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Hi. I would like to ask that only guys out there reply to this one because I want to hear a guy's point of view on this matter.
My boyfriend is watching porn frequently. I recently caught him watching porn while i was asleep. It really hurt my feelings that i saw he was searching for particular movie stars and that he didn't wake me up if he was horny. Is it something that all guys do? Especially when their girlfriend is sleeping? Because i seem to have lost my sleep over it since i found out. I find it disrespectful especially when done while I'm in the same house. I would please like to hear your replies and please explain if you think I'm overreacting.
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Yes to doing it on the regular, not waking any live-in GFs up, and searching for particulars. I wouldn't say "especially" while they're sleeping though. For me, it was while we were working different shift patterns and I'd have the place to myself.
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Hi. I would like to ask that only guys out there reply to this one because I want to hear a guy's point of view on this matter.
My boyfriend is watching porn frequently. I recently caught him watching porn while i was asleep. It really hurt my feelings that i saw he was searching for particular movie stars and that he didn't wake me up if he was horny. Is it something that all guys do? Especially when their girlfriend is sleeping? Because i seem to have lost my sleep over it since i found out. I find it disrespectful especially when done while I'm in the same house. I would please like to hear your replies and please explain if you think I'm overreacting.
Men watch porn and masturbate. It's perfectly healthy and isn't a slight against you.

You're getting upset over something that's equivalent to him going and getting a bag of crisps rather than wake up and make a meal.
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porn is (apparently) very addictive

best to steer away imo
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As the above user stated, there's nothing wrong with watching porn. It doesn't matter if that individual is in a relationship or not, it has nothing to do with it.

Yes, you're overreacting.
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You're not overreacting as other users have stated. I completely understand that porn can become a problem in relationships. If I were you I'd confront your bf about and have a talk with him.

And no, it's not something that all guys do as not all guys watch porn or masturbate.
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You're not overreacting as other users have stated. I completely understand that porn can become a problem in relationships. If I were you I'd confront your bf about and have a talk with him.

And no, it's not something that all guys do as not all guys watch porn or masturbate.
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Hi. I would like to ask that only guys out there reply to this one because I want to hear a guy's point of view on this matter.
My boyfriend is watching porn frequently. I recently caught him watching porn while i was asleep. It really hurt my feelings that i saw he was searching for particular movie stars and that he didn't wake me up if he was horny. Is it something that all guys do? Especially when their girlfriend is sleeping? Because i seem to have lost my sleep over it since i found out. I find it disrespectful especially when done while I'm in the same house. I would please like to hear your replies and please explain if you think I'm overreacting.
What it means is that the guy likes sex and that you both need to have more explicit conversations about sex and what you both think a satifying sex life is. There is no point in you being upset. Talk openly about your feelings about porn and what you both may or may not get out of it. Do you inderstand each other's sexual needs? Suppose he wants sex 8-10 times a week? Are yiu up for it? and also you di realise that guys can learn good things from porn as well? eg how to do cunnilingus by watching lesbian porn as a guy? if this shocks you or surprises you then it shows that you need deeper convos with your boyfriend. And yes guys who watch porn can still love their girlfriends and treat them with total respect!
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Why would you want to be disturbed from your sleep for sex? That would have been disrespectful for him to do!
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So the fact that he did it while i was in the same house isn't something to be bothered about?
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You're idiosyncratic if you think pornorgraphy is perfectly healthy. Very foolish
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Men watch porn and masturbate. It's perfectly healthy and isn't a slight against you.

You're getting upset over something that's equivalent to him going and getting a bag of crisps rather than wake up and make a meal.
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Pornography is a drug - and it's free and easily accessible. Talk to him about how it makes you feel, and tell him it's you or porn.
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So the fact that he did it while i was in the same house isn't something to be bothered about?
Would it have made any difference if you were out? Do you think porn is always bad?
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He might have felt like it'd be rude to wake you. As much as I like sex as a guy, if a girl woke me up for it I'd be fuming. Man needs his sleep. Suppose he thinks sleep is just as important and therefore assumed you wouldn't want to be woken. If you tell him that if he feels horny in the night and wants sex then it's okay to wake you (assuming it is actually okay, I get that impression from your post - if not then you should be able to understand why he didn't wake you lol).
As for him watching porn generally when sex with you isn't on the cards, it's perfectly normal, you can't always have sex when you want to which is why people masturbate. It's also perfectly normal to have celebrity crushes.

Also to those saying porn is unhealthy, it's not inherently unhealthy - obviously if it's causing negative impacts on your life then it's a problem, for example in OP's case if it meant you were having less sex because he was favouring masturbation then something may be up. Generally, though, it can be consumed healthily. Saying it's potentially harmful and addictive and therefore you should never consume it is nonsense. Many things in life are potentially addictive, doesn't mean everyone's going to suffer from an addiction with them. Most of us have adequate self control to have these things complement our lives rather than negatively impact them.
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Would it have made any difference if you were out? Do you think porn is always bad?
I just find it a bit disrespectful when the other person is sleeping in the same room.
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I just find it a bit disrespectful when the other person is sleeping in the same room.
In the same room, I agree disrespectful. The guy using porn is fine. Almost all guys do it, just not all will admit to doing it. Sometimes it's just nice to have an orgasm without all the effort that goes into sex, and that's not a reflection on the girl. Most women also masturbate. All's good.

I do know for a fact that if I woke my other half for sex, that's the last thing I'd be getting!
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Probably he didn’t wanna wake you up; because it’s rude af to wake someone up for anything specially intercourse. As it’s something should be two-sided not one-sided.
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I just find it a bit disrespectful when the other person is sleeping in the same room.
Do you want him to look at porn at all? Why is it disrespectful for him to do what he did?
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It doesn't bother me as much as i thought it would (him watching porn). It's just that i feel like i have to compare with the actors in the videos and makes me feel quite insecure.
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Do you want him to look at porn at all? Why is it disrespectful for him to do what he did?
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