fall for every guy I talk to

I do have a sort of mental list of things I would like in a guy but tbh most (nice) guys fit into those categories really

Make a written list, be specific about what you are looking for and be sure to include at least three things that you absolutely DON'T want in a boyfriend.
Then you can decide on the most suitable places where you are likely to find a guy that ticks all your boxes for what you want.
Decide: would you date a guy who eats meat, who has never been to uni, who has a firm preference about no deal brexit/second referendum.

Then focus on the opportunities to meet a guy who ticks all your boxes, look at what they seem to be looking for in a girlfriend and make sure you match most of what they want.
If you don't- you can either change your mind about them or change yourself to meet their expectations.
Good luck!

so basically I'm so so so lonely and I've been struggling with it so much. while I know it's not really the case, I feel like my whole life would just be so much better if I had a nice boyfriend. I've only ever had two boyfriends (one was long distance like 3 years ago which didn't last long or end well, and the other was a guy I liked for a year who asked me out and then dumped me 2 days later because I was "too awkward"). I feel so ugly and just unlovable, so any guy who is actually willing to talk to me or message me, I end up falling HARD for. I hate this about myself because it's pretty much objectifying guys as just someone to have a relationship with and it's awful, but I can't stop myself from doing it.

how can I accept that I'm just going to be single forever when all I want in the world is a boyfriend?

oh sorry I wasn't the original poster lol, I just thought I'd have some input because I thought perhaps the OP could relate to that

good looks are not the be all/end all, especially as you get older. few quality dudes will settle for a good looking girlfriend/wife with no goals and no brains, so if you think good looks guarantees a relationship or solves everything it does not

i think the problem is you say 'all i want in the world is a boyfriend' - you've put too much importance on this. i understand wanting to be in a relationship but if you're waiting for one to make you happy you will make yourself miserable and tbh not very attractive to a potential partner.

guys don't generally like girls for long if they are too easy to get, so if you're falling for every guy and they know that you're just shooting yourself in the foot. where do you generally meet people btw?

also I generally meet ppl through mutual friends or school

You are at school and think you are ugly and unlovable yet you have had a boyfriend already and been on a date/sort of had another boyfriend.
I'm at uni and know people (myself included) who haven't even been on a date or ever had a boyfriend and they don't think the same as you about themselves
Clearly people do like you or you wouldn't have been in a relationship
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and acting desperate for a relationship
Focus on yourself and be happy with who you are

Make a written list, be specific about what you are looking for and be sure to include at least three things that you absolutely DON'T want in a boyfriend.
Then you can decide on the most suitable places where you are likely to find a guy that ticks all your boxes for what you want.
Decide: would you date a guy who eats meat, who has never been to uni, who has a firm preference about no deal brexit/second referendum.

Then focus on the opportunities to meet a guy who ticks all your boxes, look at what they seem to be looking for in a girlfriend and make sure you match most of what they want.
If you don't- you can either change your mind about them or change yourself to meet their expectations.
Good luck!

that was 3 years ago, it wasn't serious and he barely even knew what I looked like. pretty sure the other guy only dated me out of pity, and again, it was TWO days. I'm in the second year of sixth form.

how do I get out of that thinking pattern tho?

also I generally meet ppl through mutual friends or school

The point is it is someone which is more than others.
Plus you are in sixth form, like stop looking for pity.
You are not ugly. Work on focusing on yourself and self-confidence. How can you expect someone to fall for you or love you if you don't love yourself?

Dumb advice. Beggars cant be choosers. Who cares if he goes to the gym or how he voted in the elections. Seriously. The more specific you get the less chances you have.

I know many people who openly refuse to date anyone who has ever voted for the bnp or ukip.
Quite a few others who say they will never date anyone who admits having voted for either: jeremy corbyn, jacob rees-mogg, snp or remain.
I won't date guys who go to the gym regularly, like hardcore porn or support britain first.

Yes and how are their love lives going?
Its all right if you're attractive. If youre ugly you just take what you can get.

Going from what I see- they go on plenty of dates with like-minded individuals.
Half of them are average looking, one quarter very good looking and the rest quite unattractive looking.
I'm average looking, 5'1 and have 20k in credit card debt- still get plenty of employed, law abiding guys asking me out.

I think you are confusing being average looking or not at all physically attractive with being desperate.
Desperation will scare off most reasonable people and only attract predators looking for a vulnerable target to prey on.
Nobody should feel that they have no other option but to date a habitual criminal or someone whose politics/hobbies nauseate them.
I didn't realise that OP was still at school.