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So me and my sister decided to adopt a kitten from one of her friend who had a cat who had multiple kittens.

We haven’t told our mum, because we know her first reaction is gonna be no. So we’re hoping she’ll get used to the cat.

I mean I know she won’t kick out the at when we bring it but I know she’s gonna be realllllyyyyy mad.

Me and my sister have researched on how to look after a cat and are going to buy all of his food as well toys, litter box scratch post etc today

But in case my mum is very against it, what do y’all think I should do?
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Tell her you are keeping it for a few days, until she gets used to it and eventually comes to love it.

OR you could tell her she is being delusional and seeing things. There is no cat. If you and your sister are good actors, you should be able to pull it off.
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Have you got the money to pay for its vaccinations, neutering, microchip, flea treatment and worming treatment, and pet insurance?
If you do take the kitten, make sure it is a minimum of 8 weeks old, and preferably 10 weeks old.
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Have you got the money to pay for its vaccinations, neutering, microchip, flea treatment and worming treatment, and pet insurance?
If you do take the kitten, make sure it is a minimum of 8 weeks old, and preferably 10 weeks old.
I’m going to tell my sister about all of that stuff and we’re going to do it in a few weeks time, I think she is 8 weeks old now but yh
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What you should do is respect your mother and not bring home a kitten to begin with. It's her house, it's her rules. Any animal is a responsibility and cats shed fur like mad, it adds to the work load in terms of cleaning the house. If she wants to get rid of the cat, she has the right to.
(Original post by Alayna1234)
So me and my sister decided to adopt a kitten from one of her friend who had a cat who had multiple kittens.

We haven’t told our mum, because we know her first reaction is gonna be no. So we’re hoping she’ll get used to the cat.

I mean I know she won’t kick out the at when we bring it but I know she’s gonna be realllllyyyyy mad.

Me and my sister have researched on how to look after a cat and are going to buy all of his food as well toys, litter box scratch post etc today

But in case my mum is very against it, what do y’all think I should do?
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Make sure you practice your "meow" sounds 😂
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(Original post by -Eirlys-)
What you should do is respect your mother and not bring home a kitten to begin with. It's her house, it's her rules. Any animal is a responsibility and cats shed fur like mad, it adds to the work load in terms of cleaning the house. If she wants to get rid of the cat, she has the right to.
I understand but I think having a pet will help me and my sister emotionally. Our family is really dysfuntioncal, and we are willing to look after the cat and clean after if. We will be responsible, this has been something we’ve hint dropped to my mum but she didn’t take it seriously. Her family used to have a pair of two dogs but they were used for like cattle and stuff.

Let’s be honest, if most people went with ur logic then a lot of people who live with parents wouldn’t have pets.

Also after chatting to my GP about it, she said a cat may help with my anxiety and stuff and I really adore cats as well.
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Glad the kitten is already 8 weeks.
A cat can be a 15-20 year commitment. If you go to uni, or want to move out, consider that you might end up paying more rent for a place that allows pets (many landlords don't). It would be better to get your mum to agree to it being a family pet as then it could stay at home if you are in halls or want to go travelling.

Vaccines, neutering and microchipping will probably cost £100+. Monthly flea treatment and regular worming will probably be around £10-15 a month. Pet insurance could be £10-30 a month, depending on your level of cover (vet bills can be a lot - one of my cats needed to see a specialist for a heart scan which came to £800; my other cat recently had blood tests (£100) and is on regular medication for arthritis (£40 a month).

I'm not saying don't do it - but it might be better to convince your mum to adopt a family pet, so you aren't stuck with an angry mum!
(Original post by Alayna1234)
I’m going to tell my sister about all of that stuff and we’re going to do it in a few weeks time, I think she is 8 weeks old now but yh
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You're incredibly disrespectful and an idiot. It's her house, you tell her and ask her first. How old are you? Do you work? Do you have the £250 in setup costs and the 12-24 thousand pounds it will cost over its lifetime? Do you have a £1k+ emergency fund for if it gets sick and needs to go to the vets, or if it pisses all over the carpets and they need cleaning? Stop being stupid.

She's already paying for 3+ mouths to feed, stop trying to bully and force her into paying for an extra one. Come on, I thought it was stupid that when we started uni we had all this stuff about consent, but it's clearly aimed at people like you who just don't get that consent is important.

https://www.pdsa.org.uk/taking-care-...f-owning-a-cat
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You're incredibly disrespectful and an idiot. It's her house, you tell her and ask her first. How old are you? Do you work? Do you have the £250 in setup costs and the 12-24 thousand pounds it will cost over its lifetime? Do you have a £1k+ emergency fund for if it gets sick and needs to go to the vets? Stop being stupid.

She's already paying for 3+ mouths to feed, stop trying to bully and force her into paying for an extra one. Come on, I thought it was stupid that when we started uni we had all this stuff about consent, but it's clearly aimed at people like you who just don't get that consent is important.

https://www.pdsa.org.uk/taking-care-...f-owning-a-cat
Dude, you really need a kitten.
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I would be furious if I was your mother.
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Dude, you really need a kitten.
Like OP, I can't afford one.
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Your mum will end up paying for the cat and looking after it when you get bored. Cats create a lot of mess and destroy furniture etc. Don’t do it.
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OP have you considered another pet? I love cats too, but when I couldn't have one when I was renting so I had guinea pigs which are lovely, sociable animals, live around 6 years, can live in a cage in your bedroom or an outdoor hutch (unlike a cat which will need more than one room) and are much easier to take with you if you move out/go to uni. Hamsters, gerbils or rats could also be a good compromise?
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I understand but I think having a pet will help me and my sister emotionally. Our family is really dysfuntioncal, and we are willing to look after the cat and clean after if. We will be responsible, this has been something we’ve hint dropped to my mum but she didn’t take it seriously. Her family used to have a pair of two dogs but they were used for like cattle and stuff.

Let’s be honest, if most people went with ur logic then a lot of people who live with parents wouldn’t have pets.

Also after chatting to my GP about it, she said a cat may help with my anxiety and stuff and I really adore cats as well.
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I understand but I think having a pet will help me and my sister emotionally. Our family is really dysfuntioncal, and we are willing to look after the cat and clean after if. We will be responsible, this has been something we’ve hint dropped to my mum but she didn’t take it seriously. Her family used to have a pair of two dogs but they were used for like cattle and stuff.

Let’s be honest, if most people went with ur logic then a lot of people who live with parents wouldn’t have pets.

Also after chatting to my GP about it, she said a cat may help with my anxiety and stuff and I really adore cats as well.
That’s just not a good enough reason. bringing home a cat is so disrespectful to your mother. There are other ways to help your anxiety, ways that don’t hurt others. Getting a cat isn’t going to improve a dysfunctional family- it will only increase arguments. I know u want a pet, but u have to be mature and consider what’s best for the animal too. It’s not fair to move an 8 week old kitten into a house and then chuck it out again when ur mum inevitably says no. Animals, especially young animals need a sense of security and permanence. U aren’t doing what’s right for ur family or for the animal, quite frankly it would be really selfish to go ahead with this.
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I think cats are amazing, but it's seriously disrespectful to get one, in her house, if she doesn't want one. Just don't. You will have your own home one day and can make the decision for yourself, but have some respect for your mother and at least talk to her. If she says no, then the answer is no. A cat can ruin your house, scratching furniture and wallpaper, there will be fur everywhere in the summer.. if she's not keen on having a cat, it's not fair to bring one into her house that she's worked hard to pay for.
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Don't bring an animal home without permission. She will likely make you take it back.
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(Original post by Alayna1234)
So me and my sister decided to adopt a kitten from one of her friend who had a cat who had multiple kittens.

We haven’t told our mum, because we know her first reaction is gonna be no. So we’re hoping she’ll get used to the cat.

I mean I know she won’t kick out the at when we bring it but I know she’s gonna be realllllyyyyy mad.

Me and my sister have researched on how to look after a cat and are going to buy all of his food as well toys, litter box scratch post etc today

But in case my mum is very against it, what do y’all think I should do?
How old are you and your sister?
Is there a dad around?
Depends on your mum.

Seems like a risky idea. I would tell your friend that if you cannot rehome it you may be returning it.
Your mum wont like it because you are doing it behind her back.
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How selfish. You have no right to bring a pet into your mum's home without consulting her first. Even if you're willing to pay for everything - food, litter, toys, treats, vaccinations, insurance, trips to the vet, a carrier, replacing furniture the cat may scratch, bite or ruin - it's still not your decision to have one as it's not your house. I love my cats to death but I would never have got them without running it past my partner first.

How old are you? Do you have a job? Are you willing to clean up cat mess? What happens when you/your sister go to uni and have to leave the cat at home? You're just expecting your mum to look after a pet that's not hers. I understand animals can help with anxiety but so do many other things. You're being very irresponsible by not considering your mum's feelings and only thinking of yourselves. And if the worst comes to the worst, you get the cat, bring them home, your mum says "no" and doesn't change her mind, then what? You're gonna have to get rid of the cat which isn't fair on him/her and can have a massively negative affect on them whilst still being so young.
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I get the sense you’ve already decided you’re going to do this regardless of what anyone says but all the same, just don’t do it. Getting a cat when your Mum has explicitly said she doesn’t want one is not a good idea, doing it behind her back and without telling her gives her plenty reason to be angry, it’s just a really dumb and irresponsible idea if you ask me. And as others have said, who will be paying the hundreds of pounds for vaccinations and other treatments? I certainly hope you and your sister work and bring in enough money to actually care for it - pets aren’t cheap, and the vaccinations need to be done early so you’d best have a couple hundred quid set aside already.

The idea that your mum will warm to it and not care after a few days seems pretty unlikely to me, just wait until it starts peeing on her carpets and scratching the furniture, cats may be low maintenance, but kittens certainly aren’t.

All in all, a really dumb idea.
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