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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...-ceremony.html

i wish she said no oh wait she probably never even got a chance. pile of ****.
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Stopped reading at "feminist campaigners said he'd made the day about his own ego". Daily Mail have had some finer headline moments. Oh wait...
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I don't get what the problem is? Why are you being disrespectful and judgmental of someone you don't even know and going by this specific article, she was happy with it.
(Original post by angel.xo)
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...-ceremony.html

i wish she said no oh wait she probably never even got a chance. pile of ****.
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I don't get what the problem is? Why are you being disrespectful and judgmental of someone you don't even know and going by this specific article, she was happy with it.
you don't understand what the problem is because your mind is clouded with patriarchal norms.
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The woman was over the moon with the proposal. He did the right thing.
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(Original post by angel.xo)
you don't understand what the problem is because your mind is clouded with patriarchal norms.
Instead of accusing them of being clouded with "patriarchal norms" with no explanation, why don't you explain why they are wrong??
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This has conjured many complex feelings in me.

On the one hand, if she's happy with it, no one should be trying to tell her she should feel otherwise. Proposals at Graduations are not uncommon.

On the other hand, I see what they mean when they say he is stealing her thunder. The day is then no longer about her, but about him and their engagement. It also seems like she wasn't expecting it, which is bad for a wedding. It should be a long discussed issue, and you should both essentially have decided you are marrying together, before you do any sort of public proposal. There are a lot of issues to take into account.

On the other other hand the criticism passes from meaningful feminist discourse to disaffected bitterness. 'Public declarations of love smack of egotism and a need for the party making the fuss to be acknowledged and given a round of applause (exactly what happened here). This does not bode well for the relationship.' I mean, come on? Get over yourself. You don't sound enlightened, you sound bitter and with your head up your own ass.
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(Original post by vicvic38)
This has conjured many complex feelings in me.

On the one hand, if she's happy with it, no one should be trying to tell her she should feel otherwise. Proposals at Graduations are not uncommon.

On the other hand, I see what they mean when they say he is stealing her thunder. The day is then no longer about her, but about him and their engagement. It also seems like she wasn't expecting it, which is bad for a wedding. It should be a long discussed issue, and you should both essentially have decided you are marrying together, before you do any sort of public proposal. There are a lot of issues to take into account.

On the other other hand the criticism passes from meaningful feminist discourse to disaffected bitterness. 'Public declarations of love smack of egotism and a need for the party making the fuss to be acknowledged and given a round of applause (exactly what happened here). This does not bode well for the relationship.' I mean, come on? Get over yourself. You don't sound enlightened, you sound bitter and with your head up your own ass.
this is what i mean.

shes happy but its the actual principle of the day and how hes basically stole it from her. it was the day she graduates, all her hard work and sacrifice is being reduced to a ****ing proposal. also shes probably swamped in emotion as it is and then he proposes. he probably never thought this through.
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Feminists look for a problem in everything a man does. Non story.
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I don't get what makes this "bad". Her graduation - and proposal is traditionally more about the woman than the man. Surely, for a woman, being proposed to on your graduation day wouldn't be such a terrible thing?
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I don't get what makes this "bad". Her graduation - and proposal is traditionally more about the woman than the man. Surely, for a woman, being proposed to on your graduation day wouldn't be such a terrible thing?
no its not. its about his stupid ego and her thanking him for a ring. the day becomes about his ugly ass ego not her years of sacrifice, hard work and dedication.
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She was delighted with it and doesn't see a problem, end of. Radical feminists yet again trying to dictate how all women should feel in every situation. Maybe they should stick to dying their hair every colour under the sun instead of sticking their noses into a proposal that the woman has said she was pleased by.
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He didn’t make the day about him. The people *****ing about it have.
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being proposed to on your graduation day wouldn't be such a terrible thing?
She is obviously happy, but nobody should rush into doing this without thought as there are many considerattions to take account of.

First of all, a public proposal automatically puts significant pressure on its recipient to say 'yes' to avoid embarrassment and censure. This ain't good and, in the worst case scenario, is controlling behaviour.

Secondly, there is the aspect that she has only one occcasion to remember rather than two.

Thirdly, is she in a good state to make such a vital decision?

Fourthly, of course, the proposer is barging in to 'her moment'. If they split later she may well consider he spoiled it.

In this case they are happy so criticism seems to have gone too far but I would urge any would-be public proposer to think again and to do it privately. However, the vanity of people, these days, seems insatiable.
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No it isn't. I am open minded and if I was in love with my childhood sweetheart and she proposed to me during my graduation I would be happy because to me, it would be an even more amazing day in my life. Anyway if I like the patriarchal norms, what is it to you? You don't own my body or the way I think and at the end of the day you still get your certificate and you still have the knowledge from the journey and the whole ceremony to some people could be considered materialistic and not all that important.

Though you sound like a troll so I'm just leaving this comment here to explain my reasoning.
(Original post by angel.xo)
you don't understand what the problem is because your mind is clouded with patriarchal norms.
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(Original post by angel.xo)
this is what i mean.

shes happy but its the actual principle of the day and how hes basically stole it from her. it was the day she graduates, all her hard work and sacrifice is being reduced to a ****ing proposal. also shes probably swamped in emotion as it is and then he proposes. he probably never thought this through.
Someone needs to calm down...
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No it isn't. I am open minded and if I was in love with my childhood sweetheart and she proposed to me during my graduation I would be happy because to me, it would be an even more amazing day in my life. Anyway if I like the patriarchal norms, what is it to you? You don't own my body or the way I think and at the end of the day you still get your certificate and you still have the knowledge from the journey and the whole ceremony to some people could be considered materialistic and not all that important.

Though you sound like a troll so I'm just leaving this comment here to explain my reasoning.
>calls himself open minded
>sees no issue liking patriarchal norms

makes sense yeah i'm a troll now stop quoting me.
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Someone needs to calm down...
is this what you say to girls who have a genuine reason to be angry at you? doesn't work with me luv.
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I'm not going to argue with someone who is trying to be disrespectful to other people as it won't get other of us anywhere though I feel sorry for you, the anger you have at men. I hope you can change your ways because once you do, you'll be so much happier and better off instead of judging random strangers that you have never met before.
(Original post by angel.xo)
>calls himself open minded
>sees no issue liking patriarchal norms

makes sense yeah i'm a troll now stop quoting me.
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Thats so cute!! :lovedup:


...but its kinda controlling ngl
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