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Is this depression or just abuse of old people?

So a member of my family seems a little out of control recently. He is under 18, but was arrested a few months ago for throwing a bottle of water at my Grandad. He only escaped prosecution as the charges were dropped given that my Grandad very sadly passed away recently due to natural causes.My grandparents (particularly my nana) have raised him and absolutely spoilt him - he has always has the best, and everything he wanted.However, despite my grandad’s recent passing, he still treats my nana appallingly. He calls her a whore and tells her repeatedly to **** off is she asks him to tidy his room. He is physically aggressive and has smashed tables, windows and doors at my grandparents house.He didn’t speak to my Grandad for over a year before he died after he smashed a window at his house with a stone.Is there anything that I can say to him that will try to get him to stop getting so angry?This morning, my nana had a breakdown and was on the point of tears with it all. He doesn’t really leave the house and spends much of his time on the internet - often until 5am and then sleeping throughout the day until 4pm. He’s not really even leaving the house anymore, despite consistent encouragement from family members.Family members have booked GP appointments for him, but he won’t go or engage. I am not sure if he is going through genuine depression, or is his behaviour just abusive? He was taken to A and E before during a breakdown (where he smashed a table), however, he professed that he was fine when services tried to follow up on things.Is there anything that can be said to him before he either gets himself into serious criminal trouble, or pushes my nana to a breakdown?

Disgraceful.

recently?when did this happen and do you know how.I would send his ass of to the GP if I were you despite what he says.He needs some anger management help

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londonmyst

Sounds like he's a habitual thug who needs a visit from the police.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by londonmyst

Sounds like he's a habitual thug who needs a visit from the police.

Original post by tamil fever

recently?when did this happen and do you know how.I would send his ass of to the GP if I were you despite what he says.He needs some anger management help

Thanks everyone. I had an idea that this would be the main response. I personally feel pretty upset that the only reason that the case against him for assaulting my Grandad was dropped because he passed away (of natural causes).

I was was going to call them this morning when he picked up a knife and threatened to harm himself, however my nana told me not to, as she has went through all of this before so many times with him that she knew he wasn’t really going to harm himself. I think it would break her heart if it came to that, as she has gave him so much over the years.

Me and my mum visited the Urgent Care Centre today on his behalf. They couldn’t do anything except direct us to book an urgent appointment with his GP, who she said had a duty of care to come out and see him, and to call 999 straight away if anything like what happened this morning repeated.

He he has had so many family members support him and help him through the rough patch he is going through. My mum even booked him a double GP appointment so he had plenty of time to talk, but he refused to attend.

I have offered to take him out for days away, but it is very difficult getting him out of the house and off of the internet. It seems as if he is addicted to the internet. The incident with my Grandad a few months ago because my Grandad turned off the WiFi in his house at 3am in the morning.

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Anonymous #1

Is there any tips or advice for helping someone break, what appears to be, a very serious addiction to the internet? He says that he is speaking to people on various different time zones, meaning that he is staying up all night until 5-6am and then sleeping all day until 4pm, when he has dinner and goes back online. It is very difficult for any family member to get him out of the house. I have taken him to places like the cinema recently, and went for walks with him, but he always goes straight back on the computer when he gets back in.

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olivia.francesca

Defiantly sounds like he has something wrong with him but this is not depression. Not only go to a mental health specialist but I’d report him to the police

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username3477548

Maybe just try talking to him. Ask him, straight to the point. Be direct with him, and see what he says. Dont ask him in an accusing way, just ask him. Let me know if u do this and how it goes xxx