find the one
Is there no one waiting anymore?
Do men only care about one thing?
No they dont just care about one thing. You just need to be patient. Your faith and culuture has made things more challenging. You have thing about where you are looking! Look for people with a similar mindset in your culture if virginity is important to you. Personally i don't think virginity proves or disproves anything. You could ,if you wish, examine the claims of your cultire and faith in more detail. You may decide that virginity is no big deal. I think an issue for determined virgins is that they eventually find out that sex is actually a very big deal in most long term relationships; and it would have been good to know whether your husband or wife was bisexual, gay, asexual, very low libido before getting married. Suppose ,for example, you have a much higher libido than your husband to be who has almost no libido ?You would, in your case, only know this once yiu married him. Then what? you would then be suffering while relying on your faith and hoping! Sexual intimacy tells you a lot more about a person.
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(Original post by Yahik093)
We should have a referendum to send all this cults + followers a few centuries back in time. Some people are not meant to be born in today's society. It really pisses me off people saying stupid things like "mjmimimi sex before marriage = no kids + unhappiness mimkmi". Grow up, theres more than light that meets the eye in this world.

No, not every man wants only one thing. I waited 4 years with my first gf and none of us are religious. But after that I swore to myself that I'd never ever do that again.
Dont get me wrong, to each their own, but I find sex a big part of a relationship (doesnt matter if you do it once a day or once a month).
And that's the issue with inexperienced virgins who avoid sex before marriage. They simply dont realise the importance of sex to many people. Sex says a lot about a person.
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Your talking as if ur not from this culture most Muslim men however open won’t deny that in the end they want to marry a woman without sexual experiences even if they had some themselves Double standards, if women and men were treated the same in most cultures maybe we wouldn’t be having this conversation
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No they dont just care about one thing. You just need to be patient. Your faith and culuture has made things more challenging. You have thing about where you are looking! Look for people with a similar mindset in your culture if virginity is important to you. Personally i don't think virginity proves or disproves anything. You could ,if you wish, examine the claims of your cultire and faith in more detail. You may decide that virginity is no big deal. I think an issue for determined virgins is that they eventually find out that sex is actually a very big deal in most long term relationships; and it would have been good to know whether your husband or wife was bisexual, gay, asexual, very low libido before getting married. Suppose ,for example, you have a much higher libido than your husband to be who has almost no libido ?You would, in your case, only know this once yiu married him. Then what? you would then be suffering while relying on your faith and hoping! Sexual intimacy tells you a lot more about a person.
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Your talking as if ur not from this culture most Muslim men however open won’t deny that in the end they want to marry a woman without sexual experiences even if they had some themselves Double standards, if women and men were treated the same in most cultures maybe we wouldn’t be having this conversation
So if you admit it's hypocritical, why bother? It'll never change if people like you just accept it.
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I think you need to stop blaming men for your own problems. Don’t make sweeping generalisations about men when you haven’t even stepped outside Newcastle. The type of man you want does exist, you just haven’t found him yet and by the sounds of it, you don’t really want to. You won’t get anywhere unless you put yourself out there and get out of your comfort zone. Failing that, maybe a better option for you would be to find a man in your own country. They will at least have the same culture and upbringing as you.

Instead of demanding men to be a certain way, I think you should focus more on what you can offer someone before you can approach having a relationship. No man wants a woman who takes everything but gives nothing in return. Ask yourself what makes you deserve an educated and cultured man who is a virgin and wants to get married. If you can’t answer that, you probably won’t get exactly what you want.
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You're finding the wrong guys, this could be down to bad luck.
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I know it’s hypocritical however I prefer to remain abstinent for personal reasons not just religious or cultural cause those reasons alone cannot make me abstinent it’s a personal choice and the person who wants me must respect that
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So if you admit it's hypocritical, why bother? It'll never change if people like you just accept it.
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Men think about one thing as its human nature for a man to spread his seed. Social norms and religion often dont relate to the hard facts of human nature.
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That’s the only thing I’m bothered about that’s why I’m scared to have a relationship because I’m worried they won’t love me for me and my personality and will just want sex all the time 😩x
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I know it’s hypocritical however I prefer to remain abstinent for personal reasons not just religious or cultural cause those reasons alone cannot make me abstinent it’s a personal choice and the person who wants me must respect that
Yes of course they should respect how you feel. A man who actually wants you should actually want to have sex with you as well. But your comment that men just want one thing is based on what experience exactly? And why would that opinion be attractive to any man unless you have actually met and spoken to literally millions of men?
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