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I used to fear dogs as well, so much so I would run into oncoming traffic. One day, a few years ago now, I decided not to do that. Now I'm able to stay in the same room as dogs, providing they're pretty calm, and I'm fine. Do a similar thing yourself. Go against what your anxiety is telling you to do, and manage the feelings that you feel. It'll get easier the more you do it. You've already done it a few times by the sounds of it!
@pathway that happened to me the other day when I was walking to get my eyebrows done I seen a guy with his dog and he had he’s dog walk with out a leash and I hurried and went accross the street while the cars were coming I’m glad I’m ok honestly .. so your saying in ordered to over come my fear I have to face my fears that’s going to take a long time
This is basically what life is, learning, self improvement and creating your own happiness. Easier for some than for others, but I don't think it's impossible for anyone.
Pathway since you put it that way your right about everything you said and it does get discouraging at most times . When I’m the only one out of my friends that’s fearful and some times my cousins and others laugh at my fears . I wouldn’t do that to anyone if their afraid i use to be afraid of the dark and I over came that too ..I appreciate your advice
I guess, you need to figure out what it is about these situations that makes you scared.
I used to get (and still do, sometimes) terrified of social situations, it creeped into different parts of my life and soon I was scared to leave the house, because ‘people might see me’... *eye roll as self* After getting really worked up that I was wasting my life, I finally thought it through. I had been bullied a lot growing up and had some bad interactions in the past, I had associated people with pain. I literally thought everyone wanted to hurt or humiliate me and that I was less than them.
That didn’t work for me. Oh boy, that did not work indeed.
You see, I always pictured my self as a tough cookie, one who just did what she wanted and cared little for the nitpickings of others. So I joined a sword fighting club and an MMA gym, both filled with strangers and did not let myself back out.
And the words I chanted, and still do when that feeling rises?
“What’s the worst that will happen?” “Will this hurt me?” “Can I handle it?”
Basically, it’s a case of telling yourself that unless the situation you are in threatens your life in anyway, it’s not worth worrying about. Don’t stress, find a way to have fun.
At the time before going into the classes I would have panic attacks and hyper ventilate, sometimes have a wee cry (never were I’d be seen). But I went to every class, and soon what felt like torturous hell became fun.
Being scared isn’t a bad thing, but lying down and letting it own you. That’s a big no no.
The more space you give fear, the more it takes.