Is he worth it?

Basically been seeing this guy for about a month.
when I'm with him its alllll good, we get on so well and i love spending time with him. He's always lovely when we see each other, but it almost seems as if like he desn't want a relationship, for example, ive not met any of his friends and im not too sure weather his parents know i exsist. and sometimes he just won't text me for days on end, other days he'll be texting me really sweet things.
also, he stood me up last night which is annoying.

just need some impartial advice seeing as most of my friends seem to be man haters atm.

Reply 1

cascadingstylez

18

Not good.

Has he give you a reason why he stood you up? You need to tell him how you feel, sit down and talk and express feelings. If he can't be bothered to do that you know he isn't worth it. If he sounds as if he is trying to make the effort and you like him, work on it.

Reply 2

Daxx

Have you asked to meet his friends?

You should, then see how he acts around them with you... :biggrin:

Reply 3

Vicky B

He stood you up, so ditch him. Not cool.

Reply 4

fone

OP

imtired

Why did he stand you up, did he have a reason?

no reason, he was just going to pick me up and he just didn't show nor did he text or ring, so i just went to bed. not had a text yet.
this is what i mean, he'll do this and then tomorrow he'll text me and be all sweetness and light and be lovely.

Reply 5

flown_muse

15

If you've only being going out for a month, should you have met his parents/friends by now? I'd have thought that was a bit soon, but I don't know.

Standing up's not good :frown:

But hopefully he has a good reason, stick in there :smile:

Reply 6

cascadingstylez

18

fone

no reason, he was just going to pick me up and he just didn't show nor did he text or ring, so i just went to bed. not had a text yet.
this is what i mean, he'll do this and then tomorrow he'll text me and be all sweetness and light and be lovely.

Dump him. Simple.

Reply 7

alleycat393

21

maybe you should call him and try and talk to him about all this but if he doesn't seem interested or you dn't see a difference, dump him...a month is too soon to meet his parents but friends-maybe you should ask to meet them and see his reaction and the way they act around you of you do meet them...

Reply 8

nexttime

22

apart from the standing you up thing, sounds like exactly how i would act if i DID want a relationship.

should ask him about why he didn't show - should have done it at the time i would say.

Reply 9

username47781

20

Talk to him about all these issues, only way you are going to know whether he wants you or not is communicating with each other.

Reply 10

pandora7

9

fone

no reason, he was just going to pick me up and he just didn't show nor did he text or ring, so i just went to bed. not had a text yet.
this is what i mean, he'll do this and then tomorrow he'll text me and be all sweetness and light and be lovely.

that is well rude. as if not contacting each other for days not bad enough (my bf does this all the time). if it were me, i would opt for payback but do the mature thing and talk to him. i guess.

Reply 11

undercover agent

12

i would be leaning towards dumping him

to be fair he could just be scared of commitment, but more likely it could be that he wants to have his milk without buying the cow, so to speak. did you sleep with/do stuff with this guy before any commitment to an actual relationship was shown? if so I think its a classic case of the latter, sorry...

Reply 12

dealbreaker

14

fone

no reason, he was just going to pick me up and he just didn't show nor did he text or ring, so i just went to bed. not had a text yet.
this is what i mean, he'll do this and then tomorrow he'll text me and be all sweetness and light and be lovely.

He's not serious. What man stands up a girl and not get in touch with her ASAP? He's not worth your time.

Reply 13

OiaB

14

if you have to ask...

Reply 14

Vampyrcorn

14

fone

no reason, he was just going to pick me up and he just didn't show nor did he text or ring, so i just went to bed. not had a text yet.
this is what i mean, he'll do this and then tomorrow he'll text me and be all sweetness and light and be lovely.

He could be in hospital after having been hit round the head with a brick.

Reply 15

fone

OP

undercover agent

i would be leaning towards dumping him

to be fair he could just be scared of commitment, but more likely it could be that he wants to have his milk without buying the cow, so to speak. did you sleep with/do stuff with this guy before any commitment to an actual relationship was shown? if so I think its a classic case of the latter, sorry...

yep.
the latter may be true then.

still no contact from him whatsoever.

Reply 16

username47781

20

Shame he's too much of a coward to least speak to you about why he stood you up.

Is he worth it?

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