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Hey guys, I’ve always known there was something wrong with me since I was around 9 and now I’m 18 and I still haven’t changed I was unable to talk to people in my class and I still can’t - I don’t want to self diagnose and be stupid about this but the symptoms really match what I’ve gone through and been through so I was wondering if anyone here could share their experience on it and how you got help / changed ...
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Hey guys, I’ve always known there was something wrong with me since I was around 9 and now I’m 18 and I still haven’t changed I was unable to talk to people in my class and I still can’t - I don’t want to self diagnose and be stupid about this but the symptoms really match what I’ve gone through and been through so I was wondering if anyone here could share their experience on it and how you got help / changed ...
I'm 17 and I've got social anxiety ('social phobia'). I did consider for a while if I might have selective mutism but after researching it more I don't think I have. After seeing CAMHS for a while (for that and other issues), my therapist said she thinks I might have high-functioning autism (ASD) - previously known as Asperger's. I'm in the process of getting an assessment for that but that seems to explain a lot of my symptoms, especially socially. It also can cause severe social anxiety and lead to things similar to selective mutism.

Self-diagnosing isn't always a bad thing. Obviously it isn't a formal diagnosis but there's a lot of shaming online for people who self-diagnose but in reality all it is is identifying your issues and symptoms and trying to understand what might be causing it.

I suggest you ask your GP about it. They'll be able to give you more guidence and maybe refer you to the mental health service - although I don't know much about the process for 18+ since it won't be CAMHS. Maybe also get a counsellor at school/uni/college or a separate organisation?

Also perhaps research ASD and see if you match any of the criteria. I didn't realise how much it linked to social anxiety and 'selective mutism' before. I'm not saying you're autistic but it's something to bear in mind.
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Hey guys, I’ve always known there was something wrong with me since I was around 9 and now I’m 18 and I still haven’t changed I was unable to talk to people in my class and I still can’t - I don’t want to self diagnose and be stupid about this but the symptoms really match what I’ve gone through and been through so I was wondering if anyone here could share their experience on it and how you got help / changed ...
I have selective mutism caused by my ASD and anxiety disorders. I had counselling to combat my issues for a few months and it really helped me break out of my mutism a bit more. I still struggle but it's getting better. It's good to let people around you know what's going on because then you feel less pressure when the issue arrises
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I’ve had Sm since I was 3/4 years old and now also have social anxiety disorder, I can’t remember not being to scared to speak to adults (especially teachers). I went to CAHMS for help but they just said there was nothing they could do, but I am slowly improving by myself.
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Calling it social phobia is not cool. Please call it by it's proper modern name which is social anxiety.

Yes, many people have social anxiety, it is a common anxiety disorder and now the most understood and acceptable to society.

Social anxiety has huge overlaps with othe anxiety disorders - panic disorder, general anxiety disorder, agoraphobia and other conditions.
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(Original post by bfm.mcdermott)
I'm 17 and I've got social anxiety ('social phobia'). I did consider for a while if I might have selective mutism but after researching it more I don't think I have. After seeing CAMHS for a while (for that and other issues), my therapist said she thinks I might have high-functioning autism (ASD) - previously known as Asperger's. I'm in the process of getting an assessment for that but that seems to explain a lot of my symptoms, especially socially. It also can cause severe social anxiety and lead to things similar to selective mutism.

Self-diagnosing isn't always a bad thing. Obviously it isn't a formal diagnosis but there's a lot of shaming online for people who self-diagnose but in reality all it is is identifying your issues and symptoms and trying to understand what might be causing it.

I suggest you ask your GP about it. They'll be able to give you more guidence and maybe refer you to the mental health service - although I don't know much about the process for 18+ since it won't be CAMHS. Maybe also get a counsellor at school/uni/college or a separate organisation?

Also perhaps research ASD and see if you match any of the criteria. I didn't realise how much it linked to social anxiety and 'selective mutism' before. I'm not saying you're autistic but it's something to bear in mind.
Thanks for responding, I just checked a little about ASD and the symptoms do seem quiet similar - I’ve been to the doctor about my low moods and feel like maybe they could sort that out first I guess
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Calling it social phobia is not cool. Please call it by it's proper modern name which is social anxiety.

Yes, many people have social anxiety, it is a common anxiety disorder and now the most understood and acceptable to society.

Social anxiety has huge overlaps with othe anxiety disorders - panic disorder, general anxiety disorder, agoraphobia and other conditions.
(Original post by Anonymous)
I’ve had Sm since I was 3/4 years old and now also have social anxiety disorder, I can’t remember not being to scared to speak to adults (especially teachers). I went to CAHMS for help but they just said there was nothing they could do, but I am slowly improving by myself.
I’m glad you are I’ve been for an assessment but they only sent me to talking therapy which haven’t even got back to me . This was for a different issue but I told them about me not being able to talk and they kind of ignored me I guess
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Hey guys, I’ve always known there was something wrong with me since I was around 9 and now I’m 18 and I still haven’t changed I was unable to talk to people in my class and I still can’t - I don’t want to self diagnose and be stupid about this but the symptoms really match what I’ve gone through and been through so I was wondering if anyone here could share their experience on it and how you got help / changed ...
I have selective mutism (self diagnosed because doctors are lazy and couldn't care less)
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I have selective mutism (self diagnosed because doctors are lazy and couldn't care less)
Same here, self diagnosed bc the docs don’t recognise it or understand when i Tell them I can’t speak in certain situations and I go silent
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My step brother had the same for around 5 years! I don’t know much about it because we aren’t that close, but I just wanted to say that with therapy and help he managed to overcome it! He’s now a uni and is having a lovely time. Just wanted to let you know that you’ll get there, and people overcome it!
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🔼 By “had the same” I mean he had such bad social anxiety that he didn’t speak for 5 years, not even to his family
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My step brother had the same for around 5 years! I don’t know much about it because we aren’t that close, but I just wanted to say that with therapy and help he managed to overcome it! He’s now a uni and is having a lovely time. Just wanted to let you know that you’ll get there, and people overcome it!
Thankyou for the reassurance, I wish both you and your stepbrother the best ✨
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Thankyou for the reassurance, I wish both you and your stepbrother the best ✨
Thank you, you’ll get there in the end, it takes time 😊
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Same here, self diagnosed bc the docs don’t recognise it or understand when i Tell them I can’t speak in certain situations and I go silent
So embarrassing when that happens tho :eek:
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I was diagnosed when I was younger but I've been discharged from the speech and language
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I was diagnosed when I was younger but I've been discharged from the speech and language
Has the speech and language helped you
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