My mom is always starting arguments with me over small things
How can I deal with this? Every time I ask her why she's always angry at me and what her problem is she says her problem is me. We have started arguing almost everyday now. I have two younger siblings and most the time she doesn't argue with them that often.
Reply 1
If your mother yells at you, keep quiet and smile.
Do as she tells you to, and preserve that respect, over time she will realise that there is no reason to shout.
The reason why she shouts at you and in fact continues to, is due to your urge to retaliate and shout back at her, which is disrespect.
Do as she tells you to, and preserve that respect, over time she will realise that there is no reason to shout.
The reason why she shouts at you and in fact continues to, is due to your urge to retaliate and shout back at her, which is disrespect.
Reply 2
Original post by yousman3357
If your mother yells at you, keep quiet and smile.
Do as she tells you to, and preserve that respect, over time she will realise that there is no reason to shout.
The reason why she shouts at you and in fact continues to, is due to your urge to retaliate and shout back at her, which is disrespect.
Do as she tells you to, and preserve that respect, over time she will realise that there is no reason to shout.
The reason why she shouts at you and in fact continues to, is due to your urge to retaliate and shout back at her, which is disrespect.
Yes OP act like a doormat and let her walk all over you...
I've never heard such bad advice in my life. If someone is verbally abusing you for no reason (or for any reason in fact) you don't just let them walk all over you. And telling someone they're getting yelled at for "your urge to retaliate" makes no sense, simply having an urge doesn't make you disrespectful, making an ill-informed post giving blatantly wrong advice is.
Original post by yousman3357
If your mother yells at you, keep quiet and smile.
Do as she tells you to, and preserve that respect, over time she will realise that there is no reason to shout.
The reason why she shouts at you and in fact continues to, is due to your urge to retaliate and shout back at her, which is disrespect.
Do as she tells you to, and preserve that respect, over time she will realise that there is no reason to shout.
The reason why she shouts at you and in fact continues to, is due to your urge to retaliate and shout back at her, which is disrespect.
Reply 4
Hmmm.... you think showing disrespect and shouting back at her is the answer ?
Keeping calm and collective will give you time to think and answer her with a more respectful tone.
Keeping calm and collective will give you time to think and answer her with a more respectful tone.
She needs to understand that her anger can't be resolved unless you know which particular actions, attitudes, behaviours of yours anger her. Ask her what, specifically, about yourself is proving to be problematic. The main idea is to make it clear to her that the only way she'll solve her emotional conflict is by having a rational discussion with you.
On a separate note, less direct, long-term solutions include showing your love now and then (through words, chores, etc.) and being more open with her about how you're doing in general, both of which will help her see things from your perspective more. Small things like keeping tidy, helping out where you can, and working/studying hard can also help her feel more balance in her relationship with you.
Good luck!
On a separate note, less direct, long-term solutions include showing your love now and then (through words, chores, etc.) and being more open with her about how you're doing in general, both of which will help her see things from your perspective more. Small things like keeping tidy, helping out where you can, and working/studying hard can also help her feel more balance in her relationship with you.
Good luck!
(edited 5 years ago)
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
How can I deal with this? Every time I ask her why she's always angry at me and what her problem is she says her problem is me. We have started arguing almost everyday now. I have two younger siblings and most the time she doesn't argue with them that often.
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Reply 7
Original post by yousman3357
Hmmm.... you think showing disrespect and shouting back at her is the answer ?
Keeping calm and collective will give you time to think and answer her with a more respectful tone.
Keeping calm and collective will give you time to think and answer her with a more respectful tone.
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