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Should I leave my parents?

I live in abusive and a violent household. For 13 years I have gone through so much psychological abuse and physical abuse. I feel miserable living in this house and I don’t feel safe either. I want to leave the house. I really need a break because it’s driving me to insanity. I want to leave but I feel guilty. I know they will be incredibly upset and I feel it’s selfish in some sort of way?

Reply 1

999tigger

Original post by Anonymous

Does that mean you are 13?
If you are being abused it will harm you.
A parent that really loves you should not be harming you.
You have to weight the upset and turmoil involved in leaving your parents v getting to a non abusive environment.
If you are under 16 the only way to leave is via social services and that will involve either hostility from parents and probably leaving.
You have to think whats in your best interests.

How is school? How are your studies? How well are you doing?
The normal escape is to uni and stay there for 3 years, then have a job lined up after.
If you are still in your studies and in danger then you have to contact social services with a view to being taken into care or being put in a half way house/ hostel..

As they are abusing you, then I would be looking to leave. If they did have regret then they would work with social services to stop abusing you and behaving like proper parents. Be aware though they could deny and get angry.

You can find your local council here.
https://www.gov.uk/report-child-abuse-to-local-council
0. Childline 0800 1111
https://www.gov.uk/report-child-abuse
1. http://safeatlast.org.uk/what-we-do.
0800 335 7233
confidential helpline which offers help, advice and practical support to children and young people who are at risk through running away.
2. Papyrus HOPElineUK: 0800 068 41 41
Papyrus-uk.org Support for those dealing with suicide, depression or emotional distress – particularly teenagers and young adults.
3. Samaritans 116 123
4. https://kooth.com/ Online counselling
5. The Mix. 0808 808 4994. Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm. webchat Sunday to Friday from 2pm to 11pm, and Saturday from 8pm to 11pm.

Start thinking about the pros and cons plus understand what your options are, why you need to speak to people, what you want and what might happen. Being abused is not normal and you should look after yourself. Good parents dont abuse you. Take care.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

No I’m 19. I have enough money to move out for the summer but I’m worried I won’t have enough money to move in for university. I’m worried that my parents might follow me to university. They have controlled so much of my life through abuse and I really need to get away.