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Hi everyone-
Have you been told at school and by friends that you are bright just to only now be hearing from your mum that you are only of average intelligence?
Ho would you react?
I took it pretty badly , but to be honest I shouldn't have been that surprised because I found university hard and find it hard to grasp new concepts fast. However I am hard working and try to achieve academically partly to please my parents.
Just wanted some thoughts on this ? Has this happened to anyone else , and what can a person of average intelligence take from this to make them feel like they can be successful?
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Depends on what everyone's meaning of 'average' is.
(Original post by atomickitten)
Hi everyone-
Have you been told at school and by friends that you are bright just to only now be hearing from your mum that you are only of average intelligence?
Ho would you react?
I took it pretty badly , but to be honest I shouldn't have been that surprised because I found university hard and find it hard to grasp new concepts fast. However I am hard working and try to achieve academically partly to please my parents.
Just wanted some thoughts on this ? Has this happened to anyone else , and what can a person of average intelligence take from this to make them feel like they can be successful?
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Well her meaning of average I thought was pretty harsh. Basically 6A*s and 3As at GCSE and A*AB at A level is average?
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(Original post by atomickitten)
Well her meaning of average I thought was pretty harsh. Basically 6A*s and 3As at GCSE and A*AB at A level is average?
Academic performance and intelligence are not the same thing. How hard did you work to get those grades? If you barely put any effort in then that would suggest you are above average in terms of intelligence. If you had to work very hard to get those grades then your mum is probably right.

In terms of what you do to be successful, just continue to work hard.
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I'm all for positive reinforcement, but possible your mum's just trying to instill the idea that you shouldn't go about thinking you're significantly smarter than anyone else.

Yes, IMO those grades are broadly average, bear in mind there are exceptional people who at 15 are already finishing their degrees, let alone people getting A*A*A* at school. you need to do pretty damn well to escape 'average'.
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Thank you for your honesty - I needes to hear this!
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Academic performance and intelligence are not the same thing. How hard did you work to get those grades? If you barely put any effort in then that would suggest you are above average in terms of intelligence. If you had to work very hard to get those grades then your mum is probably right.

In terms of what you do to be successful, just continue to work hard.
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Thank you thats so true ! I suppose my friends/school weren't be totally honest with me ! Atleast I can move forward now with realistic expectations haha
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I'm all for positive reinforcement, but possible your mum's just trying to instill the idea that you shouldn't go about thinking you're significantly smarter than anyone else.

Yes, IMO those grades are broadly average, bear in mind there are exceptional people who at 15 are already finishing their degrees, let alone people getting A*A*A* at school. you need to do pretty damn well to escape 'average'.
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Honestly, It is far more of a compliment to be told you are hardworking than bright.
Being bright will only get you so far in life, but being a hardworker means there is no limit to your achievements.

My mum so calls me average but hardworking. She calls my brothers very intelligent. Guess who has got offers for medicine, the best GCSEs and the best A-level predictions. I would always get so angry that she wouldn't say I was intelligent too. But if you look at all the people that are mega successful, all of them are hard workers.
take it as a compliment
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TSR - 6A*s 3As and A*AB is 'broadly average'

LOOOOOOOOL

get in the real world kiddos
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(Original post by StriderHort)
I'm all for positive reinforcement, but possible your mum's just trying to instill the idea that you shouldn't go about thinking you're significantly smarter than anyone else.

Yes, IMO those grades are broadly average, bear in mind there are exceptional people who at 15 are already finishing their degrees, let alone people getting A*A*A* at school. you need to do pretty damn well to escape 'average'.
Those grades are nowhere near average.
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Thank you for your reply -This has made me see things in a different light -I will take this on board !
(Original post by mnnbv)
Honestly, It is far more of a compliment to be told you are hardworking than bright.
Being bright will only get you so far in life, but being a hardworker means there is no limit to your achievements.

My mum so calls me average but hardworking. She calls my brothers very intelligent. Guess who has got offers for medicine, the best GCSEs and the best A-level predictions. I would always get so angry that she wouldn't say I was intelligent too. But if you look at all the people that are mega successful, all of them are hard workers.
take it as a compliment
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Those grades are nowhere near average.
Out of interest what would you say those grades are on a scale from below average -above average ?
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(Original post by atomickitten)
Out of interest what would you say those grades are on a scale from below average -above average ?
Definitely above average.
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As said, it's my opinion, To put it another way, I don't see those grades as anything distinctive. Nothing to be ashamed of and i'm sure they took hard work...but I don't see them as particularly setting them aside from all the students that 'did well but messed a few bits up'.

What do you both consider average, and why?
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TSR - 6A*s 3As and A*AB is 'broadly average'

LOOOOOOOOL

get in the real world kiddos
(Original post by theworld223)
Those grades are nowhere near average.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
As said, it's my opinion, To put it another way, I don't see those grades as anything distinctive. Nothing to be ashamed of and i'm sure they took hard work...but I don't see them as particularly setting them aside from all the students that 'did well but messed a few bits up'.

What do you both consider average, and why?
i came from a school where 5 A*-C is considered about average. anyone with those grades would had been considered an incarnation of einstein
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(Original post by StriderHort)
As said, it's my opinion, To put it another way, I don't see those grades as anything distinctive. Nothing to be ashamed of and i'm sure they took hard work...but I don't see them as particularly setting them aside from all the students that 'did well but messed a few bits up'.

What do you both consider average, and why?
Average isn't an opinion though, it's measurable.
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(Original post by mnnbv)
Honestly, It is far more of a compliment to be told you are hardworking than bright.
Being bright will only get you so far in life, but being a hardworker means there is no limit to your achievements.

My mum so calls me average but hardworking. She calls my brothers very intelligent. Guess who has got offers for medicine, the best GCSEs and the best A-level predictions. I would always get so angry that she wouldn't say I was intelligent too. But if you look at all the people that are mega successful, all of them are hard workers.
take it as a compliment
Mega successful people tend to be both. It's more of a compliment to be hard-working because it's something you actively choose to do rather than something you're born with. However the potential of the intelligent person will be higher because they can choose to work harder. The hard worker can't choose to be more intelligent.
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