Why are my friends desperate for me to get into a relationship

Sometimes people feel embarrassed when their friends are single. These are not the kind of people you want to have as your friends - it’s really **** of them to try and push you into another relationship when you’re not ready, just because it makes them look and feel better about themselves.

Having said that, I have the opposite problem. Most of my friends are in long-term relationships and/or jump from one girl to another with very short periods of being single in between. They’ve offered to help set me up with a girl but haven’t followed through cos they’re obviously busy with their own girlfriends. I find that people in relationships can become distanced from their friends very easily and become a lot less supportive. If you’ve been in a relationship for several months but you can see your friend is struggling with women, the natural thing to do is help them. But this logic goes out of the window when you have a girlfriend occupying all your time. I assume your friends have got a similar problem of being irrational towards you because being in relationships has changed their behaviour.

I also want to ask this generally speaking, why are people always pushing their friends to be in a relationship after a tough break up? My friends have been telling me to get into another relationship already. My best friend even sent me a singles vacation trip website where singles go on vacation together. I'm only 23! I have told them to back off a bit but they still insist. It makes me feel like insecure about myself and reminds me of my past relationship the more they try and get me to hop into another one.

I never thought about that before. Why would people feel embarrassed that their friends are single? Sounds ridiculous to me. I get the whole 'I want my friend to find happiness too' but it should be up to the person to decide on that. Thank you for this, I feel like my eyes have been opened about something I hadn't seen there before.