My sisters came out Watch

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So two out of my sisters came out and I’m so happy for them. But - I’m not sure what to do now haha.

I just don’t feel comfortable coming out to anyway considering my friends are quite homophobic. But now my sisters keep referring to me as “straight” and saying how much I “love boys” but it’s not so simple.

I’ve been battling my sexuality for so long now and them coming out so easily makes me feel really excited but sick at the same time. I don’t know why I find it so hard but I don’t think I ever can.

What should I do?
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I always actually hoped they’d be on the LGBTQ+ spec too so I didn’t feel so lonely but now that they are, I’m starting to realise that I’m lonelier than ever.

I want to confide with them but with my friends getting mixed in and such. I don’t know what to do.
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So two out of my sisters came out and I’m so happy for them. But - I’m not sure what to do now haha.

I just don’t feel comfortable coming out to anyway considering my friends are quite homophobic. But now my sisters keep referring to me as “straight” and saying how much I “love boys” but it’s not so simple.

I’ve been battling my sexuality for so long now and them coming out so easily makes me feel really excited but sick at the same time. I don’t know why I find it so hard but I don’t think I ever can.

What should I do?
If your homophobic friends say something in presence of your sisters, I get mad and would give them a statement they never forget, if I were you. If your sisters are meaningful people in your life, you intervene at all costs.
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Wait, all 3 of u are gay?
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Haha. Three of us are bisexual. We also have another sister but she’s straight. They all believe I’m straight too but I don’t think I’ll be able to come out.
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Wait, all 3 of u are gay?
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So two out of my sisters came out and I’m so happy for them. But - I’m not sure what to do now haha.

I just don’t feel comfortable coming out to anyway considering my friends are quite homophobic. But now my sisters keep referring to me as “straight” and saying how much I “love boys” but it’s not so simple.

I’ve been battling my sexuality for so long now and them coming out so easily makes me feel really excited but sick at the same time. I don’t know why I find it so hard but I don’t think I ever can.

What should I do?
Snatch the opportunity with both hands to be yourself and come out! Your sisters are a great chance for support.! I hope you realise how fortunate you are! And you don't need fake "friends" anyway. Go for it! Now!
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They're making fun of you because they think you're straight? Maybe point out the irony in what they're doing. e.g. it's pride month and they're mocking someone for their sexuality.
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You’re lucky you definitely have 2 sisters (and likely your parents) that will accept you. Can you come out to them but just say while you’re getting used to being ‘out’, can they not share it with anyone else like your friends until you’re comfortable? For your own happiness and health you’ll have to do it one day or another, don’t let your “friends” keep you from living openly. You should honestly tell your friends that you appreciate them but won’t tolerate homophobia from them.
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Oh oh oh. Our parents are the most homophobic people we’ve ever met lol. They’re always threatening us to never bring back a girlfriend to the house so they haven’t told them that they’re bi.
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You’re lucky you definitely have 2 sisters (and likely your parents) that will accept you. Can you come out to them but just say while you’re getting used to being ‘out’, can they not share it with anyone else like your friends until you’re comfortable? For your own happiness and health you’ll have to do it one day or another, don’t let your “friends” keep you from living openly. You should honestly tell your friends that you appreciate them but won’t tolerate homophobia from them.
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Wait, all 3 of u are gay?
Is it a stretch to claim their parents are a little gay on the side
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If only
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Is it a stretch to claim their parents are a little gay on the side
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You don't need to 'come out' as bisexual.
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Wow you are so lucky! You have your siblings who can support you and understand. My family do not understand me. I have told them I'm not interested in males (I'm female) yet they still think my feelings will change and they are still telling me to look for a Male. It is just sad that noone understands me I'd do anything to have someone in my family who also identifies as LGBT and can understand me! But that's not going to happen sadly

You are really very very lucky!! So you should have no problem coming out! Go do it! And I wish you all the best! Xx
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Tell your sisters in private and ask them to keep this between yourselves. My main piece of advice though is get new friends your other ones are trash
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Sexuality is fluid and multifaceted, it changes over time and can be very difficult to pin down. I wouldn't get too hung up with labels and don't let yourself get pressured into rushing into anything.

"Battling your sexuality" is a very concerning position to be in. Instead I'd recommend quietly embracing, accepting and enjoying is a better place to be. You don't have to declare or shout anything from the rooftops - just don't let it make you miserable - it's a gift that will make you very happy as you get older and more able to make make your own independent decisions.

If it'll make you feel better have a chat to any sister you feel close to and think well respect your wishes in regards to privacy and making your own mind up.

With your friends, if they're good friends they're good friends if they aren't as you grow older you'll soon move on and forget about them.

Quite often young people are taught to be hostile towards people with different backgrounds as they mature and have more experience with different people they tend to realise how awful their old behaviour and views were and move on. Again if you have a close friend that you trust and that you think will respect your wishes, perhaps it might be worth talking to them.

If your at school, collage or university you should have access to support resources like counselling and guidance, it may be worth having a chat with them too.

Anyway it's nice that your sister feel they know their sexuality but that shouldn't force you to have to declare your sexuality or really impact your sexuality at all. Instead keep an open mind, like who and what you like and live your own life. Talking about these issues will likely make you feel better, so I'd recommend reaching out to someone you trust be that a third party expert, a family member or friend.
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