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i'm a mid 20s guy who have been having sex with a few partners or often times random sex with girls, in a bid to help my depression and anxiety. This time last year i was a virgin.

Every sex i have had with girls, i don't *** and i'm now getting worried. Yes i can have sex for basically an hour or two and i still don't ejaculate. It's shocking, i often pretend on the condom that i have *** when really i haven't. It makes me upset and i'm wondering do you guys experience this??

It is noted, i've always had a porn addiction before i started sleeping with women but it doesn't bother me because i'm depressed
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Can you ejaculate when you are masturbating? Are you on antidepressants for you MH issues?
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Can you ejaculate when you are masturbating? Are you on antidepressants for you MH issues?
yeah i ejaculate when i masturbate. I used to be on anti depressants on and off since 17, although i havent used antidepressants in a year
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yeah i ejaculate when i masturbate. I used to be on anti depressants on and off since 17, although i havent used antidepressants in a year
Antidepressants can cause problems with orgasming and ejaculating but if you are off them now, it's probably not due to that. Could be psychological if you can ejaculate when you masturbate - it took my ex a while to be able to do it during sex as he said he needed time to get used to me and to trust me.
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When I'm on anti-depressants, yes, I experience the same problem but as you know that is a very common side effect. You are not currently on them so Idk what to tell you.
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This is sad . I was finally relieved to have meaningless sex only to realise i can't bloody ejaculate.

Gonna have to go to a clinic to get answers as its making me upset
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How often to you masturbate? It could be worth trying not masturbating at all and see if that helps. If not, pop and see your GP.
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How often to you masturbate? It could be worth trying not masturbating at all and see if that helps. If not, pop and see your GP.
I masturbate mostly every day, probably twice a day or more
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I masturbate mostly every day, probably twice a day or more
That's probably your answer then! How many time a day can you expect to ejaculate? Stop masterbating for weeks and you will probably ejaculate during sex. Also stay in the moment when you are having sex, think about what you are doung and enjoying, you will probably ejaculate especially if you are patient as well.
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This is sad . I was finally relieved to have meaningless sex only to realise i can't bloody ejaculate.

Gonna have to go to a clinic to get answers as its making me upset
I think the answer is in this post. I really think that the better scenario to be having sex is in a trusting relationship with a regular partner. You each get used to what each other likes. If you are going out and pulling random lasses after a skinful then the alcohol itself makes it harder to ejaculate. Add in the anxiety of a new person in an unfamiliar location. Add in your relative inexperience. Then throw in the psychological aspect of worrying about not finishing.

If you get a girlfriend (or FWB), get to know each other, do it sober and just enjoy the sex and not worry about the ending then it will happen. Get into the moment.

Honestly lots of guys masturbate multiple times per day and have no trouble orgasming during intercourse. That seems to be a fixation of this particular website. Something to try if my suggestions don't work, but I feel not the right starting point.
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That's probably your answer then! How many time a day can you expect to ejaculate? Stop masterbating for weeks and you will probably ejaculate during sex. Also stay in the moment when you are having sex, think about what you are doung and enjoying, you will probably ejaculate especially if you are patient as well.
But I’m so addicted to porn, it’s hard. I am trying to stop it and I will go without it for two weeks
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But I’m so addicted to porn, it’s hard. I am trying to stop it and I will go without it for two weeks
Yes, get busy distracting yourself from both porn and masterbating so that your testes get a chance to make semen. Then when you have sex you will have semen to ejaculate! Take up 2 or 3 more hobbies, study more etc.. use up your time a bit more.
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That's probably your answer then! How many time a day can you expect to ejaculate? Stop masterbating for weeks and you will probably ejaculate during sex. Also stay in the moment when you are having sex, think about what you are doung and enjoying, you will probably ejaculate especially if you are patient as well.
No it is not the answer, 2-3 times a day is normal if you aren't busy. If doing it caused you to last for hours in bed afterwards, 100% of male teenagers would never have an orgasm during sex.
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No it is not the answer, 2-3 times a day is normal if you aren't busy. If doing it caused you to last for hours in bed afterwards, 100% of male teenagers would never have an orgasm during sex.
It depends on what you want. If you want to ejaculate during sex then masterbating to ejaculation 3 times a day will make it difficult for you to ejaculate during sex
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It depends on what you want. If you want to ejaculate during sex then masterbating to ejaculation 3 times a day will make it difficult for you to ejaculate during sex
There's difficult and then there's unable to ejaculate after 2 hours of ****ing.
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But I’m so addicted to porn, it’s hard. I am trying to stop it and I will go without it for two weeks
No porn, full stop. Also if you want to masturbate, you need to train your brain not to get aroused only by internet images/videos.
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whats death grip?
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But I’m so addicted to porn, it’s hard. I am trying to stop it and I will go without it for two weeks
Take cold showers whenever you want to watch it - sounds ridiculous but people claim it's the best option. Hope this helps
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I masturbate mostly every day, probably twice a day or more
Porn usage and desensitisation can worsen it. If you try avoiding masturbation for like a week then I definitely feel like you'd have no problem at all.
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Take cold showers whenever you want to watch it - sounds ridiculous but people claim it's the best option. Hope this helps
Nah, that doesn't work. I was taking cold showers for a month when i was in Nigeria (there's no water in Nigeria) and i would **** heavily every night. I don't know what to do, its an addiction
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