How do I get over him?Watch
When I had a really **** breakup with my first love, I tried to distract myself through my hobbies but it was alright but it was my friends that helped me through it and mostly time. Then those hobbies were actually helpful afterwards as it became a thing which helped me forgot and I actually enjoyed. I never gotten over him but eventually i moved on.
It’ll take time but just keep trying different things until it starts to get better so don’t think about him as it’ll hurt you and focus on yourself. You broke up and you can’t change his mind now so you have to be brave and go through this long gruelling process. It will be hard but you can do it. Good luckkkkk.
What you should never do is try to contact him, whether it is to ask for an explanation or try to resolve issues in the hopes of getting back together, right after you breakup. As you rightfully pointed out, being friends at a crucial time like this will only conflate romantic feelings with platonic ones; lulling you into a false sense of security, as you'll trick yourself into believing that you two are still together.
You need to accept that sometimes, even the most perfect relationships don't work out. Not necessarily due to you or him, but simply because you two are, at your core, not compatible. You could both be amazing and still not have a successful relationship, and that is 100% ok. What you must not do is blame yourself for the way things turned out, because in the end, a relationship it is a two way street. He could very well love you as a person, but feel as though things aren't right for him. In a way, he's doing you a favour. There's no doubt you would have been even more hurt if he pretended that everything was ok.
Honestly it's a constant uphill battle until you forget about him. Get rid of photos and videos. Unfollow or block him on all of your social media so that you're not stalking his page. Of course, you will still have to see him when you get back to uni, which is somewhat inconvenient, but remind yourself to always keep a respectful distance from him. Whenever you're reminded of him, remember why you broke up. He does not want to be with you. If he did, you guys wouldn't have broken up. It is over. If need be, ask your friends to be around you at all times and to steer you away from situations where you could run into him. The sooner you let go, the better. It doesn't mean that you guys can't be friends in the future, but for now, you need to focus on getting yourself back into shape mentally.
Lastly, remind yourself that he is not the only one out there. It's easy to feel as though you will never run into someone better, but that's a huge lie. In the end, he is obviously not the one, as things didn't work out. There are over 7 billion people on Earth. While I know you cannot date every one of them, it still leaves a huge number of people who will match your preferences and exceed your ex's qualities.
Wishing you the best xxx