Opening up to someone?

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Alice_G

The thing is, there is one person in particular that I want to open up to (as well as in general) but I have spoken to him so much on facebook that wehn I see him in the flesh I have ran out of things to say We have similar msuic tatses, but I have already talked about that! Also, I'm so used to talking about school work that when I do open up to someone, I usually just droan on about that and how daunting uni is, my loew self-esteem, blah blah blah.

Any more advice?

Alice_G

Hmm, well if you struggling to find different things to talk about, you could try looking through the TSR forums for ideas. People start threads on anything and everything, so if you look through them you can get some good ideas for conversation starters. You might wanna stay way from the more serious topics, but look through Chat, General Discussion, Sport, Entertainment, Travel etc...just a thought.

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Desperate Prayer

Alice_G

Hi all,
At the moment, I just cannot seem to open up to people. I am shy anyway, but I started to get more confident, and now it's going.
How long does it take for you to open up to people??
What's more for years, all I have been able to talk about is school work and such like, so now I find it really hard to know what to talk about.

Alice_G

Hello! well, Ill lend you my experience.

I was always quite shy myself, at least to new people, when I was around people I knew I was more than fine. But I wasnt particularly outgoing until I reached maybe 16, and since then its increased over time.
I think a lot has it to do with age, you get more confident in yourself, and start to real that you do actually have a lot to offer too, even if you cant see it yourself. When I was young, I struggled with conversation too, but practice really does make perfect. The greater your range of interests, the more likely you will have to talk about something also.

Whereas it used to take me quite a few meetings to really open up, depending on the person It can be from the first meeting, the second...anything really - if I dont like them by the third, chances are I never will.

I wish you luck and happy socialising in the future :smile:

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Juggy123

lol well ill give you guys a few tips and experiences even though im no joey myself.
1) Naturally as you grow older youll gain more confidence i.e applying for jobs creating job relationships.
2) alcohol does help
3) you need to have a hobby a desire in order to make yourself interesting (football does help)
4) If your happy with yourself that wud be a good start