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depressedteen121
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So this has took a huge amount of courage to type. For several years I have self harmed and my arms are covered in scars. Seeing as the weather has been getting hotter I am feeling very self conscious of them and was wondering how to hide them better of help in "healing" them or if I should just ignore them and leave them as it's part of my past etc..
No stupid replies please. I don't want to see "you shouldn't of done it in the first place"
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When my family found out I was self-harming, they wouldn't let me cover up my scars so I was forced to expose them to other people.. It felt like torture at the time, but it turned out that almost no one cared. It will be much easier for you if you just learn to accept them as part of you instead of trying to hide them. I'm sorry you went through the things that made you do it and hope you are in a better place now.
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(Original post by depressedteen121)
So this has took a huge amount of courage to type. For several years I have self harmed and my arms are covered in scars. Seeing as the weather has been getting hotter I am feeling very self conscious of them and was wondering how to hide them better of help in "healing" them or if I should just ignore them and leave them as it's part of my past etc..
No stupid replies please. I don't want to see "you shouldn't of done it in the first place"
I used to cover up my scars. I ended up using foundation which helped at times. You can also use bio oil to reduce their appearance. GPs can also refer to specialist centres where they specialise in covering up scars, however, you have to be very severely impacted by your scars and not be self harming anymore.

However, now I am much more confident and don't mind if anyone sees my scars. I do get questions at times, but never has anyone been critical. I work in mental health where traditionally people have been funny about professionals having sh scars, but I've never had any issues.
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Hi, I am so sorry for what you went through and the fact you felt low enough to do that to yourself. I have scarring myself and so does one of my housemates so I understand what you are going through. The most important thing is you are mentally and physically comfortable. If you don't want to see them try buy shirts that are really flowy, baggy and light material that cover your arms but still get lots of air flow. But at the same time it is 100% ok to have them out. Maybe let people you will be hanging out with know the first time, just a little text the night before explaining you have scars and could they not make a big deal out of it. When I first started going out uncovered I would always take a change of clothes that were long so if I felt uncomfortable and wanted to change I could.

Talk to your GP as well because you can get prescription foundation stuff (I think its called derma blend?) which helps cover red marks etc and is waterproof. Depending on how old they are etc then daily using bio oil may help and if they are really raised silicone patches can help reduces this (worth raising this with your GP as they can advise). Unfortunately the best thing for healing is time. My scars aren't visible from far now and are just white but that has taken a good three years of healing.

Although it is scary having them on show it is ok. Most people are too wrapped up in their own lives to notice and if people do stare the likelihood of you ever seeing them again is so small it really doesn't matter. I think I have only ever had one really negative reaction to my scars which was just a rude old lady on a bus. Most people ignore it or give a reassuring smile. People are usually pretty nice. Lots of luck and I hope you can do whatever makes you comfortable and happiest
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Do whatever you feel comfortable with. I've personally never felt uncomfortable with showing my scars and now they've faded to a white-ish colour most of the time I forget they're there, I don't even think about them. Obviously the newer the scar, the darker the colour and the more obvious it is - I'd never judge anyone for wanting to cover up as it's a decision totally down to the individual.

From my experience even if people do notice scars, they generally don't say anything. You're always going to get the odd person who feels entitled to make a comment on your body but know that these people are few and far between and also generally ignorant about mental health and SH.
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I always wore long sleeves to hide them and felt great shame.But since the weather has become unbearably hot I thought I might just go with short sleeves and see what happens even though I feel self conscious and like everyone is starring at them sometimes no one has ever said anything to me.Do what you're comfortable with,it took me a very long time to wear short sleeves.
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bio oil can fade them, foundation can cover them short term. but really, you just have to leave them. people probably will notice, but i doubt they'll say anything - they usually know it's your business and yours only. i've had one close friend who wasn't previously aware query, and no one else, not even people in my family.
it will probably be scary at first, but you'll get used to it more quickly than you expect. it's nothing to be ashamed of, even if it was painful. you're still here, right? that's what's important, and you should be proud of that.
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