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Trigger warning, please watch out for your health and safety!

To keep it, I would like to just pin point the events which happened and have left me having this thought in my mind. I would also like to point out that the positives of the relationship greatly outweigh the negatives.

•The first time we had sexual intercourse I admitted I wasnt 100% ready as it was so early on. After trying to convince me, he resulted to forcing himself inside me (without protection) until finishing. He later on apologised and told me he was ashamed and that wasnt really him.

•After saying I did not want to have sex on another occasion, we both agreed to opt for something different. During this, he once again forced himself inside me but I instantly stopped him and started crying. Things happened and I ended up comforting him.

•I was asleep and was woken up to him fingering me. Obviously, I was infuriated by this. He tried to convince me that he was really asleep and wasnt aware he was doing it. I didnt believe him but I tossed it to the side.

•I woke up to him the following night kissing the lower half of my body and just playing with it. I stopped him once again and he said that he thought I was awake.Again, I was infuriated and upset and didnt believe a word he said. He ended up becoming upset and saying he loved me, didnt want to lose me but he didnt deserve me etc. I forgave him and the next day we went out.

•other instances include that when I say it hurts during sex (Im still relatively new to things, im not used to everything yet) he would ask to finish even though im obviously in pain and not in the mood.

please help me out!
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please call the police
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All I’m seeing is red flags
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he infact is raping you.

Even though he is ur boyfriend i still isnt ok for him to force himself on you or foreplay while your asleep
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Interesting first post.
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Definitely sounds like sexual abuse given you made it clear you didn't want any of it
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(Original post by xo_MariaSillish)
Trigger warning, please watch out for your health and safety!
stopped reading, bad troll attempt
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Sounds like abuse to me
Have You spoken to him about it though. It could be linked to some psychological stuff (don’t know what because I don’t do psychology). Sit down and talk to him about it.
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(Original post by xo_MariaSillish)
Trigger warning, please watch out for your health and safety!

To keep it, I would like to just pin point the events which happened and have left me having this thought in my mind. I would also like to point out that the positives of the relationship greatly outweigh the negatives.

•The first time we had sexual intercourse I admitted I wasnt 100% ready as it was so early on. After trying to convince me, he resulted to forcing himself inside me (without protection) until finishing. He later on apologised and told me he was ashamed and that wasnt really him.

•After saying I did not want to have sex on another occasion, we both agreed to opt for something different. During this, he once again forced himself inside me but I instantly stopped him and started crying. Things happened and I ended up comforting him.

•I was asleep and was woken up to him fingering me. Obviously, I was infuriated by this. He tried to convince me that he was really asleep and wasnt aware he was doing it. I didnt believe him but I tossed it to the side.

•I woke up to him the following night kissing the lower half of my body and just playing with it. I stopped him once again and he said that he thought I was awake.Again, I was infuriated and upset and didnt believe a word he said. He ended up becoming upset and saying he loved me, didnt want to lose me but he didnt deserve me etc. I forgave him and the next day we went out.

•other instances include that when I say it hurts during sex (Im still relatively new to things, im not used to everything yet) he would ask to finish even though im obviously in pain and not in the mood.

please help me out!
Why are you allowing him into your bed so that he can assault you? Can't you tske action against him?
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defo rape but when you say 100% were u about to have sex anyways?
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This post looks likee something I'd see on Quora.
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Are you scared of saying no by any chance?
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Not scared of saying no, I am happy to say no but he disregards it :/
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Are you scared of saying no by any chance?
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I tell him straightaway when i dont want it, regardless of whether it was planned or spontaneous etc.
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This post looks likee something I'd see on Quora.
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defo rape but when you say 100% were u about to have sex anyways?
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Absolutely get what you mean. Its long distance so we usually spend a few nights at each others. Its all happened this week.
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Why are you allowing him into your bed so that he can assault you? Can't you tske action against him?
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Not scared of saying no, I am happy to say no but he disregards it :/
Eeek:/ you should definitely sit down and tell him to stop forcing himself on you and to definitely stop touching you up during your sleep. Crying unfortunately wouldn’t help much with the situation. How old are you both btw?
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Yeah, he says he doesnt know why he does it or that he was asleep/miscommunication on his part etc. He agreed to seeking help.
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Sounds like abuse to me
Have You spoken to him about it though. It could be linked to some psychological stuff (don’t know what because I don’t do psychology). Sit down and talk to him about it.
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I cant talk to anyone i know about it so opted for the online forum lmao
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I have tried that method but it always results in me comforting and reassuring him and forgiving. Hes 18, i'm 17
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Eeek:/ you should definitely sit down and tell him to stop forcing himself on you and to definitely stop touching you up during your sleep. Crying unfortunately wouldn’t help much with the situation. How old are you both btw?
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Seriously, go to the police, that behaviour is not normal and the positives are only him manipulating you into thinking he’s a nice person when he is clearly not
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